Fair enough

I think everyone makes some great points on here, for and against the topic. I am proud that there are so many willing to speak up and have a normal discussion about something so personal with minimal "attacks". Good job everyone...

P.S. I have snow, so I am super happy tonite!! lol

With the way life, role models and the media are these days it will only get harder for everyone including some children to practice abstinence. Its worth the wait and gives you and your partner peace of mind, knowing you are free of STI(d)'s and that your not just giving it up to anyone when your lonely or in an alternate state of mind. If you want to practice abstinence dont give in to peer pressure and the world around you.

My thoughts exactly and welcome to the site!

Dang it, it snowed in your town? I'm so jealous! It snows here literally once a year. >.<

I agree with what you said. Normally online conversations aren't conversations at all, especially when involving a slightly controversial topic. They usually turn into arguments. But everyone in this topic has kept a good attitude and go about expressing their views the right way. =D Yay!

If a partner would like a peace of mind about being std free the only way anyone would know for sure is to be tested. Look the biggest part about this is, do you believe the other partner. The only person who will ever truly know is the virgin. STDs can also be transmitted in other ways as well without ever engaging in a sexual activity. Just FYI. I don't believe you should look down on someone because they're infected with an incurable disease. That's kind of pathetic from my perspective.

A shirtless man =athletic.. Last I checked athletes aren't judged by how they look, rather they're judged by what they're capable of doing. You without a shirt doesn't mean you're athletic at all. Slaves never wore shirts, were built like brickhouses but I guarentee they wouldn't be able to run a marathon, they wouldn't be able to catch a football or swim in the olympics... Athleticism is the ability to do a certain skill or many types of skills, but it doesn't mean you have to look a certain way to do it. I was captain of my freshman swimming squad, I was the fastest swimmer in my freshman class. I didn't look like an athlete. I had nice little belly, I was almost overweight by oh 2-3 lbs or so at the time for my height. That doesn't mean I wouldn't kick your ass at swimming though. I would've been the better athlete even though I didn't look physically appealling.

I don't look at guys nor do I look at guys with their shirts off... My guess is I'm probably the smallest framed guy of this board, I will outswim probably everyone on this board, and I survived navy bootcamp, as well as 2 years in the service. I don't look like I am an athlete, but I can run. I can probably do more push ups in a row than you but that doesn't mean that I look good while doing it. With athletes, it's all about heart and how much they want something. It has very little to do with how good you look in the mirror.

I Think it a joke because anyone 1 can say there not doin to deed when they still are and women really kinda draw to the **** when u tell em ur all pure . hahhahahhahhHhhhHHaa

...huh?

Dude, my brother is older then you are my young.. *swallows* christian.. friend. and he's still a virgin *shrugs* Nothing wrong with it at least your willing to wait until YOUR ready.

no, just hibernating.
actually, sex, great mind blowing SEX, as much as she likes...
creative SEX, tantric inspired protracted insatiable SEX,
loving caring emotionally exhausting SEX

this is the greatest gift!



almost time for my shower!

Abstinence isn't dead, but it doesn't work. Man was meant to be full of lust. It's who we are. It's WHAT we are.

You can't deny your ancestry. Even the Bible is full of sex and lust. Priests are telling couples to sleep together to make sure they're sexually compatible before marriage.

If you want to wait, then more power to you. I hope you're able to meet someone who shares your view. Me personally... I don't wait. Call it "ego" or "sin" or whatever label you want to put on it. When it's all said and done, how many people you have sex with isn't going to matter. We'll be somewhere warm. Some of us just might be in a warmer environment. :D

OG

I disagree. While you may not be able to deny your hormonal urges, desires, and needs, other people simply just either can deny them, or don't have them at all. Deny this as you will, but it's the truth.

Sometimes abstinence doesn't even need to involve morals or religion. =/

There are ups and downs to abstinence and premartial sex, as pointed out numerous times throughout the thread.
It is up to you whether or not it is worth it and if you can really do it. It is a challenge in this day and age to maintain an abstinent lifestyle due to social and media based pressures. From what I hear, it can be worth it, while other times it was not worth it.
The downside, that I have heard, is that some people who wait have a tendency to be more traditional. In traditional families, both are virgins at marriage, have kids, live happily ever after. Well, due to not being sexually active, people don't look into the possibility of being sterile. So when that 'perfect' traditional family idea gets ruined by infertility, it breaks the marriage apart.
On the lighter note, some people who wait end up with stronger bonds to their spouse, have a great sex and family life.

Personally, I had planned on waiting until marriage but things changed. I got put in a position I wasn't ready for and made a decision. That one decision where I said yes to losing my virginity changed my entire world.
Yet where would I be if I had said no? Who would I be? Who would my friends be?
It really did impact my life dramatically, I was 16 at the time it happened, and I feel like I made the right decision because I have grown into a person that I'm satisfied with.

All 'first times' are different; emotionally, physically and mentally. The only thing you can really do is hope for the best and do what you feel is right for you.

"Laugh without holding back and cry without regrets."

I completely agree. Abstinence is extremely important to me and it's so hard to find someone who feels the same way.

i respect people's opinions...but sometimes it just doesn't work with people. you don't know what you could be missing out on by not experimenting with more than one person..not to mention how much pressure there would be on that wedding night

I was abstinent with my "then/practice wife" while we were dating, we never had intercourse until our wedding night (we did fool around or whatever while dating) I have to say it was worth it, and if I ever found someone who I felt that committed to again I'd probably be willing to be that way again. Unfortunately it didn't work out with homechick, but I'm not letting that sour me for whoever else were to come along, preferably before I'm on my death bed if possible.

I waited til my wedding night to have sex. We both were virgins actually..

abstinence? dead? pretty much yeah. virgins? rare. i think i know 3, not including me.