Want the tip...I mean a tip....I mean....

Damn...screwed that one up, lol.

I have always placed others first at my own expense ... too much so ...

It makes me happy to make others happy but there has to be a balance too ...

I am still learning ...

I don't believe selfishness leads to true happiness.





Tis the society we live in, but I don't agree with it.





I find that helping others & doing right by them does bring happiness & satisfaction. I try to do the best I can for others when the opportunity presents itself.

Yep...I hear ya re: taking a long time to find the balance. I'm learning...it almost feels selfish to put myself first because it's such a new experience. Ultimately, it still has to be at no harm to others, though...otherwise I don't think I could look at myself in the mirror.

Balance

I do not believe that happiness comes from anything but peace with in. Some of that comes from doing right to the people around you and yourself. One does not have to be mutually exclusively of the other.

That is exactly what happened to me.
My whole life has been pleasing others - at my expense. So much so, that now that I am by myself, I don't know who I am. What a wake up call that has been! Others warned me, but, it took a real disaster for me to step back and see it from a different point of view. Now, I am trying to learn who I am and what I want and praying in the process that I don't do the exact opposite and get swallowed up by ME.

A combination of both.

I'm actually not a very altruistic person. If I help somone else, it's really because it's either helping me, or I enjoy it anyway. Like...volunteering at the zoo, for example. I don't do it just to be nice, I do it because I like it, and I get free admission and other discounts.

That's where I am at too

I've lived a lot of my life doing things for other people, from serving 6 years of it in the military to having a family where my now ex could stay at home with our kids to now taking care of my mother. I sometimes dont know what it is to have my own life but i wouldnt trade what i have done and what i am doing for anything in the world.

I've lived a lot of my life doing things for other people, from serving 6 years of it in the military to having a family where my now ex could stay at home with our kids to now taking care of my mother. I sometimes dont know what it is to have my own life but i wouldnt trade what i have done and what i am doing for anything in the world.


Thank you..

Everyone else who has been a generous kind person..thank you too..It can never be said enough.The smallest act of kindness can effect the world in such a big way. Make sure to donate to local food shelters this christmas and if you can help out toys for tots or another program designed to help children of lesser circumstance. Donate blood or support this christmas it is allways needed..I also wanted to tell some people about bone marrow drives, you can look them up on the web if you are not sure if there is one in your area.Bone marrow can potentially save a person who is dying from cancer,this could be you, your mother,your daughter, just remember it is allways the best reward to give and to save a life. Also have fun..lol..Hope everyones holidays are great this year.Thanks hassy for putting this up..

For many years, I lived my life doing what others had expected from me. Being raised as a pastor's son and having a family raised in Church, I was expected to live my life accordingly to where my family was not judged by the members of the Church and Public for my actions. Although my family didn't realize that burden had been pushed upon me by their feelings of how I carried out my life, it still was. Finally on the day that I realized how wrong it was not to be myself, I made a decision to never worry about what anyone thinks of myself; except for my future wife and our children.

I beleive happiness is what you make it. Living life for the moment surely doesn't bring "TRUE HAPPINESS". Living your life conforming to how someone else beleives you should live in order to make others around you happy doesn't either. I used to saccrifice to make those around me happy, but what I realized was at times I was saccrificing my own happiness in the process.

Now to this day, I have learned to follow my Heart in my pursuit of happiness; hoping one day, that it will bring me "TRUE HAPPINESS". But, by no means, is it right to live your life at the expense of others in your pursuit of that happiness.

In being yourself, you come to find out so much more about yourself you've never realized before. You see the good in you, as well as the bad. And then, you are able to make your corrections according to how willing you are to make the right choices as you follow your Heart.

To me, living for the moment doesn't mean anything at all. It's like that moment is there and then the moment disappears shortly afterwards, leaving you thinking about your decisions. Instead, I beleive "TRUE HAPPINESS" comes from that love that is unlike any other. Not only am I happy to find that in my Savour, but someday I hope for my happiness here in this World, that I find that love from that Woman that is out there for me. I'm following my Heart, and one day, her and I will find each other.

As far as saccrificing, I would honestly saccrifice my happiness and even my life for my sons. I would also do the same in the future for my future children and wife. I could see myself saccrificing my life to save a random stranger. But, as far as my happiness, only the ones closest to my Heart will I saccrifice that for.

I think that trying to live for only yourself will not make you happy, because it can be a lonely thing. I have realized though that you can't always be the one to do the giving and you have to be careful that you don't let others take advantage of you because you are like that!

I believe that it is not my right to stand in the way of happiness for anyone.

And if I can make someone happy, even if for a short while, in a healthy manner, then so be it.

But I will not risk my life for them.