I was talking to a friend from high school. He's married has a kid, I'm in a relat. So almost in the first message he demands he wants to see me. We keep talking, I keep giving him reasons not to see me; it was just for innocent catch-up but as time went on we realized we were flirting and really attracted to eachother. He admitted a long burning desire for me in h.s. that i didn't return. He said that our only problem is timing, that if he wasn't in such a great relationship he would have a 'torrid affair with you. right now', but he won't because he respects his wife. and i respect that.

my question is, towards the end of our talking i sent some photos and suddenly i get this email saying 'this was innapropriate and i've hurt my wife'. He said it's the last communication. Is it because of my pictures or is it probably his wife found my pics and demanded something and he realized how he had gone too far?

Now let's say, theoretically he wasn't married and i sent him these pics and chatted, would he have been different? He even recorded a song that he sung and played on guitar for me...and every time i listen to it i cry...not for him but because its such a nice gift.

someone tell me if it's me or if it was the situation. i sent him the pic u see on this post and the ones in my profile

I'd say most likely he was busted by the wife.

Busted but you can send me pics ! lol

run just dont go their.it is sad when it happens.if it takes years to find the right one wait. i have been waiting over 4 years .dont ever rush love. but that is just me.

okay carmen...i think maybe too

we also had set up this blog to talk and he got a fake account and name to join. i thought it was wierd. it was a private blog, and in that last mail he said he was gonna delete the blog too.

i did that so he would feel comfortable communicating with me--

so it was his choice to set up a fake name and stuff

it could have been:

A. She found the fake identity
B. She found the blog somehow.
C. She found my pics
D. She heard the song

i don't normally do that at all; it was just something that developed separate from my own choice.

and i am waiting not pining; i just want to know if i'm defective?

:)

No your not defective but nothing happens without your choice ! Don't ever start believing that cuz your just lying to yourself ! accept it as a lesson , learn from it and go on .

you are fine.

ur right; i always have free will; what i meant to say is it got out of control

No your not defective but you might want to think about not flirting with married men even if they are friends from the past.

good words to live by.

yes yes i knew i'd get the lecture on that and i agree; but just trying to make sense of it.

and you can be brutally honest; i can take it. if it is me, i want to know. i want to know if those pictures suck.

let me rephrase my question, what would you think of me if let's say you were a friend of mine from long ago and we reconnected. like would you think...eww she's (fill in the blank) and determine that time has not been kind? or i look mean or what?

ok.. to make sense of it.. let's say you're married.. then you find that your husband has been secretly talking to and getting pictures from another woman that he had feelings for in the past.. you don't like it.. you confront him.. it's over.. that kind of sums it up for me...

Well the answer is right there for you no lecture is needed . But if you reason it all the way out thats how affairs and stuff start ans the all hell usually breaks out . Glad that did'nt happen to you ! Don't dwell on it just learn , move on and don't repeat ! You'll be fine

take the marriage part out of it. we're getting off topic of the idea. it could be any guy i went to school with. not this particular guy...you see what i mean?

well thanks for your input

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no I dont get it.. why take the marriage out of it.. he was married wasn't he? if not this guy.. then what are we talkign about.. I guess I don't get the question...

it's not really about him, persay, yeah he was fun and nice and everything, but if it was any guy i reconnected with from the past. like a high school reunion, u know?

Can't take marriage out it's a factor that can't be changed . Most people do not accept others as friends when they're significant other is doing things under the table to converse with you !