I hate having things on my mind when I go to bed, and you get up after thinking about it all night long AND you are still thinking about.

I hope that you all got some thinkless night sleep.

What's wrong Whisper baby? Still trying to figure out what color to paint the trunk?

((((Melissa))) sorry to hear you had a bad night. Mine was the usual....up every two hours....the side effect to getting "older"

I do not think that trunk is EVER going to get done!






And I am not sure but i think my boss asked me out.

((((|(Cats)))) so you litterly slept like a baby then?

You think????

What did he say?

On Thursday when I was working, he texts me (texting has never been strange we do it all the time)asking me how business was and if I liked sushi. The sushi question i thought to be strange. So I text back, business good, and I live sushi why?

Well I am on call for tonight, and last night he sends me another text asking me if I am no working tonight would I want to have sushi with him.

UMMMM YA, that's a date.

You little vixen, you.

Are you going to go?

NO! He is my boss! But if I say no, he can fire me, if I say yes, and it does not work out, again he could fire me!


F*CK! I do not know what to do, I HATE HATE HATE!!!!! THIS!

Tell him you don't want to go strictly because of the job and your professionalism. That won't damage his ego at least.

I know that is what I should be saying, but I just can not bring myself to do it. I get nervous around him as it is.

Right now I am REALLY hoping that Amanda does not show up tonight, just so I will have to work. I really can not afford to lose my job, there are so many of my friends getting layed off around here, jobs are becoming more and more scarce.

stop showering and doing your hair before work :P

Whisper...keep a log of events...dates, times, etc. Then you say no, if that's what you want, and you continue to DOCUMENT anything that could build a case for harrassment and/or retaliation. Have been there done that and also had to write up cases (in an HR capacity)against supervisors who used their "power" wrongly. You'll be okay if you do the right thing.

well the hard part is.. even if she documents all this stuff she can go to court later or whatever.. but .. to document all that stuff and then have to go to court means she has lost her job.. thats what she wants to avoid...

I thought that was the side effect of having cats! I got earplugs and now they cant wake me up as easily.

It's not easy...I understand that.

Personally, I'd be looking for another job. The best time to find a new job is when you already have one. I actually AM doing that now...and guess what? It's because the man I'm supposed to start reporting to in 45 days DID behave inappropriately this summer (yes I made a first report & am keeping a log)and DOES do a lot of other sleezy stuff, and there WOULD be subtle but miserable retaliation from him and his friends once I'm his employee.

I can't afford to be without a job either and where I live there are few good jobs...

I share my situation only so you understand that I'm not speaking from a place with no perspective.

Ever think that perhaps he wants to promote you? that he likes you for a friend and wants to tell you over sushi?

Are you attracted to him? Is that why you are nervous around him?

Ever hear of a good place to meet people to date is at work? I know I have..

I say go.. find out the intentions then either worry about it or go with it...

IMO the remarks above are the reasons people dont get asked out... left and right women threaten with suit of sexual harrasment etc.. It is not sexual harrasment that he asked you out for sushi.... and most men arent the type to take it out on you <if you choose to say no>... unless he has a pattern of this at the workplace that you know of...

Dating someone you work with usually isn't a good idea.

It isn't always a good idea... and nor is dating someone you met from a club.. Or dating someone you have known for 12 yrs. Or dating someone that you do business with... or dating someone that works at a place that you frequent.. Or dating a person that lives 200 miles.. Or dating your neighbor.. Or dating the guy that has been divorced 5 times... or dating the guy that is 45 and never been married... or dating the one who just got divorced .... so tell me..... cant you find something wrong with every guy? Nothing is gonna be perfect or just the way you want it. thats in a unrealistic world.

That's true. I just say that cause it's hard to get away from the person if you work with them. But yes, nothing will be perfect.