where the women have low expectations and the men cannot meet them..

In many of the posts I see boys and girls bragging about how great each other are (how sexy, how hot, how classy, how smart, how wonderful) and where does it go? Cheap flirtation that is and no one around that really earned or deserves it.

The real world may be what landed you here, but I assure you it's cruelty to allow any of you to live with such illusion, it's better out there. Do what it takes.

perception is reality

That little ticket does not cover lying to yourself and others.

Rawr!!!

ok bye bye I love you

As I suspected, it wouldn't be long before the infantiles began..

I hope there are no boys and girls on an adult dating site!!!

As for where the cheap flirting goes, if that's how you feel, don't watch!!! And who are you to say they don't deserve it or earn it? Can't people just be sweet to each other without some motive other than to make others feel good? And, I have stepped out of this virtual reality and MET some of these folks in real life; doing what it takes.

Take a freakin' happy pill or SOMETHING, Seiko. It's not all gloom and doom on here. And, get out there in the real world yourself maybe????

OK yes there is a great amount of flirting that goes on here , but that is how the site is. I have made good freinds and had a few dates. What you read on the threads is everyone exploring, it is the messages that get sent between two people is what brings them together. The threads are just a way to have fun and test the waters so to speak.

Hey...that hurt...not really...so....why are you here???

"Turn on,Tune in,Drop out"

(so sorry)
HELLLLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, HALOED HOT STUFF!!!! How are you today????? Did you interview and did it go well???

(ooooh, sorry, flirting...........bowing head in shame.......... NOT!!!! )

Accounting for the number of posts, I think we all know who's spending time where. It hasn't taken much to scan through a bit of the drivel here and we can assume that it's all in duplicate, triplicate, quadrupulet form, and so on.

I'm not even sure what that says, to tell the truth, it's barely legible English. However, surmising from the responses of others, it seems to me that you are the pot calling the kettle black, so to speak.

I've met several people from the forums in "real" life and am living with my wonderful, darling man, who I met here, in the forums, over a year ago. All of the people I've met face-to-face have been people I interacted with on the forums, not ones who just sent an e-mail or two wanting to hook up.

I understand this. It seems to have gone on repeat.

Just what are you expecting here? Getting involved here is the way it works, if flirting is offensive to you then don't flirt or respond to flirts. Find your place and be happy, that is all we are trying to do here.

There is the idea that some sort of circumlocutory, peripheral gavotte is needed for people to size each other up -- reminiscent of the old cowboy movies where the two duelists circle around, hands ready to draw -- and it generally ends up the same, both parties either dead or wounded.

I think there is a level of "let's build up the other gender" that is insincere (if only because it's so unrealistically all-encompassing -- the reality is that "Why are all men great?" is no more accurate than "Why are all men pigs?") -- but it's easier to lump together than to see individuals as individuals, each flawed in his/her own way.

There's a sort of fervent desperation underlying this mentality -- it seems to me -- and it's just another take on "nice guy/nice girl." They'll like me if I'm pleasant/friendly/funny/complimentary/understanding enough, but when all of those things are presented solely for show, the effect is largely lost.

Real communication is a rare thing. People are too engrossed in building facades of cardboard.

You make it sound like having friends and sharing conversations and encouraging and praying for people is a bad thing!!! Fret not!!! I get out plenty!!!

your replies are turning me on

Hey SK Good to see you Message me

I don't need a reason. Do you have one Etrain? I'm not really sure what's available along the lines of quality online message forums. This one doesn't seem too bad, as it's free, and no one has to make any investment to keep it going.