You never give up. That's what I like about you.

You never give up. That's what I like about you.

Maybe you can ask Krisma and Lily to help out with the ritual. I know a nice secluded place to do it.

Well, Cathy's gone, but this is usually where I post when I'm upset about my ex so this is where I will post it now.

I just called him because Hannah threw up twice last night to tell him he needed to get her. Both the girls have had a lot of viruses this year since starting their new school in August. I have been the one staying home with them 90% of the time. Combined with the time off I take for my own illness I am currently out of sick time.

This morning he told me he can't get Hannah because he has to take his girlfriend in for surgery. It has become increasingly clear that his new family is now his priority and my girls are second. I told him I would be going without pay today and he said I should take Hannah to school. He said she was probably faking it. I wish. I have to take the sleeping bag and blankets to the laundromat today because it seems to be real vomit. My paycheck today was short a day's pay because of this same issue from 2 weeks ago. I think it may be time to ask for child support.

Sometimes I hate him so much it scares me.

It would seem to me that it would be time to go to court and file for child support. He is no longer providing the agreed upon help, so he should now provide it through his wallet.

It makes me sick to my stomache, but I think you are right.

You know even if I was with someone new I did not abandon my resposibilites to my other families.
I do not get along well with all my exes, but do not hate them. I do what I can for all my kids reguardless of how I feel about their mothers.
Sorry it is not like that for you Ruth

Thanks. This is all so weird for me because my son's father was never like this. He was and is a really good dad. To this day we are friends and I know he would help me if I ever needed it.

good morning ladies

Good Morning my pretty sunshine.

My sister is going through something simular with her ex. He has a new trophy wife and does not help pay for his kids collage so my sister works 2 jobs.

Ruth - hope Hannah feels better; I would have filed for child support upon separation/divorce.

Not saying he wouldnt fulfill his obligations but I find it's easier to enforce court orders than a person's word

Maybe g/f was scheduled before Hannah got sick, but he could have made things work for both of you (JMO)

I understand he has to take her to the surgery. I wouldn't be in this position if I wasn't the one doing all the child care on sick days for them the last couple of months.

He can't be trusted about anything. I am always just afraid of making him angry and this will make him angry. But, I have to do it.

Yep, it really sucks. His girlfriend, who now lives with him, makes as much money as he does....which is almost twice what I make. So, he can't cry anymore about barely making the mortgage payment on his 3000 square foot home. If he's not available to help with them anymore than he's going to have pay child support so I can do it on my own.

OK do not relieve him of that responsibility, That would be a mistake!

If he gets angry then it's his problem Ruth, not yours, you can never control how another person feels or reacts - things happen, we all get mad at one time or another, then we get over it.

I say get the maximum you can.

You don't know what he's like. But, you're right. I have to do this. thank you for your support. This time and the other times.

Yeah, it's time. He gets to claim head of household and have both the girls as his dependents without paying any child support. In the beginning he was paying a lot for their private school and child care, but now he's only paying some after school care costs. I don't think I'm being unfair about this. At this point it's probably better just to let a court decide what is fair.

and for the times yet to come

(((Fran)))

Okay, to quote Lily, it's time to put on my big girl pants and do this.