I have been divorced 3 years. Shortly after my divorce I met a woman that really blew my mind. She was beautiful, sexy fun and everything I thought I ever wanted.

We have dated off and on for 2.5 years, and in that time a lot of really crazy things have happened. Unbelievable things.

She has been fired from 3 jobs, evicted from 2 apartments and has blamed me for that and anything else that has happened to her. Yet says she still loves me despite my being evil to her.

Her rationale is that she is so pretty and good hearted that they could not possibly have fired/evicted her because of something she did, therefore I must have convinced them to treat her so poorly because I was angry at her.

Finally, one year ago I decided to move away from my hometown to avoid her. She was telling me she hated me by day. Telling people we knew that I wouldnt leave her alone, and then showing up at my door at 3am drunk begging me to take her back. Then shed get up the next day and threaten to have me killed.

So I left Dallas and moved 9 hours away.

Thats 9 hours away from my son.

So here I am, 600 miles from my son, unable to see him on weekends because I seriously fear for my life.

She continues to harass me. she found my cell phone # recently and spent a day texting things like "im in bed with another man want a pic", and "I aborted your baby and did not tell you and im glad."

Ive kept a record of all of these, as well as the 20+ phone calls a day.

Well today I was contacted by several people I know through my myspace. Somehow, even tho I changed my name and my email address and made a completely new myspace, she found me.

And she emailed everyone on my myspace friends list a story, supposedly written my a friend of hers that is worried that I might treat my new friends as poorly as ive treated her.

I dont know these new friends very well, but the nature of the email is pretty obvious and ive received nothing but support.

I will be filing a restraining order tomorrow.

The problem is this, I seriously do fear for my life. I know the background of this woman. She is violent; she has scarred knuckled from punching another woman through a car window. She has headbutted me in the face out of anger and shes told me stories of things shes done to other people.

A prison psychologist friend has called her a sociopath. A counselor we saw together labeled her as borderline with schizophrenia.

Im a big, strong guy and im seriously afraid here. I know how Ive treated her and I honestly have been supporting her for years hoping she would miraculously get fixed.

What are my options? Ive never had to get a restraining order on anyone.

The most urgent thing for me is that, after being gone a year, I seriously miss my son.

Below is the email she sent one long time friend of mine:

"Hi, this is a little awkward for me but I have a
dear friend who went out with this Stephen guy,
She is a single mother with two children and her family
has been devastated by what this guy has done to them for the last two years.

He is very devious and manipulated her to no end.
He wanted to marry her, he did all kinds of nice things
the poem on his page is about her "ballerina" He gave that
to her in the many cards she got.
I told her to burn those things....

In the mean while he went to all her friends
including me and told me horrible stuff about her that
was far from the truth, we've been friends for about 8 years.
I blew it off, because I knew he was odd but later a lot of us at church got together to talk this out.

He went to her pastor, all the elders at church and her job.
I took a look at his my space page and plan on letting these girls no what their dealing with.

I believe he took you to a Christmas event at Bob's
I think it was you maybe another girl, forgive me if I'm wrong.

He tried to date most of the girls at church, and lied to my friend about that.
He told these girls and her church, SHE wouldn't leave him
alone. It was quite different though.
She is a very attractive girl, with a BIG heart.
She has no problem in that area.
I wanted to date her, matter of fact all the guys at church wanted to date her.
When any girl called him, he told her the same that they wouldn't leave him alone.
I'm pretty sure you are one of them.

She was planning on going to Africa one year and Stephen
signed up first only to tell everyone she was going because of him. (very high school, I know)
He actually has pictures on his page of Africa when he went
but this guy is far from a christian. He went there for a vacation, that's what he told me.
Pretty sad....

We think he posts this stuff so he looks good, kind of like the country song you look better on my space.

She of course did not go because she did not feel comfortable going with him, she knew something
was not right.

She found this out almost a year later.
I guess no one wanted to get involved so noone
let her know what was going on.
We all think he moved because everyone started to find out
what he was doing and this is a small town.

I asked why he would do this, she said
she didn't know...only that she would never commit to him
and she's pretty sure that's why or he's mentally ill.

You can do with this what you like, this might even sound
familiar.

If you want to chat that's fine. I have a girlfriend but
anything to help."

don't make your son suffer by not being there for him. He shouldn't have to lose his daddy cause she's a crazy ex.
File a restraining order, put her in jail if you have to... but go back to your son. He needs you.

you should get custody of your son. i dont even know the women and im scared. go to court. show them everything you have on her. make sure they do a test on her. she sounds seriously unstable. i hope everything works out ok for you and your son.

Is she the mother of your son?

Just from what what you have stated i would go one step further. As crazy as you make this woman sound a restraining order would most likely just make her worse.

thats what i wanna kno?!?!

Gosh, this sounds like tv movie material!! For heaven's sake!!!
Hey, make sure you son is not being stalked, either!!!
She sounds very sick in the head. And, other than doing the restraining order or filing harassment charges, I don't know. And then, you still end up involved, which is what she wants. Involved in any way. Make it so you HAVE to think of her. And, of course, speaking from experience, this ends up looking like domestic sissy stuff!!! Oh my gosh!!!
Well God bless you and I hope something right comes out of this and with nobody hurt!!! What a fruit loop!!! Those sociopaths are a scary lot. Was married to one, but he PALES in comparison.

From what you say, she seriously needs help... Does she have family that would sign her into a mental facility...?

A sociopath is defined as having no conscious, and they are dangerous...

Definitely if she is as you say, she needs to be dealt with...

Get a restraining order. It is only a piece of paper and won't "protect" you but it does give you a legal way to deal with her. Once she is served, she can not legally contact you herself or through others. If she does you call the police. I've been through it and it is not fun. Violation of a restraining order does not carry a lot of time, I believe it is a max of a year but if you call the cops everytime, it could turn into a stalking charge.

i wish i had a stalker...

No, he met this woman AFTER his divorce.

for God's sake you left your son around this woman?? Go get him before she hurts him just to get to you...

its possible that he has a stalking charge with just what he has now...
worth checking into to persue

thats assuming that the mother of his child is his ex wife..
its possible that shes the mother of the child.

you say that til you do actually get a stalker

My prison psychologist friend said exactly this: the restraining order will only make things worse, but its my only option.

Ive been blogging about it for a while, its thereputic at www.datinginsanity.blogspot.com.


She is not the mother of my son. My ex wife got custody of my son about a year and a half ago. They live 5 miles from my crazy ex.

She has two other ex boyfriends that I have been hearing about for years. The way she talked about them when we got together is exactly the way she is talking about me now. Thats a real eye opener.

Both of them are in prison. One for being a white supremacist, the other for various offenses including pushing drugs, car theft and assault, including kidnapping her for 2 weeks and duct taping her to a chair.

Keep in mind, I met her in church. I thought she was amazing, i did not know any of this until later and then I thought she was working this stuff out... thats why she was in church.

Im a normal guy. I was married 14 years and was happy as a married man. This is unbelievably confusing to me.

As for movie material, I honestly have friends that have been through all of this with me that are now doubting any of it occurred just because of how unbelievable it is.



*** about having enough proof. I can get transcripts from sprint proving that for the last few months she has called me up to 30 times a day somedays, and her texts will go from I Love you i cant get you out of my mind, to I hate you suck me in one day.

hey u could go to the police records are good or watch alot of csi and a little sons of anarchy kill her... wait did i just type that i ment yeah go to the police ive come to tell ya that shes evil

I am not in touch with her family. One thing she has always done is keep me completely away from anyone that knows her.

Its plain paranoia, she did not want me communicating with them
because i might influence them against her or vice versa.

She lives two lives. on one hand shes the witnessing church girl that is spotless and then shell head downtown, dance at a strip club, come back to my place drunk and wake up the next morning to tell me that she cant be with me because im not Godly enough.

Keep in mind, i did not know a lot of this until recently

By all means get a restraining order but also keep in mind that it is only a piece of paper. And I really doubt that it will stop her.
You need to consider doing something to protect yourself physically as well as legally.

Cutiecami i just looked at your profile, you live 5 miles from her, we're from Wylie