I just had a conversation, on an IM, with a young man. We had only typed a few sentences to each other and he started asking me if I thought about him. When I told him I didn't know him to think about him, he wanted to know if I wanted him to be with me right now. Then he wanted to know if I liked kissing. Come on guys,and I don't mean all guys, but get real.

Ok, just to let you guys know, a 5 minutes conversation with a real woman, looking for a real relationship, is not gonna want to spend too much time with someone who wants to go from 0 to 100 in 5 secs. Ok. They are going to want to find out about you, get to know you, etc., before they start thinking about you and wanting to spend time with you. And they definitely don't want to start talking about kissing either.

I have had similar conversations with several guys over the last couple of weeks, and I just had to say something.

theres a term for those guys: pig-men

No, that's not really it, at least not with this. Of course, the conversation didn't last long enough to know for sure, but he was insecure and trying to be something he's not, I think.

maybe a fake then?

eh, it's hormones..lol
or guys looking just for cyber...
or guys that just don't know chat etiquette..

*shruggs* lol

Please do remember that that coin does have 2 sides. The decent men out there don't like being held against these examples anymore than decent women like being held against examples that their fellow women may set. I know you said it's not all of us, and I'm sorry he disrespected you.

what she said

Women do it too. Refer to the " OK....WTF " thread I started a few days ago...lol

Some guys are just exceptionally lonely. Some guys are really insecure and need the validation of someone telling them that they wish they were with them. Some guys are just exceptionally bored and have nothing better to do.

"Some guys"..."some guys"..."some guys"...some women, too!

Sorry. " SOME " women do it too..lol

Some guys will immedietly put you into friend category if you aren't having sex during the first two minutes.

Some women do it too.

Edit.
Some men are astronauts, so they might have certain problems hooking up.
Some women are also astronauts, same thing.

It just seems that so many preconceived notions/habits concerning one particular sex may be a bit skewered. There are fouls on both sides of the line. Bad people are bad people, regardless of details.

and some guys are just dumb asses, ya know?

I totally agree.

Yes Duey, I know you are right, but I seem to be getting a lot of these, always do. Why can't I find a normal guy not afraid to commit?

Of course they are; that's not a hard point to prove. That coin has 2 sides, that's all I'm expressing.

Thanks...I know it's a tough subject :)

I wish I knew.....or could help you with that answer. I just think it's important to NOT let the past, in any way, dictate the future. The "next person" should never pay the tab for the last. And I believe that.

Because an awful lot of guys have gotten severely burned when they committed to someone. Therefore, the guys that aren't afraid to commit, are generally the ones who aren't old enough to be bitter yet.

Marriages...losing 1/2 if not more of what you own, even if you owned it before the marriage...getting tour heart stomped on a few times...

Those things all contribute to a man being more willing to BE committed ( like...self hug jacket committed ) than to be " committed " to one woman.

The willingness to commit to one person doesn't really seem to be the " normal " thing anymore.

I can't argue with that.