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Following up is a two way street. I know I am going to sound probably Victorian but the guys with the right stuff, any manners and social grace at all, usually

Send a polite Hello. For get the vulgar creeps that think they are funny being suggestive; or the hostile ones that interrogate; or dangerouse ones that try to lure you other places.

The exception is most successful business people are not terribly comfortable having their personal attempts at talking to the opposite sex displayed on the employee bullentine board so they are not going to be real eager to talk on a public site. Not always are they trying to be perverse.

If a lady responds likewise with something encourageing but not terribly personal; usually a question about an interest. The art is asking a question that leaves and opening for an explanation.

Then a gentleman will respond in such a way as to leave the lady an opening to continue the conversation usually attended by a compliment. Not always are the compliments going to be as articulate as you might like. After all men tend to think and speak a little differently than women. They also know what they want, if they want it, a lot faster than women. If you try to keep them danceing the dance too long they figure you are just playing cat and mouse with them and loose interest.

Gentlemen unfortuately have been discouraged so much by current culture that they often feel they will be percieved as weak if they use good manners. Some have accepted the idea that they somehow have been elevated to power by the women who demand less and tolerate anything but eventually they get what they deserve or wise up.

Women do have to not over rate what they offer in a relationship. Many men are not nearly so in need of someone to take care of or tolerate if as women we don't bring a level of contribution to the relationship that makes it feel like a partnership. Women's Lib may have finally pulled us off the pedistal but we still have a responsibility to have our own foundation and not settle for a man who does not have his own.

Do we need to go to the stairs Lilith? (And yes, only she will get this statement).

I hear ya...

I try to be cordial and polite to some guys...

and then they email me all nite long...

its like WTF???

I was just being nice!

I actually used the title in a sentence yesterday, meaning it.... I think I may have blushed.

I need stairs.

There's the problem right there -- it's why I gave up on trying to e-mail anyone first -- even someone who can write in complete sentences with appropriate apostrophes (try saying THAT three times real fast) can't get a fair shake after the girl has received 7403 consecutive "Hi, I'm dumb" e-mails from idiots.

Yes, exactly! The many who ruin it for the few, so to speak.

Although, Lexy.... I am getting fixed up with a psychology professor and we talked for 4 hours of magical bliss last night. My tide might be turning, you never know!

Hopefully, he'll be up to your intellectual standards (although that isn't easy!)....watch out for the signs of being analyzed though -- a lot of those people tend to carry their work into their personal lives. If you go out to dinner and comment on the steak, and he says "How do you feel about that?" it's sort of a red flag.

Meanwhile, I'm getting seven e-mails a day from Checkout Girl, who, as it turns out, is also in cosmetology school. Talk about red flags....this one has to be given a special dispensation, though....

He is primarily into research and statistics, not at all clinical type stuff. Whew, right?

He is not laid back.

We were talking about wine, and I made a comment about certain kinds... he proceeded to go into this explanation about decanting and such and after he was finished I was, ummmmmm. Sorta speechless. So I said, out loud, wow that was hot.

Just trying to lighten the mood....Goofball style.

Lilith I sent you something!

Yeah, got it, replied, then saw I had the SAME mail from the same person myself.