tell a friend that they offended you but you dont wanna hurt their feelings because you know they didnt do it on purpose

Humm well I'm a very open and out front person I would tell them with out a doubt.

If you know that they did not do it on purpose, then why be offended? I would just drop it unless the same thing happened again.

Exactly as you said. Let them know that whatever they did offended you but you understand that they didn't do it on purpose.

Honestly and openness is always best in any relationship.

Just tell them, I dont see a reason to hold back. I tell people if they hurt my feelings.

good point

My first thought would be "Don't sweat the small stuff.", but I don't know enough about you or what this person said (or did) so I guess it all depends on if this is something they're doing on a regular basis that could affect the friendship over time, or if this was a one-time comment or action that you could probably just let slide. Only you can decide that. If it's worth bringing up, and if they're a good friend, they should be able to take it. Maybe word it something like..."I don't want to hurt your feelings, I know you didn't do (or say) this to offend me, but it did upset me and I need to talk about it..."
*shrug* Good luck :-)

well if this person is truly your friend, you should be able to tell them anything. Just tell him or her what was said kinda bothered you, and you know they didn't intentionally hurt you but you just wanted to let them know how you felt.

Need to be upfront about it... you say you want to do it nicely so not to hut them but hey remember that them offending you hurt you in the process... just be upfront..

>>Hey listen... the other day... when you said/ did...... it hurt me and I was offended... I just wanted to let you know...<<

take'em to a detroit lions game

just tell it like it is.if they are a true friend they'll thank u.speak ur mind.if u dont say notta how willl they know?if it was me well i'm a redneck woman with a attitude.and dont give a damn.it's a crule world out here.

just sit them down and tell them. flat out.

"I know you didn't mean it but that was rude."

so on and so forth. if they can't handle the truth then thats on them.