Why are the majority of girls around my age (20) attracted to the guys
that smoke, get high, get wasted, and screws anything that has legs and
boobs? Also they probably don't have a job, uses f*** in every other
sentence, and probably is abusive in some way. Am I the only one that
can see that stuff or is this actually a problem? I don't know about
anybody else but I'm getting sick of this stuff. The hippie era is over
how about we start acting a little more mature? I can't get a break, it
seems like every girl in my town only like these kind of guys. What are
your thoughts on this?

Perhaps you are wiser than your years is all

Raise your standards...there are plenty of young women who aren't always
attracted to 'bad guys'...

And anyways why are you looking at the girls who are attracted to that
kind of guy? If you don't want to be like that...or aren't like that.


Sometimes you have to go fishing in other ponds to catch the kind of
fish you are hunting for.

Hey I haven't gotten it in a long time

oops sorry

when you find the answer to this let me know cause ive been wondering it
for a long time

as a whole, people in their early 20s are partiers... college age, just
legal to get into bars... so many life changes...everyone wants to be an
adult but isnt really sure how to go about it... give it some time, or
start dating older women for awhile...

You see I live in a small town full of hicks (try everything at least
once attitude). Whatever someone does everyone seems to follow. I'm just
hoping one day my generation or the next will realize what they are
doing and ask why should they really be doing it. As for looking in a
different area for my type of women I don't know where to start looking,
it seems like my type just gives in. Also, I don't think I could date
older women, I would just feel uncomfortable doing that. Thanks for the
advise anyways.

Well sometimes, and I am a long way from where you live, (I am in
Australia), but I am also in a tiny village, everyone knows everyone,
and I guess we would be hicks, we live so far away from bigger cities
and towns.

Yes the pool is a litle smaller for fishing in here, and well truth be
known, my taste for fishing is not there any more. I am happy just doing
my thing, learning more about who I am, and what I like and dont like.

Single suits me, for now, and I enjoy it, free to roam wherever I
choose, and have no obligations to any except my kids, and myself.

Give it time, and enjoy single, it is fun, and for sure as, when you
least expect it, you will find a girl more like you appear.

Same problem here, man.

Instead of changing the girls, change your view.

The majority of women appreciate your take on the human-interaction
idea.

So, make the most of it. Dont look in your pool, take a wander to the
bigger pools.

Instead of talking to the 20 group, try the 28-32 group.

You will probably get more conversation (if thats what interests you)
and find that you will enjoy the male/female relationship a lot more.

Also, though, put yourself in the 20 year old Fun Bunnies' shoes. Maybe
they think all the guys of your age are only after sex, drugs and rock n
roll!

Try educating one of them ... it might be fun!

Teach a twentysomething young lady?



Is that possible?

yep ... my last relationship was with a girl 17 years younger than me.
(iwas 34 when we met)
we were together 5+ years, and she taught me a few things and it was
reciprocal.

These young ladies are out there

*sniff* well that tears it, I need to hang out in the UK.

Give me 5 minutes warning (need to turn the 'puter off), and you are
more than welcome any time you like.

Yeah, get those, uh, sensitive documents hidden, start a little incense,
turn off the movie... peacekeeping is such tiring work...

LMAO D."Try educating one of them ... it might be fun!"


Oh yeah ... He gonna be so bloody, Lucky just to find a fine material
for edication among those bunnies.

Change of age group ... yes, I concur it.
Cheers :^)


And much Good Luck to you,young man.

Just be patient Bryan, and they will come.

Well, sadly, that's what happens when living in a more lenient,
"politically correct, anything goes, Girls/Guys Gone Wild" "the sluttier
you act, the more respect you get" and "who am I to judge?" type of
society.

And contrary to what some people may think, I'm not the least bit
"conservative." I'm merely logical. You know what I mean?
Action/reaction...cause/effect, karma, you reap what you sow, that sort
of thing.

From what I've observed, not many people nowadays raise their kids to
have any respect...not for society, not for their elders, not for
authority and, worst of all, not for themeslves.

And from what I've observed in forum discussions over the years, not
many adults seem to think there's any reason they should curb their
behavior to any significant degree, either. People defiantly saying,
"I'm an adult and I can make my own choices!"

Well, that may very well be, but my opinion is, if you're THAT mature,
then why can't you make the "right" choices? That's just how I see
it...but of course, to each his own. I fell into the "defiant and
rebellious trap" myself for many years, for a number of reasons. Finally
realized that my choices were only hurting me...and it doesn't take a
ton of bricks to fall on me to realize that, if you want something to
change, you have to take measures to effect change.

And a parent can't even spank a child anymore, else you go to jail. Many
people I know either don't disipline their kids at all or, if they do,
it's really "wishywashy" and they still allow the kid to get away with
misbehaving, claiming, "Well, what can I do about it?" Puleeze.

OP, you're finding girls who want guys like that because they want
someone whom they can identify with.

And even though it's comparatively rare these days, there ARE young
women out there who have respect for themselves and would NEVER for a
moment accept being treated like they are pieces of meat, like the guys
you describe would most likely do.

The wait may be frustrating but, when you find "her," you'll be glad you
did.

it's usually so, girls at this age don't like to listen to anybody, or
learn from others' experiences, they want to try themselves - just to
show they are old enough, try the bad before the good, then after
getting hurt one, two, three, ..... hundred times, they start becomming
wise in making their choice, sometimes it's too late, and they hate the
whole wold n live in depression, but what to do, this is what i see

Same goes for the guys, too. Or else they end up dead or in jail.