My ? is not why do people lie it's this how would you feel if someone you loved and supported thru many tough nights uses you.Then they tell you im not ready for a serious relationship your young you have your whole life ahead of you. Then a couple weeks later the person is using plenty of fish dating site it's the ultimate I hate you get out of my life trick. Im just wondering from other people's point of view how would you react if someone did that to you? Im a person who doesn't swear but believe me I almost did, Ever thing you believed turned out to be bs would you stay mad at this person or do what I did try to find a person who will actually love you and appreciate the things you do for them just curious how another person would handle this type of situation. She lied about not wanting a relationship for starters.

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And then stab your teddy bear!!! at least 92 times!!!

Happens...so goes internet dating, perhaps it was a genuine concern. Instead of getting angry or trotting along I would do some searching of myself (some call it soul searching) to see what I truly want out of my life...then make a decision.

Well....if they told you they aren't ready for a serious relationship PRIOR to going on Plentyoffish, then it's kind of hard to be mad. That is probably her way of telling you gently that she won't be dating just you.

I think I missed what it is she lied About??

Move on because that person was only lying to there self. You were not lying so on to the next. I feel sorry for people that have to lie to them self. Because as long as they are living in the dream world of there lies they can not ever be happy.

She didn't...there is absolutely no lie as far as this story is told. Personally I think it was a genuine concern...hence my reply.

Thanks my dear. Thought I'd missed something.

i just totally agree. with everything

She lied about how I don't know if I want a serious relationship I need time to figure out my life. Then joins the dating site 2 weeks after she feed me the bs. Also says im not sure maybe down the road but im not ready for a relationship ya sure that's why her dating profile says looking for long term it's ridiculous. I just wish I was told from the start so I wouldn't have wasted my time and effort on her.

Saying she doesn't want to be in a serious relationship and then going on a dating site would make sense to me. Sounds as if she wants to date around a bit, and/or hasn't met anyone to settle down with?

Sooo...let me see if I have this right.

You were seeing someone and then they told you that they were not ready for a serious relationship.

Later she joined a dating site.

I don't see how that is the "ultimate I hate you trick".

She let you know that you weren't the one for her before she got on the dating site. That isn't hate.

Normally that's what I would be thinking but she kept saying I want to marry you and grow old with you in the future just confusing to me.

Human emotion puzzles me in this sense, as though you need someone in order to go on living? The only necessity to survival is food, water, and shelter. Perhaps she is testing the water and dating other people, certainly not outside the realm of possibility. How old is she? Age plays a big factor typically for people around my age (23) where they are not ready to sit down and be with someone the rest of their life.

It is the process everyone goes through, you I'm sure have as will everyone else.

Haven't you started a thread about this before?

Very puzzling indeed she is 24

Maybe she found out that that wasn't what she wanted after all.
Maybe she felt that she had her whole life ahead of her and said it about you instead.

Edit - 24 is young to settle down to me. I couldn't have done it.

Haha no this for others people point of view had to tell the story so people could respond.

Well, I got married 2 months before I turned 24 but then I knew my husband since high school. Sounds like she rethought things. I'm sorry you are hurt.

I was too immature.