I just got an IM out of the blue tonight and, feeling adventurous, I decided to go ahead and accept.

It wasn't a scammer, which is what I expected. It was an actual ( I think ) woman that just wanted to talk.

I discerned, after talking to her for a bit, that she had never even looked at my profile ( real big shock there ) but yet, was telling me that she wished I was there with her.

My response : " You don't even know me "

Answer : " What's to know? "

What really cracked me up was when she asked if I liked " spooning " and I told her " At times ".

She then proceeded to say " Well aren't you a male? "

I said yes

She then said " well aren't you horny??? "

My response " Not particularly " lol

I told her that just cuz I am a guy, that doesn't make me a walking hard on.

She then asked me " Well what DOES that make you ? "


I have a very simple answer to that question.....

One that doesn't think with his d*ck....lmao

Serious question......

Am I considered some kind of freak because I have never had a one night stand?

Am I some kind of alien being because I think sex should actually mean something more than just getting off???

yes !

Ok. Just checking.

you are a gentleman plain and simple i wish I would not have had so many one night stands

Wow, I think someone was the horny one and it wasn't you...And, I agree, not all guys are nympho maniacs

I hear ya brother, as I'm the same way. And I often have to go through the same crap, too.

Most ladies think I'm some freak-of-nature just because I'm not led around by my wedding tackle or something, or they think I've got some ulterior motive goin' on and they think I've got some BS game happening.

But there ARE dudes out there who aren't walking one-eyed vipers. Not all dudes immediately think "sex" when talking (or IMing) the ladies.

Don't get me wrong....

I enjoy sex...as often as I can...but it's when I am actually WITH someone.

Not just some random pick up or after one date or something like that.

No, that makes you a gentlemen. Personally, guys like you are a rare find though.

A lot of guys on these sites do just want to talk dirty.

FREAK!

Join the club!

just messing with ya !
nothing wrong with what you did !

In all seriousness...

When I contact someone, it's because I do find them attractive.

But sex with them is never the first thing I think about when I contact someone.

If I am interested in someone, I want to know how they think, what they feel passionately about. I want to get to know them.

I know, Chevy.

Just taking advantage of the humor of the whole thing....lmao

Cheers.

You are not some kind of freak. It makes you a special man who understands women more than most. It almost sounds like a role reversal there. She is the one that sounds horny. You are the kind of guy that most women are looking for.
Don't worry about her! You are doing just fine!!

I actually think it is really nice to hear this and see that there are still men out here that feel this way.

I have never done casual sex and I am too old to start now. I love sex when it means something.

Wow I hope you have her blocked now. Good grief she didn't care who you were and that leads to my next question. Just how in the hell is cyber supposed to be good sex.

you're in the minority, most women are used to men being complete horndogs, i suggest u blame the many men who actually are that way

Just, you are not alone in that one buddy, so far that,s all I get and can figure them out in about 5 sentences. Sex is like icing on the cake................ and if you don't have good cake the icing isn't very good either

justaguy, it's nice to see that there are other poeple out here with morals to.

Exactly, we basically expect it these days.

But don't women, justified as they may be, realize how utterly unfair it is to automatically assume that sex is a guy's only motive???

I don't assume since I am either the most sexless or naive woman on the internet. I have been out here almost 2 years now and I have had less than 6 sex emails. I have had only one icky picture and only one bad IM.
So I don't assume that is what most men want. Like I said I think there are very few bad apples but you know rotten fruit stinks so bad alot of times the stench will cover up the sweet smells.