not everyone is trying to hide something when they dont post a pic....there are various reasons!!!!
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Again, someone like that would most likely not be someone I would be interested in. To me, that says that they base too much on a picture.

I can understand the idea behind doing that....but the only time I won't look at the whole profile is when there is no picture at all. That's just me, personally.

If I see someone using a cartoon, or something a little off the wall...I will almost always look to see if they have other pics or something interesting to say in their profile.

(addressing one up) I look through guys pics and there are a lot of them. I click on the cute guys or the ones with interesting headlines and the forum guys I recognize. I am not going to click on every single profile because that would take too long. Cartoon ones will be skipped unless I recognize the name.

So youre saying that if some non forum posting woman skips over your cartoon pic while she is browsing pics then she is not your type? How can you say that because maybe she is but she doesnt have time to click on every cartoon she sees?

Im not saying cartoons are bad I was just saying I was astonished to see so many when I figured this was a dating site and we all know looks matter at least a little bit.

psht Im real and i dont have any toons on my profile....i just often forget the state im living in

That is the kind of thing I am referring to.

Basing things on a " look " is, to me, rather shallow. I mean no offense.

If someone is going to base their interest on how I look, rather than who I am, I'd just as soon take a pass on that person.

If she doesn't want to spend an extra 3 seconds to click on my profile to see if there are any pics of me there, and perhaps take a glance at what I have to say, then chances are good that she doesn't have the kind of attention span that would be required to get MY attention.

And most people who have a cartoon pic up generally also have other pics on their profile of what they look like.

Exactly. As I said before...I have several pics of myself up.

If she can't take an extra three seconds to find that out....her loss and not my problem.

I do find it difficult with all the cartoons to figure out if male or female er what. I don't feel like clicking on every last person's profile to find out, so I guess we just have to deal with the RULE BREAKERS! heh heh heh

Oh, to be 21 again!

Hey...I perved your profile...& you're pretty cute! Uh...that's one cartoon to another...

Yer one pretty cartoon yourself.

You left out all the other reasons that I mentioned why I click on a guy. You should quote the entire post dont you think?

If a woman clicks on every guys profile to see if he is something special then that woman will have no time to ever date a guy because there are a lot of guys on this place, she will be clicking for a long time. You have to give the woman reason to click. Im talking about those non forum woman that know nothing of your existence.

So your saying that a woman that doesnt click on every single guys profile on this site is a woman you dont want? Youre offering a non forum woman no reason to click. You only want women that sit around all day and click profiles hoping to find a good one?
You having a cartoon pic means nothing to me and Im not judging you, Im just saying your argument is flawed.

psh someone emailed me to comment about what a badass looking kitty i have up... i never got emails about my actual pic before so the kitty, or others of like badassedness stays

I agree. I dont mind clicking on the forum peoples profiles but I am not going to click every cartoon profile when I go surfing for guys to message.

Yes, I'm choosing to quote only a portion of your post, because only a portion of it made sense to me.

I click only when a woman gives me reason to click...pic, cartoon, forum poster, or not.

It's called selective clicking. We ALL do it, regardless of what makes us "click".

If it works then keep it. If your pic gets you attention that you wouldnt get otherwise then I say keep it.

Im looking for interesting guys so I come to the forums first where words do the talking. When I surf using the search feature then its pics that do the talking to get my attention.

if you want beautiful, pitiful,

have me in a picture

and if you want make me dance,

throw me round spin upon your

finger

blind labors the blind and i am

unwilling to uncover my eyes

and if you want take your time rifle

through, find a very nice one

if there's a crease in my face over

time, there's plenty more where

that came from

words, frozen, will thaw when i am

wasted, i am better shut up

and a frame is quite confining,

hang me up...hang me up

i'm in the photograph

when i'm alone and the world is a

fist, i am weightless

a universe, gravitate, orchestrate,

i am fearless

and spin, the sky surrounding free

from all the picture perfect

and spin the sky surrounding,

larger than life, meanwhile

wow.. i just read through this whole thing..

i noticed a couple things..

first.. if you hadnt noticed from the previous posts.. many if not most people here dont think of this as a dating site, most of us see it as a social site.. we are here for friends and fellowship.. not for dating.. i met my bf on this site, but stay here for my friends...

second.. except for your last post.. did you know that you ONLY reply to males who answer your question.. the female replies (except one) were completely ignored by you..

most likely an unintentional thing, but i found it interesting...

i way to tell whos here for friends and whos here for dating is to see who replies to EVERYONES posts, and who replies to just members of the opposite sex..

random info..

well ok i was only half serious there.

when you say i put up the kitty for attention that i wasnt getting with my actual pic makes it seem that my actual pic was soooo hideous that i wasn't getting attention. or as though i'm desperate for attention and that i have to hide myself to get it, which is not entirely the case...

1) getting attention isnt my objective because i'm not looking to date anyone, i just like the forums. I'd be quite happy just to pop in, take part in the conversation and pop out.

2) the kitty was put up in the first place not to get attention but just because it's cute and funny, which i think expresses who i am.

3) i was actually getting email attention before, more for my forum posts and what was in my profile than anything else me thinks, but still attention was garnered.

just thought i'd clear that up

and yes i don't mind that people like the badass kitty