What in the world do women want?

Don't say a nice guy cause I have heard that so many times, all nice guys end up just getting used. I would know I am one.

I'm 20 years old, I own my own car (lexus rx300) I will own my own 3/2 gated condo. I have an amazing sense of humor, im honest, loyal to any relationship im in. I take care of the girl im with. I am well educated and wise. I have a job (obviouslly). I am the guy who will buy flowers for no reason I don't forget important dates.

I mean does apperance mean so much that you would trow away a great foundation? I mean I am a bit heavy but not that bad.

So can any of the hopeful intelligent women help me out?

itz a secret

you said it yourself

and they are individuals

that is why it is a secret

you figure out one and all the sudden it all changes

just do yer self a favor

realize she is usually right (not always that is sarcasm)

you need to know the question she is not asking (itz your responsibility)

and

cater to her ever changing mood swings (cause if not they will be history)

and most importantly

do not let them know you know if you figure them out even a little (they will change)

You drive a lexus and have your own condo,


must be your breath,


j/k and welcome to mingle,

Listen to us and understand us. Even when you don't.

Make our every emotion feel validated.

Defend us.

When we're pissy, say I love you and I'm here when you're ready.

Never offend or push the wrong buttons.

Wow, now that I look at it....we ARE difficult and princessy.

Sorry dude...i'm trying to date girls too, LOL!

doesn`t matter what anyone else wants,..question is " what do You want ? " that is your answer,..

According to "The Hitchhikers Guide To The Galaxy", the answer is






























42.

I am super empathetic, when she (no one in particular atm) is sick I will make from scratch chicken noodle soup. If she is cold, even if (i cant sleep unless its 73 degrees) I will turn it up. I mean jesus >.< what does a guy have to do to make a girl happy. I want to find a girl that will bendover backwards for me, just as I will for her. I want a girl who WANTS to make me happy, I want someone who really wants to be as put into a relationship as I am.

I am 20 yrs old I have been in 3 2yr relations ships. 6 years of my life has been dedicated to 3 women, each of them cheated on me. What is that supposed to say about women? I mean I cant sterotype but at the same time I have to. I do what I can with what I have. All it ever is done is **** on.

I know the anwer is 42 to THAT question >.< trust me that has saved my butt plenty of times when crossing the bridge of death (monty python referance for you who didnt catch it).

try not bending over backwards,..

trying to make 'someone else ' happy,.doesn`t work. that`s co-dependency,..

you can only make yourself happy,..and by making yourself happy,..you will find that 'other ' happy one,..

or put another way,..if your going to whipe someone`s ass,.you gonna get sh** on,..

African Swallow, or European??

The only person who can make you happy is you, please do all women a favor and don't put that responsibility and burden on us. When you can do that, you will find a woman who is happy on her own and won't put the responsibility for her happiness on YOU. Also, if you've been in 3 relationships with 3 women and they've all cheated on you, the person you need to look to is yourself. I don't mean that to say you did anything to deserve it or that you are to blame. But, you are choosing the same woman, over and over. So, you need to do a little soul searching to find out what it is about those women that you are drawn to. Either that, or you are coming off as a total pushover and are choosing women who will take advantage of that, or both. Until you change yourself and the type of women you date, you are going to be stuck in a very viscious cycle.

maybe you shouldn't 'dedicate' your life to anyone?

Ahhhhhhhh grasshopper.....

you are trying to run before you can walk.....

when you can snatch the pebble from her hand.....

oh.......



wait.......thats another story......


hey.......

I give up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hate to break it to you big guy.....but, the universe revolves around me. Seriously, it has been scientifically proven!

But, at least you got a nice car and a condo so it ain't that bad!

So, time for a serious note:

I have to agree with the ladies here. I spent the last 9+ years, slowly bending over further and further trying to make my now Ex-girlfriend happy. What I got out of it is a beautiful son who is the center of my world, and a really odd and uncomfortable relationship with his mother, the recent ex, who expects me to do more and more to try and make her life comfortable, while mine gets more and more uncomfortable. So I'm trying to fix that whole issue now.

The best advice I can think to give is share with her, compromise with her, but don't revolve around her. Make sure you also have your own life to live.
If you can find someone that is willing and happy to share and compromise WITH you, rather than come to expect you to concede to thier wishes, you're on the way to a good thing.

If it seems I said that I need her to MAKE me happy, I apologise. What it was supposed to say is, If you know that taking a picture for me makes me happy and sending it to me, then do it for the sake of wanting to do it. If I know that she likes starbucks coffee and I am going to see her and I havent for maybe a week then I bring it so that SHE feels happier because she feels I appreciate what she likes. That is what I am looking for.

Well what am I supposed to do then? Do I say to every girl, hey I like you (after a few months) I really enjoy being around you, are you going to cheat on me? Its there personalitly



So just be single for the rest of my life? Be in a relationship where I dont put 100% into it?



Im pretty much screwed. I am not a going out kinda person, I will chill at home play video games or something along those lines. I dont see a lot of people, I dont talk to a lot of people. I am shy in a way, I have been rejected all my life by girls in a way. I try and change the little things that dont matter to me like how I dress or style my hair. If it will make her happier to have it different sure I dont care. I dont know...Im so confused, so I dont know anymore.

You might consider the type of women you show intrest in. What are you looking for???? Everyone has a match out there. It took me a couple of really bad reationships to see that the type of men that create a spark are not the ones that are best for me! Just a thought!

What am I looking for..hum...

Well I want her to be attractive to ME, doesn't mean she has to be a goddess but that I find her attractive. Smart, funny, honest, dedicated to the relationship she is in. Someone who isn't afraid to be physical to the guy she is with, but who isn't throwing it out just cause she has her looks. Someone who will make the relationship a priority who will not let someone make her feel guilty about being with me, just because they don't like it. Someone who will love me, who will accept that I have some issues with trust and try and prove to me that they are willing to work and help me to trust them. Someone who wont hide things from me.

Hi Rishiku. 1st I would not be so quick to tell about your finacial situation. It may make you attractive to the very same girls you need to avoid. The type that is always looking to trade up. Find someone with compatable values,interests & goals.