Once you are in a relationship continue to examine your compatibility
with your partner. Do not overlook compatibility issues in order to be
in a relationship. In other words, do not ignore warning signs of
potential problems. Other mistakes include making compromises, such as
eliminating activities you like because they don't interest your partner
or reducing communication with family members your partner dislikes.

You should not be hesitant to ask your partner questions. You need to
find out the behaviors and attitudes you can expect for later. It is
important to learn not only about your partner but also about your
partner's relationship with his or her family. Moreover, learning about
your partner's family will provide insights about your partner. Here is
a list of questions you could ask:

What do you like to do for fun? What did you do for fun when you were
younger? How often do you get out and have fun? How much time per week
do you take for leisure activities? What do you do when you want to
relax? What do you like to do on vacation? What were your friendships
like when you were growing up?
How do you handle tough times? How have you handled some of the
difficult situations in your life?
What were your parents like when you were growing up? How did their
opinions influence you, then and now? How did your parents get along?
How have you changed over the years?
What are your plans for the future? What are your attitudes and what is
your style for handling money? Do you like to help with household
chores? What do you like to talk about? What conversations do you like
to avoid?

Overall, be patient. Take the time to get to know potential partners
before jumping into a relationship. After all, you wouldn't select the
first apple that caught your eye in the produce bin! Why be any less
selective with your choice of mate?


These are all things we should think about the main thing is not to rush
into a relationship. Take your time and really get to know not only the
person they are today. But also find out how that person was in the
past. Take time don't make them feel as if your a drill sergeant.
Besides when you actually take the time to find out what makes one tick
it also makes them feel as if you are really interested in them as well.
Be surprised how much someone would be willing to share if you just took
the time to show them you really care about them as a person past and
future.





So if anyone has anything to add please feel free.

((((((((((Ms Txs)))))))))))))))
Awesome Post I need to copy and past this one

((((((Txs.))))))))
nice post girly!!

a good read

I was always trying to think of new things to do, and new ways of doin
them. Always looking for better ways of makin her happy. Different
things to cook for her. Ways I could help around the house more.
Surprise dinners, outings and picnics. Surprise destinations. Flowers
and stuff delivered to work for no reason.


To bad it was one sided.

But it was great practice.

I cant wait to be with a woman who will appreciate me.

Klugman are you for real? WOW

9 years worth

yes ... now i see you are, hon :^)

Ohhh Okay Klugman no more tellin the rest of us what we never got heck
was married for 11 and my ex never did anything cuould not even get him
to mow the yard shssssssssssssh hell I did it all. I would have been
over joyed to have him do0 anything. Figured if I was gonna do it all
anyway might as well live by myself.

But always glad to hear at least some where out there guys actually do
those things. I just don't seem to be lucky enough to find one like that
ohhh well.

I miss havin someone around to be nice to.

As of tommorow night I have to start living these words..

Klugman I hear ya loud and clear try it for 15 years it still dones not
get any easier living alone. Ya know kids took up alot of my life and
time but now that they are grown it does get lonely.


Hummm Lazy so how has things been going hope your vist has been
everything ya hope it would be.

HEY LAZ, HOW RYA BRO !!

Treat your partner as you would your closest friend.

Allow then to be, whoever it is they need to be.

Don't interrupt their process.

Treat them with respect.

Love them unconditionally, they are unique and a gift.

Share in the growth of all that lays before you.

And most of all accept the differences, with compassion and grace.

Very well put Jesse could not have said it better myself

I need some advice...here goes, me and my ex where together for 4 yrs.
and we had a huge arguement about him chatting secretivly
online....didn't think much about it.Then I brought it to his attention
and all H_ll broke out (OUCH)anyway,I miss him dearly and I I.M. him to
just say HI. And his reply was...I'm trying not to talk to you?we've
been split before and he's always contacted me.I want to not talk to him
but it's so hard not to... what advice does anybody have or insight as
to wants going to be the possible outcome? HELP....THANK'S

Your profile says your divorced, you say split before. Clear as mud.
Either seek prof. help & work at it, or move on. Pick a
direction/action & follow thru with it. Sounds like some kind of game;
push away, pullback, again & again.
Not healthy & not much future. Want him, set standards, tell him, see
what happens. Won't meet standards, call it quits.

Txs...thanks...I will definetley use those questions!!!!!!!
I was just putting together a list myself and some of them are the same
ones you mentioned here...funny! and remember ladies, if you catch them
in a lie in the first week...Get away...get rid of Him!!! and IF he is
defensive answering questions...BIG Hello!!!! What's to be defensive
about in getting to know eachother???