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Topic: just wondering
staats55 Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 8	Fri 11/14/08 10:58 PM
im separated but my ex-wife still lives with me but she really doesnt have any place to go so is this really going to hurt my chance at finding someone or is there someone open enough to see theres no relationship there other than friends and roommates so theres no reason to take offense to it

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Fri 11/14/08 10:59 PM
I wouldn't date someone that had their ex still living with them.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Fri 11/14/08 10:59 PM
the situation your in is the reason men lie

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Fri 11/14/08 11:00 PM
Be upfront and honest about it, you'll find someone who understands. If you try to hide it, no good will come of it.

3oh3 Joined Sun 11/09/08 Posts: 593	Fri 11/14/08 11:01 PM Edited by 3oh3 on Fri 11/14/08 11:01 PM
Well if I was a woman, I would be a little skeptical, but I'm not so I will go at it from the other side...If I met a girl and she said she was still living with her EX, but they "aren't together" that just says to me they have SEX all the time. I would tend to stay away from that type of situation because of the possibility of heartbreak. I would say yes, it would hinder your chances, but it's only my opinion.

staats55 Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 8	Fri 11/14/08 11:01 PM
i woudnt lie theres no reason i have to if some one dont like me the way i am then they just dont like me

maxxximus007 Joined Mon 11/13/06 Posts: 6082	Fri 11/14/08 11:02 PM
??

sweethouston713 Joined Fri 10/24/08 Posts: 232	Fri 11/14/08 11:02 PM
Well there are lots of things that come to mind... First -- are you separated or divorced? Big difference there... If it were me though, no - I really do not think I would even think of being involved with a man who still has an 'ex' living with him. Turn it around, and ask yourself if you would get involved with a woman living with her ex...

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Fri 11/14/08 11:02 PM
im separated but my ex-wife still lives with me but she really doesnt have any place to go so is this really going to hurt my chance at finding someone or is there someone open enough to see theres no relationship there other than friends and roommates so theres no reason to take offense to it Most women will see you both as possibly sleeping together still and not like that idea,,if they really like you. And I have lived that life,,and I was doing my ex,wink..lol Just my thoughts.. Good luck..

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Fri 11/14/08 11:03 PM Edited by RKISIT on Fri 11/14/08 11:03 PM
im separated but my ex-wife still lives with me but she really doesnt have any place to go so is this really going to hurt my chance at finding someone or is there someone open enough to see theres no relationship there other than friends and roommates so theres no reason to take offense to it actually how would you feel if it was the other way around.you wouldnt feel a little uncomfortable?

AzgirlinMO Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 653	Fri 11/14/08 11:04 PM
there would be no future there w/ someone new...why put someone thru that?

lcjw Joined Thu 10/11/07 Posts: 8594	Fri 11/14/08 11:04 PM
Oh wow! is it hard to do that? live with your ex, and still be married to her?

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Fri 11/14/08 11:05 PM
there would be no future there w/ someone new...why put someone thru that?

staats55 Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 8	Fri 11/14/08 11:05 PM
shes out dating other people with no prob but i guess some people have a diff mind set

AzgirlinMO Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 653	Fri 11/14/08 11:06 PM
Been there/done that...dated a guy for 3 months..that was all I could take...he was living w/ his baby's mother..saying there was NOTHING going on..but they would cook together, clean together go on vacations still together...come on now....how can you build off that???

AzgirlinMO Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 653	Fri 11/14/08 11:07 PM
there would be no future there w/ someone new...why put someone thru that?

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Fri 11/14/08 11:09 PM
Good Heavens what IS it with people and their X's lately? If you are seperated she needs to move out. If she is dating other people she needs to move out. YOU put yourself in this position. Someone told me once an only good X is a mute one.

staats55 Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 8	Fri 11/14/08 11:11 PM Edited by staats55 on Fri 11/14/08 11:11 PM
its not like that really she has her life i have mine she has no job no money and nowhere to move to i cant just put her on the street nobody deserves that right?

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Fri 11/14/08 11:12 PM Edited by Winx on Fri 11/14/08 11:13 PM
its not like that really she has her life i have mine she has no job no money and nowhere to move to i cant just put her on the street nobody deserves that Then it's not time to date yet! It's better to start dating after you have healed and have closure anyway. I won't even date somebody until they are divorced. JMHO.

lcjw Joined Thu 10/11/07 Posts: 8594	Fri 11/14/08 11:12 PM
its not like that really she has her life i have mine she has no job no money and nowhere to move to i cant just put her on the street nobody deserves that right? I want an X like you!