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Topic: Asking for help
krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Sat 11/08/08 05:14 PM
Today is all we really have....make the most of it...the future is unknown...the past is unchangeable. Use hindsight...use foresight...but don't forget to apprecieate what is right in front of you.

fairycatcher31 Joined Sat 01/26/08 Posts: 3680	Sat 11/08/08 05:18 PM
I know it is easy to say....live one day at a time....but I am one of those damn impatient people! another flaw I have!

Twitch Joined Thu 09/27/07 Posts: 6199	Sat 11/08/08 05:22 PM
For me, asking for help was very difficult. But when I entered into reoovery 16 yrs ago I was taught that there are many things I can't do alone. Asking for help is taking a positive step no matter what the problem is. Speaking for myself only -- when I don't take a positive suggestion I only hurt myself. Talking things over with someone you trust works for me.

fairycatcher31 Joined Sat 01/26/08 Posts: 3680	Sat 11/08/08 05:23 PM
But what if the one you trust the most is the one you are hurting the most in all of this????

SharonM45458 Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 5694	Sat 11/08/08 05:45 PM
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fairycatcher31 Joined Sat 01/26/08 Posts: 3680	Sat 11/08/08 05:57 PM
Thanks to those who have answered..........but come on there has to be more people out there like me.........maybe we can help each other!!!!

JustAGuy2112 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 18033	Sat 11/08/08 06:10 PM
I don't ask anyone for anything. Simple enough.

GeniuSxBoY Joined Sun 06/15/08 Posts: 8190	Sat 11/08/08 06:17 PM


CoffeeSonata Joined Sat 10/04/08 Posts: 4054	Sat 11/08/08 06:19 PM
Ok I am asking for help...........anyone out there that has loved or is loved and is still affraid of repeating the past.......how are you getting thru that? Therapy.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 11/08/08 06:21 PM
How do you ask for help? How do you do it when you are affraid? Not so much affraid of the help but affraid of not getting the answers you want? You can barrel through fear even when it looks as though you cannot.

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Sat 11/08/08 06:22 PM
How do you ask for help? How do you do it when you are affraid? Not so much affraid of the help but affraid of not getting the answers you want? I've always been the one who gives the help -- Supportive Guy -- and it's difficult for me to ask for help. I have always tried to keep my own life simple and uncomplicated enough that I would have have relatively few problems, compared to the people I know -- I've never been in debt, never bought anything on credit, never had a family, never had a serious illness -- But the reality is, there really isn't anyone I can go to when I need help. And that can occasionally be frustrating.

markecephus Joined Sun 10/07/07 Posts: 13831	Sat 11/08/08 06:35 PM
I do have someone to go to, i might not always get an answer, but it makes asking the questions a lot easier.

fairycatcher31 Joined Sat 01/26/08 Posts: 3680	Sat 11/08/08 06:38 PM
Thanks everyone for the advice........guess therapy and time seems to be the best medicine. Sharon I hope we get thru this as lovers or as friends.........either one I hope to have you in my life!!! And I am sorry for what I have put you thru!!! I will always love you, at least the best I know how!!!!

SharonM45458 Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 5694	Sun 11/09/08 10:15 AM
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fairycatcher31 Joined Sat 01/26/08 Posts: 3680	Sun 11/09/08 06:04 PM
SO how much do you open up? I mean if someone loves you for what they thought you are, what if they don't love you for who you really are?? just asking for more advice here!! lol

SharonM45458 Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 5694	Sun 11/09/08 10:22 PM
SO how much do you open up? I mean if someone loves you for what they thought you are, what if they don't love you for who you really are?? just asking for more advice here!! lol You give them the opportunity to get to know who you really are. Then if they can't love u for who u are, at best you can be friends, and at worst you don't need them as a friend. You have to be who you really are! You don't want to spend the rest of your life pretending.