what if u fall in love w sum1 but in the back of ur mind u think that he
will find sum1 better even thou he tells u that he loves u 2 death and
would never leave u i mean u want so bad 2 belive him but ur past
tells u other wisebec u have heard evrything that he says 4rm atleast 10
of the other guys i mean u love this guy but u r affarid of bein hurt 2
what if???????????????????????????????????????????

i had that happen to me with a gal. and she went back with her ol man.
but she was crazy for me so she says. just be careful!!!

relax and enjoy. don't let the "someone better" cloud what's in front
of u. but look for follow thru of behavior consistent with what he's
telling u he feels about and thinks about u. as long as consistant
behavior flows... u know he's tellin u the truth.

thanks 4 that i needed that its nice 2 c that there r people out
there that actully have comon sence LOL

ty for the compliment and gl. : )

Bliss420, Love is about take chances, there could be 50/50 chance that
he really loves u. We can't judge the new guys for what others had done
in the past. You need to leave the past behind and look at him as fresh
start. Maybe its true and he really loves u.

Just remember, Bliss; If he can find someone better? YOU can damn sure
find someone better then HIM!

keep it all in that perspective and you'll be golden. -=x

Well everyone is not the same hun...every person is differen't in their
own way...nobody likes or wants to be hurt...others like to keep
distances from others whether emotionally and physically depending on
the circumstances..

But it's true...don't judge your past..only look at the here and now is
what counts for you...

Listen to your heart and spend time with him...but never trust right
away..but let things devlop over time with him... ^_^

i have a problem with that too, bliss..

love him and let yourself be loved..it sounds wonderful..enjoy!!

tretia is right, allowing yourself to be loved by someone is as
important in a relationship as loving them.

I agree not all guys are a like just take what he say at face value and
enjoy what he have to offer you to worry is to mess things up for you
big time take it from me I know LOL

I was once told by my ex boyfriend that "no men with their right mind
will want to have anything with me, that if any men that would have
anything with me it will be only to used me and for nothing else" Those
cruel words as you can imagine to this day are always in back of my mind
and always come to hunt me every time i enter a new relationship.I been
very unlucky in the Love department so far, but I keep trying to not
judge all the guys as my ex boyfriend. I try my best , hope for the best
and if the relationship does not work I keep on going, life will never
stop for anybody..

You can't bring the past relantionships into the new ones or it will be
doomed from the start. Just because what has happen in the past you
can't figure the next guy will do the same thing. If you don't follow
your heart then what if you hold back on the one true love that is
sitting in front of you with there heart laid out right in front of you
but you don't think he means it and you back off. The rest of your life
you will be thinking what if? Believe me we have all been hurt and have
been alone or we would not be here now. But in order to receive love you
must be able to give love. When you love you should love with your heart
body and soul. At least if it does not work out you know deep done that
you gave your all it was the other person that was holding back and
maybe it was due to they were afraid to open there heart all the way. Or
it just was not meant to be. For I believe that if the relantionship
does not work out that the reason is they just was not the right one
just another level in life we must get through in order to be ready for
the one true love to come. We must learn from our past relantionships
not let them drag us down. For if you really look back at them I almost
bet you can see what was not right with them and that you were not
truely happy with them I bet the ones you thought you were truely happy
with that you were given up things or changing the way you thought or
was just to make them happy. They say that when a person is least
looking for that special someone they seem to just appear in there lives
and sometimes they have always been there but you did not look at them
in that way so you never really saw that they were there the whole time.
Don't ever shut the doors to your heart or build the wall too high
around your feelings. For those that have been hurt after a relationship
knows what it is to love someone with all there heart. Its better to
know what love is then never knowing love at all. Hummm well think I
have said enough lol sorry I do get lost in my thoughts. Good luck!!

Don’t borrow trouble and don’t punish him for something that hasn’t
happened.

I agree with you and with what the other person say before you.

Sexym,

I just wanna give you a big hug - that's so sad...when I look at your
photo with your lil puppy it makes me smile and I think to myself what a
wonderful, kind, caring person. She must be as beautiful on the inside
as out to have a pic of her and her puppy here.

It's a big world, and not everyone thinks like your ex-nut bag
boyfriend. The world is full of kind, caring loving and compassionate
people...problem is seems what bad is done to us stands out more and we
remember it longer than we do the good.


Good bless,

What's the puppies name

Jaime

sexy m...guys say that hoping that they will destroy all of your self
confidence...don't listen to them! He is just saying that so you will be
there just in case he needs to come back to you. Men play cruel games
with our hearts sometimes...what you need to do is forget everything he
ever said to you. Move on with your life knowing that any man that gets
you will be one lucky sob...never let a man break your spirit :)
Happy hunting :)

Love, like everything else in life, is a lesson in leasrning. Our past
experiences shape our present selves not matter how much you don't want
them to. How do you think we learn anything? You make a mistake and
you learn from it. The operative phrase in that sentence is "learn from
it".

I'm learning right now. Learning about myself, about what I need, what
I want, and what I deserve. I'm really in a process of discovery right
now and it's not easy. I want to jump right back into the rut I've been
in...but thanks to some very awesome people in my life that love me I'm
not going to.

Bliss, don't hang anyone's behavior on anyone but them. That limits
your possibilities and may prevent you from finding what you truly seek.
However, there is something to be said for caution. You wouldn't cross
the street without looking both ways and there is something to be said
about doing that in the relationship department.

SexyMichy, that guy sounds like a bottom feeder. His self-esteem is
probably really low and the only way he could find to make hiself feel
better about himself is to put you down and make you miserable. People
like that suck, and I am truly sorry that he crossed your path. I've
been there before and I know how much those comments stick in your head.
Try drowning it out with your own positive comment to yourself (it
works, I swear). For years I've had this written on my mirror and I
read it to myself every morning:

"I am beautiful. I am intelligent. No matter what anyone says or does
to me, I am a worthwhile person. I love myself for who I am and I
deserve to be loved."

Just my 2 cents...

I don't know the circumstance of the situation but I usually go by gut
instincts. I guess you might want to do some soul searching before you
make a hasty decision.