Why is it that a man is all gung ho when you first starting talking? You really click with each other and share much in common.
Then all of a sudden he quits talking to you and you did nothing to cause this. I am still the same person he was all gung ho over at first.

you need to ask him, but some signs point to him moving on to talk to others..

This is a really great observation to put out there, gentle ... i have been on both sides of that one.

i agree with hockey that without communication there can be no way of actually knowing what is happening, but from my experience it is usually some underlying (conscious or unconscious) expectation that has either not been met ... or conversely - has been met and I am now to intimidated to move forward.

wanting my dreams to be my reality i have found is actually a little scary, and i have had to delve deeper into what those dreams actually are, because i do know that i can manifest them if i desire to do so.

for this reason i have backed off all social sites (and only back on this one for about a day), because the fact of the matter is that i truly do not know what i want in a relationship, so starting with a clean slate i have found has been the way for me to go, and therefor i am only looking for friends. this puts very little on the expectation side, other than to be there and be a good listener, and is about all i can handle with mutual respect for the other person at this time.

sad, but true, and at least i am not just bolting on kind, compassionate people like i have done so many times before.

thanks for bringing this up!

Maybe he's not that into you as he was in the beginning. Or maybe he took a long look at what you both wanted, and he decided that you weren't what he was looking for after all.


Or maybe.......just maybe.........



He could be just a plain ole jerk!

thank you for reading my topic and responding it puts a whole new light on this subject.
I think he is just a jerk.

Like your response gave me some things to think about thank you!

I caught on to that early in my online dating life. lol. I like to get to a quick coffee, count limbs, verify that the pictures are not 15 yrs old (some funny experiences here I'm sure for all reading this).

The whole purpose of us being here is to meet people. If I feel that we click, I want to meet and see if it's worth going into next steps.

Early on I let chats go way too long, wondering what I'm going to say when we do meet or just losing interest all together. So many variables.

Now if you chatted with the person, met him a couple of times and now not talking to you....I would say jerk.

J