You've married your true love and now you're stuck with a mother in law. Little did you know that now you would have to deal with the most difficult person on the planet, who does not think very highly of you. Learning to get along with your mother in law is a skill that takes practice, perserverance, and patience.
"How to Make Your Mother In Law Love You" or "How to Convince Your Mother In Law that You're Right and She's Wrong."
Instructions

Difficulty:

Moderately Challenging

Step 1. Start with your own attitude. Though you may think that your mother in law is the problem, you can not change her. You can only change yourself. Brainstorm ways that you can improve your attitude when you are around her. Do you automatically get defensive around her? Do you take stabs at her mothering practices? What can you do to be more pleasant?

Step 2. Try to concentrate on the good qualities and interests that your mother in law posesses. Focusing on her good aspects allows you to see more of her human quality. She is not just a monster out to get you. When you're in conversation with her, gently try to talk about her interests or her life before children. This may help develope a consideration for one another.

Step 3. If your mother in law makes a comment to you that is hurtful you should not retaliate with a returning hurtful comment, or defend that the comment is not true. It is difficult to have an argument by yourself. Rather, take a deep breath, express in a calm manner that what she just said hurt your feelings, but you know she didn't mean to hurt you (even if she did) so you will forgive her.

Step 4. Take responsibility for the situation. If a situation arises where your mother in law is accusing you of something that is not true, you should plainly state your innocence and try to drop the matter.

Step 5. If your mother in law trys to dredge up old wounds or brings up a bad situation that occurred in the past, you can ignore it, laugh it off, or try and change the subject. Do not let her push your buttons or draw you into a fight. Do your best to let it be a one person disagreement.

Step 6. Do not complain to your spouse or the rest of the family about your mother in law. This could only cause more animosity and bitterness. Keep the matter between you and her and do your best not to let it cause you to become angry.

Step 7. Be the bigger person in all situations. Always forgive. Try to forget the times you've been hurt and move forward.



Tips & Warnings
You do not have to take verbal abuse. Remove yourself from the situation and WALK AWAY.

Make an effort to be your mother in law's friend. Offer to hang out with her, just the two of you.



If this works for you, then let me know.

#8.... Shoot her in the head.

All good points,point #7 is the best i think..be the better person and deal with things like a man with no insecurities..and if you always treat her and her family with no faults,than the old lady has issues and is just looking to make others as miserable as she.

I say marry a guy who's mom is no longer around .. it's easier .. trust me on this

My mom is no longer around.

well there ya go See how easy that was

Yeah....ummm...all of those things are kinda tough to pull off when the Mother in Law insists that you are the Anti Christ...lmao

Try being a woman and your MIL thinking that!!! Although we get along famously now.

Yep. My mom thought that about my former sister in law...lol

My mother in law LOATHES me!

Well with you having that nasty habit of sticking a finger in your nose....who can blame her??? lmao

Does not have this problem. No mother in law.

...That and I rip my teddy bears apart

Good thing

<<<<he doesn't belong to you then. I don't think he'd appreciate that.

i get along great with my mother in law, aways have..........its her son i have issues with and cant stand

lock her noisey ass in the trunk and let it roll into a lake???

Never agree to go to the inlaws for the holidays. Never agree to speak to her on the phone, since the lousy ***** dissed you from day one. Disappear when she shows up at "your" house for an extended stay. Hotels are always a nice reprieve and you can watch porno while the wife's away. Refuse to give into drama perpetrated by the old hag. Live life on your own terms and recognize it for what it is. Mama wants to control and manipulate her daughter till the day she dies. Then you share in the inheritance. Make yourself scarce then rake in the big bucks. Tell it like it is, thus this post.

happiness is, seein your mother inlaw on the back of a milk carton.!!!!

Just shoot her!