Hello Rapunzel

I guess I'm thinking that I'm in no hurry, but most mailing me seem to be anxious to meet quickly. Frankly, I just don't have the time for it now and thought that it worked more slowly than that. It looks like everyone is different about their methodology.

yes... a lot of factors come into play


for me...I just turned 55


and am still very vibrant & youthful


and i have been widowed twice


& single now for farrrrrr too long



& i think it is high time that my turn comes


but still I am very very selective


and i just do not want to settle ////


i have spent so long figuring out who i am

aside from being wife & Mother

and have spent plenty of time in introspection....


and I simply feel that i deserve the very best

and if i cannot find him,

then i will continue to be single

and enjoy the company of lots of male friends






Abe Lincoln & my dear Mother said


" it is better to be alone


than in poor company "




and i wholeheartedly agree


any day and every day

Yes {{{Vanessa}}}

He is being cute......and I have joked with him in threads before......

And I was joking with him.....that is why I was sticking "my" tongue out at him too.

Hope all is well with you and Mom, Lady Nessa.

Okay ...sorry

i'll be nice Lady Eileen ...


my so soooo bad



and very very feisty



thank you Honey...I miss you

Mom is doing okay hanging in there



Congratulations to The Captain


for ........well.....


< aside from having you >>>


i don't know if it is okay to say


but you know....

sorry Karla May...


didn't mean to hijack your thread....




Now....




back to your survey

My expectations have changed since I started here. In the beginning, I looked at it as a possible solution, now I'm more laid back about it, and don't really think of it at all. It's more of a place to socialize and possibly meet new people through. They say that viewpoint is the true secret to finding someone. Don't know about that yet...ask me again in ten years.

Mainly here for friends but am open for what could become of it all. Personally within my experience scope of this site I like to meet as soon as possible to see if we click like we do online/phone, usually I like to hear their voice and the way they speak when on the phone (somethings are difficult based off an e-mail).

It's an hour or so a day a couple of times a week's distraction.

I catch up on the o/s friend's goss.. then meander back to my day, and my world.

Dating?

NO bloody way!!!

Once bitten forever and ever and ever shy....people can pretend to be whoever they wish they were....

I have no tolerance for pretenders...so it's a social site for an aussie to connect with friends who live far far away.

well it depends where hey are

i have meet a few on line sooner than others

and i have gone a long distance to meet as well

and i do not regret any of the meetings

they just did not work out

if i could i would be going and meeting a few more nice people from here but cost prohibits a lot of travel for me

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i also yes this site (when the occasion presents itself) to learn more information on a variety of subjects

i do this trying to use a civil debate style format (which many find hard to do it often degenerates into personal attacks [so i have tried to avoid it usually unless it is an interesting subject] it is a shame because there are a lot of intelligent people here) so sometimes i just quit signing in for weeks at a time

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email and phone calls ae ok but they are just emails and phone calls (anyone can act like anything for a year or so b4 they stat being the real them) not all are like that but some are and they screw it up for the real people online


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just be careful and always leave the info with someone you trust if you go to meet anyone

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but hey what do i know

Unfortuneately a lot of the local matches are never in the forums so you try to get to know them and frequently find out they are looking for something clear different than you clearly state you are if you meet in person. Many just want to call when they are at home drunk or depressed and talk sex or their problems. I am retired social worker I don't need that in my personal life.

It is a pleasant past time to chat in the forums.

Most of the guys I have been interested in are way far away and I am not looking to have house guests.

I take my time, people change just like anyware else and if they don';t want to take there time to get to know me. Then i move on.

chat online, talk on phone, then decide from there.


I tend to go on my gut feelings and how well I communicate with the other.