I wonder if anyone feels like I do at times.
Met someone a while back, seeing him off and on for about 10 months. Finally told him my feelings are a little deeper than friendship. Ah, big mistake being honest, he retreats.
I had told him months ago, I don't want to possess anyone, or change them. If I choose to be with them, it is honest and open.
I feel like people just can't communicate openly anymore, things are always read into the words that are said. Just because I said my feelings are going deeper, he jumped to the conclusion that I want to live together. Not the case. If that was the case I would have said so. I just wish relationships could be honest and open...upfront.
I'm ok, alone, but at times would really enjoy someone's company and maybe let things progress naturally and see where they lead.
Ok, I guess I've vented enough.

It's not you, it's him...He was of commitment. You need that

You did the right thing Any man with half a brain would keep you as a friend, if not more.

"Pfffft" MEN!

Maybe he just didnt like the term deeper even if u explained what it meant,he may not want any sort of commitment to being other than casual friends..but your right about the communication,because he should have at least explained his side if he hasnt already.Saying "Deeper" ,to a person not serious, practically means to some that u want to inbed yourself or take a part of them and make it more serious.If he likes you ,at the very least he could try to explain his emotions...

Good Point.
I tend to look at the big picture and live simply with out baggage, I'm sure I may need to explain that again.
I may also need to re-state, that I'm ok alone, company is nice, but I'm not looking for anyone to rescue me. Just take it as it comes openly.

I don't understand men at all.

I do. they are people who want someone who cares with out possessing or smothering them. Just like me. They don't want baggage, openness and frankness are definitely high on the list. Men are people, just like women, and I firmly believe that communication is the key.

That's ok. We don't understand you folks either. :-)

not again

Ok, men you tell me....
If something is black do you want me to tell you upfront, or say it is gray and him and haw about it for a month?

I always get my way in the end. And, I like it on top.

Well at least were communicating now lol,point being it is that its the guys deal not yours for misunderstanding...and you should always be up front with black or gray,but it depends on the person.Not just men but anyone,some can take subtle and some need straight up talk

ok, then here is my dilemma
I am supposed to go to his house for Thanksgiving and feel there is a definite miscommunication. I wish we could get together and talk and clear the air before that date. But we live 3 hours apart. Time and money are a factor. Yes, there is email communication, but oh so easy to hide behind words on a screen and the phone, but again there not the same as face to face. I'm going to let him know I wish we could meet before the holiday thing, but I don't feel because of distance that will happen.

Going too meet someone at there house for thankgiving before a meeting of face to face to clear the air of any misinterpretation? Huge no-no..at least let him know what your all about and find out what his intentions are..i could imagine meeting at a park to discuss things as people face to face..but thankgiving? nah..sort it out before that or dont go at all

Thank you
That has been my thought all along.
I just wanted someone else's opinion, so I know I'm not totally whack here.
I'm not good in groups anyway, and it would be the first time meeting his family. There will be no alone time.
As far as my relationship with this man goes, I see potential, but again with my eyes wide open, I see issues that must be addressed, mainly communication.

Right there with ya...seemed like we had something going on despite a LDR situation. The suggestion of getting together again made him go MIA. His loss, I guess...but apparently it's time for me to move on.

It's easy. Give us sex three times a day, food three times a day, allow us to watch football one day a week, give us our "me" time, and last but not least...give good head. Yup...that about sums it up.

*printing this out*