I am a widow living in Dallas. I was married for 31 years. My late husband had Parkinson Disease the last 16 years of our marriage and it was a hard road. It is very hard to start living life again after being married so long and living alone is not much fun either.

I am hanging in their, I am happy just no friends on Mingle 2

Hi Kiteman, I went to your profile to click on "want to be your friend" and I couldn't due to your prerequisites/strict criteria. Every once in awhile I will smoke a cigarette out in my garage and that behavior is not allowed by you. I would never blow the smoke in your face or through the computer to you. I don't roll them up in my tee-shirt sleeve or park a cigarette behind my ear. I guess I could fib to you about it but then I wouldn't be a good friend. But I'm not a friend anyway because you won't let me. I'm not Kiteman's friend.

Things that make you go hmmmmmmmmmmm. Requirements for a friend. Kind a sad. but good morning all. Kat, good to see your hangin in there, that's what I am doing also but getting a tad bit tired of the high school actions of the grown ups and I use this phrase lightly that want a LTR and put so many borders up they will never find anyone.

I think after a year of reading, allot have been burned in a divorce. They don't want to support someone else. They don't want this that. But of course a sexual friendship is fine. Allot of taking and no giving. This can be both ways so men don't jump on me.

I'm in Atlanta. Was married 27 years. Widow for 12. I've met many nice gentlemen. Several that wanted long term, but no chemistry on my part. Just can't seem to find the nice honest gentleman I'm looking for.

Welcome to the family. Many of us widow/widower's here. We chat & help eachother thru life. So jump in & hope you enjoy.

A FEELING TO BE WIDOW SHOWS LONELINESS, GET A COMPANY AND ENJOY

AND IF SOMEBODY FEELS LONELY, I AM HERE TO BE THEIR FRIEND, CHAT AND MAILING AND BE HAPPY WITH OUR FRIENDSHIP

Can somebody tell me what it means when the emails get going pretty good and then the guy drops off the face of the earth for awhile and then re-appears? Someone here in my town shows interest in then I suggest we meet for coffee and he disappears again.

Just a fact of life, but could mean he has secrets he cannot share.
Be careful, guard your feelings.

I was married almost 32 years widowed over 4. Life is lonely in your 50's when you're alone.

I was married close to 30 yrs. Been widowed 2 yrs now. The 4th of July was our annivesary. He picked the day so we could always be together on our anniversary. Very hard getting back in this game. I'm a rookie and feel so old fashioned and out-dated!

It sure is nice to get a guy's opinion...serious.

2 weeks from today, July 20, Jerry will be gone 2 years.

I too have felt alone and wondered if I would ever find happiness again. The key to what has helped me survive is GOD, prayer, and my church. Without those, I probably would have lost it by now. I have never been without a man in my life since I married at 16. I finally surrendered my feelings to GOD, told him that he either had to completely remove the desire to have someone in my life or he was going to have to send me someone. Within a week I had met 5 men, yes, 5. None of them were for me, then a man from my past showed up, he too is not right for me. Then one day out of the blue on another site I met a man from my own town. I have known his dad for years, actually related distantly to Jerry. I agreed to meet him and we have seen each other every day since, day 45 today. I like him a lot, but I'm not in love with him, but I think he's in love with me from some of the things he's said. He has made me smile and laugh, which I haven't done in a very long time. Let's see what the future holds, it may or may not work out, but for now I am happy for the 1st time in a long time. No, I'll never forget or love anyone else like I love Jerry and no one will ever take his place, I don't expect to find anyone like him and am not looking for anyone like him, because I don't want to catch myself comparing him to someone else. There is hope for all of us. I hope you all find happiness again soon.

I cant seem to find that Mr right. OR the ones I dated are sick or dying from something at 50 and over. But I have God and he helps me through each day with out my husband

I find handling the finances to be a real pain. I went from Mommy & Daddy to marriage and have never had to manage a dime. Now I'm finding that the cable people and other utilities have no sense of humor.

widow over 3 years now

Since I will be 50 in a week I can now post here. After reading all of the posts I am thinking that I am the only widow on here who did not have the joy of a happy marriage. I was married for 10 years, and am widowed for 10 years. Maybe someday I will get the joy and pleasure of knowing what it is like to be a cherished companion and love to someone. Until then I will take joy in reading about all the good marriages that have been out there.

Snugs, all marriages are both good & bad, otherwise none of us would have BEEN married.
Try to dwell on the good & forget the bad, makes acceptance much easier.

Hugs I'm there too