After dateing a long time and seeing what is "out there" I have to say that a lot of guys deserved to be dumped. BUT I have seen a significant number of guys who have been with self centered ball busters and finally got enough. Women who jump on guys for every little thing, treat grown men like children, and think that coming home means their time to take over the parenting and household chores, and never want to do anything to look like a woman or share sex have men who will live down to their worst expectations or sometimes if they really love them or at least their children tolerate it in more or less parallel existence. Many marriages can be saved and actually be happy if spouses quit trying to compeate or blame thier spouses for what they are unhappy about.

Thank you! Now get me a beer, dammit!

Ya know ive been thinking the same for years

I am asking because you said that you were married to a man who expected you to do everything and that you did it and that was the way it was supposed to be. Do you believe that statement to be true?

Kiss my @ss!

and ur paper and ur slippers...lol

And that beer better be open by the time it reaches my hand.


oh and by the way.....BACK SCRATCHER!! Get your BACKSCRATCHER!! Back Scratchers sold here.

Would it be sexist to say...GLADLY??

My paper and slippers are gladly handed to me by my DOG - not to mention, he appropriately wags his tail when he delivers them too.

I think I'll marry HIM!

I've been in the relationships where I had to wait on him hand and foot. And some of it would not have been so bad, if he would have appreciated it. That's the key factor in my opinion. If your partner doesn't show any appreciation for what you are doing, you are just not going to want to do it. But when they do, not only are you going to want to do things for them, but you are going to be more willing to take extra steps to please them as well. And they will be willing to reciprocate too. It's like a never ending cycle, and that's how it should be.

To make sure that he is emotionally, mentally and physically alright, and that is a mutual job!

I didn't even read the replies..so excuse me if I repeat or even offend. I think that is part of the reason that divorces have been on the rise. I believe in independence and all that, but I truly believe that SOME women have lost respect for men and the importance of letting your man know that you are there to support him and help him in all that he does. (of course that goes both ways)

When we are too busy with our own stuff and can't take the time to be there when your man gets home at the end of the day to hug him and offer him a nice meal and conversation, we begin to lose the connection a marriage is supposed to have. The happier he is, the happier you are.

I agree with that statement. There is no need for exclamation points. I was asking for clarification on your statement.

I'm just enthusiastic when I talk...there was no hidden meaning in my exclamation. Sorry if I offended!

Thank you!!! I agree wholeheartedly!

right back atcha

Hmmm....I just figured out my problem. I live alone, and I own a dishwasher.

Loading the dishwasher counts.

But it doesn't help with the "living alone" part.