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buffry Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 2647	Sat 10/25/08 09:51 AM
A lady has the right to do anything they want to do. That stay home stuff is over. NO ONE is talking about being a stay at home mom, silly!!! And no, you don't have the right, if you do not want to responsibility of being a wife and mother, do not get married or have kids!!!

Mayhem_J Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 14265	Sat 10/25/08 09:51 AM
It depends on what you mean by roles. As long as both parties are getting their needs met than I don't think it really matters who takes out the trash. I gotta role for you.....HA HA HA!! role playing is fun. Bad nurse.....lol!!!

buffry Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 2647	Sat 10/25/08 09:54 AM
Women's Lib is about a woman being able to CHOOSE what she wants to do with her life. It's not about being a deadbeat anything, nor does she have to pretend to be Wonder Woman by doing it ALL. People who do not take care of the responsibilities they "sign up" for, that's another idea and subject altogether. If by "taking care of their man" means working full time, taking care of the kids, taking care of the house, chores, errands, and then WAITING on a fit, hale man who wants a mommy-wife, SCREW IT!! Got kids already, thank you very much!! Well...personally, I hate that attitude. Being in a relationship is about taking care of each other!!! Yes, you may have kids, and he may be able bodied, but who says a little nurturing is wrong??

breathless1 Joined Tue 09/23/08 Posts: 490	Sat 10/25/08 09:55 AM
I believe in "partnership" in a relationship. It's not about who does what/when/where/how...but, rather it just gets done...together. I have no problem braiding my little girl's hair or washing the dishes when needed, and my ex-wife has no problem in practicing with my eldest son to perfect his softball pitch or helping my youngest son fix the chain on his bicycle. I think in a healthy relationship, the roles can easily be reversed when needed. It's called mutual respect and meeting the needs of another when they arise.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sat 10/25/08 09:58 AM
Bad nurse.....lol!!! Sponge bath?

buffry Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 2647	Sat 10/25/08 09:59 AM
I believe in "partnership" in a relationship. It's not about who does what/when/where/how...but, rather it just gets done...together. I have no problem braiding my little girl's hair or washing the dishes when needed, and my ex-wife has no problem in practicing with my eldest son to perfect his softball pitch or helping my youngest son fix the chain on his bicycle. I think in a healthy relationship, the roles can easily be reversed when needed. It's called mutual respect and meeting the needs of another when they arise. Good point and well taken...I'm talking about the women who get soo caught up in being "Woman, Hear me Roar", that they don't take care of their families at all!!

Mayhem_J Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 14265	Sat 10/25/08 10:00 AM
Bad nurse.....lol!!! Sponge bath? UH huh huh huh uhhhhh....who gets the bath and who gets to sponge?

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sat 10/25/08 10:01 AM
A lady has the right to do anything they want to do. That stay home stuff is over. NO ONE is talking about being a stay at home mom, silly!!! And no, you don't have the right, if you do not want to responsibility of being a wife and mother, do not get married or have kids!!! I think you have probably never been with a guy who felt like you should work full time and still have dinner on the table every night and the house cleaned up and beer in the fridge and after all that still expected a BJ before he went to bed. Nurturing each other and meeting each other's needs is of the utmost importance. However, traditional male/female roles are not necessarily the way to do that. Nothing sexier than a guy who can do the dishes. He gets a BJ everytime.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sat 10/25/08 10:01 AM
I believe in "partnership" in a relationship. It's not about who does what/when/where/how...but, rather it just gets done...together. I have no problem braiding my little girl's hair or washing the dishes when needed, and my ex-wife has no problem in practicing with my eldest son to perfect his softball pitch or helping my youngest son fix the chain on his bicycle. I think in a healthy relationship, the roles can easily be reversed when needed. It's called mutual respect and meeting the needs of another when they arise. Good point and well taken...I'm talking about the women who get soo caught up in being "Woman, Hear me Roar", that they don't take care of their families at all!! Both men and women do that and it is the children who suffer the most for it.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sat 10/25/08 10:02 AM
Bad nurse.....lol!!! Sponge bath? UH huh huh huh uhhhhh....who gets the bath and who gets to sponge? You can pick.

buffry Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 2647	Sat 10/25/08 10:03 AM
A lady has the right to do anything they want to do. That stay home stuff is over. NO ONE is talking about being a stay at home mom, silly!!! And no, you don't have the right, if you do not want to responsibility of being a wife and mother, do not get married or have kids!!! I think you have probably never been with a guy who felt like you should work full time and still have dinner on the table every night and the house cleaned up and beer in the fridge and after all that still expected a BJ before he went to bed. Nurturing each other and meeting each other's needs is of the utmost importance. However, traditional male/female roles are not necessarily the way to do that. Nothing sexier than a guy who can do the dishes. He gets a BJ everytime. Yes I have been with a man like that. And held my job and my responsibilities as a wife. That is how it should be!

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sat 10/25/08 10:05 AM
Yes I have been with a man like that. And held my job and my responsibilities as a wife. That is how it should be! What are the responsibilities of a wife to her husband?

breathless1 Joined Tue 09/23/08 Posts: 490	Sat 10/25/08 10:06 AM
I believe in "partnership" in a relationship. It's not about who does what/when/where/how...but, rather it just gets done...together. I have no problem braiding my little girl's hair or washing the dishes when needed, and my ex-wife has no problem in practicing with my eldest son to perfect his softball pitch or helping my youngest son fix the chain on his bicycle. I think in a healthy relationship, the roles can easily be reversed when needed. It's called mutual respect and meeting the needs of another when they arise. Good point and well taken...I'm talking about the women who get soo caught up in being "Woman, Hear me Roar", that they don't take care of their families at all!! I understand what you are saying. I must say, in my experiences, I have seen more men do this than women though. IMO, women who do this fall into one of two categories: 1. They are just extremely selfish people by nature. or 2. They have found themselves so caught-up in defending their gender and their power struggle to be viewed as "strong independent" women that they lose their whole sense of self and who they really are as a person...and a woman.

buffry Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 2647	Sat 10/25/08 10:06 AM
Yes I have been with a man like that. And held my job and my responsibilities as a wife. That is how it should be! What are the responsibilities of a wife to her husband? Do you really need to ask?

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sat 10/25/08 10:07 AM
Yes I have been with a man like that. And held my job and my responsibilities as a wife. That is how it should be! What are the responsibilities of a wife to her husband? Do you really need to ask? apparently, yes.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Sat 10/25/08 10:08 AM
responsibilities is a pretty long word i just realized that it has 16 letters in it,wow

buffry Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 2647	Sat 10/25/08 10:08 AM
I believe in "partnership" in a relationship. It's not about who does what/when/where/how...but, rather it just gets done...together. I have no problem braiding my little girl's hair or washing the dishes when needed, and my ex-wife has no problem in practicing with my eldest son to perfect his softball pitch or helping my youngest son fix the chain on his bicycle. I think in a healthy relationship, the roles can easily be reversed when needed. It's called mutual respect and meeting the needs of another when they arise. Good point and well taken...I'm talking about the women who get soo caught up in being "Woman, Hear me Roar", that they don't take care of their families at all!! I understand what you are saying. I must say, in my experiences, I have seen more men do this than women though. IMO, women who do this fall into one of two categories: 1. They are just extremely selfish people by nature. or 2. They have found themselves so caught-up in defending their gender and their power struggle to be viewed as "strong independent" women that they lose their whole sense of self and who they really are as a person...and a woman. Thank you...someone who can still be independant, yet not lose her values and pride in being a woman!

buffry Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 2647	Sat 10/25/08 10:09 AM Edited by buffry on Sat 10/25/08 10:09 AM
I believe in "partnership" in a relationship. It's not about who does what/when/where/how...but, rather it just gets done...together. I have no problem braiding my little girl's hair or washing the dishes when needed, and my ex-wife has no problem in practicing with my eldest son to perfect his softball pitch or helping my youngest son fix the chain on his bicycle. I think in a healthy relationship, the roles can easily be reversed when needed. It's called mutual respect and meeting the needs of another when they arise. Good point and well taken...I'm talking about the women who get soo caught up in being "Woman, Hear me Roar", that they don't take care of their families at all!! I understand what you are saying. I must say, in my experiences, I have seen more men do this than women though. IMO, women who do this fall into one of two categories: 1. They are just extremely selfish people by nature. or 2. They have found themselves so caught-up in defending their gender and their power struggle to be viewed as "strong independent" women that they lose their whole sense of self and who they really are as a person...and a woman. Thank you...someone who can still be independant, yet not lose her values and pride in being a woman! Sorry missed your gender, lol.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Sat 10/25/08 10:10 AM
Relationships, marriages and families (in my opinion) should be eglitarian. This means that all responsibilites are shared! I agree with breathless' example of partnership.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sat 10/25/08 10:11 AM
Thank you...someone who can still be independant, yet not lose her values and pride in being a woman! But, what specifically does that mean? What do you think a woman should be doing for her husband that you feel many women are not doing? Is it dinner, sex, housecleaning, what? Values and pride are vague words. What are the specific repsonsibilities that are not being done?