Thanks, but I tried that. And I was told that I had to get rid of the hatred in my heart before I could be accepted into God's Grace. And like I've said, I've been trying, for years to do that. I just can't do it.

Why would you get rid of it... Embrace it.. give it a big 'there, there, thats ok' hug... and it might go away.

Why would you get rid of it... Embrace it.. give it a big 'there, there, thats ok' hug... and it might go away.

Anger and fear create hate.

We all have our likes and dislikes and sometimes hatred creeps in.

The hatred binds you to the person that you hate just as love binds you to the person you love, but hatred eats at you from the inside and it will harm you more than the person you hate.

Hatred destroys the vessel it is kept in. It is like a cancer. It can literally cause serious illness because with that feeling come feelings of guilt, resentment, anger, frustration etc. These are emotions that can damage your health very quickly.

The embracing of that feeling is simply admitting without guilt that.. hey... "I don't like you at all" or saying, "I think you are a despicable person. I don't want you in my life. I hate you because.... etc etc blah blah..

It is okay to decide not to like someone. But leave it at that. As long as your hatred does not cause you to seek to destroy and get even and remain attached to them, just accept that you don't like them and get on with your life.

Lots of people don't like each other or are angry at each other. They usually have a good reason for it too.

What feeds you guilt about this feeling is that you think it makes you a bad person to have this feeling. It doesn't.

The final cure for hatred is understanding and acceptance. If you can't understand why a person is the way they are then understand that they are probably sick and miserable themselves and just accept that.

I have hated a person who I now realize is just sick or insane or otherwise unbalanced and dysfunctional. Don't let yourself be dysfunctional just because someone else is. Understand that you can't fix them or their dysfunction.

Then accept and let it go. You don't have to ever "love" them. Just understand that they have a problem. Don't let it become your problem and don't let your feelings make you ill.

Be well.

JB

Thanks, but I tried that. And I was told that I had to get rid of the hatred in my heart before I could be accepted into God's Grace. And like I've said, I've been trying, for years to do that. I just can't do it.

MsCarmen?

Someone told you wrong( about having to get rid of the hatred, before you could come to God).

Actually...God wants you to come to Him...
JUST... AS... YOU... ARE...
...

and GOD is the One that will then help you get rid of the hatred .

Just Come to Him ....just as you are, Precious.
Then God will help you do the rest.

((((((((MsCarmen)))))))))

I appreciate what you said Jeannie, but it's so much easier said then done. And I can't accept it and let it go. I've been trying. If I could, I would have done it by now. It's like the hatred has become a part of me. It's there every day, and no matter what I try to do to get rid of it, it's always there.

But how can I do that when the Bible clearly states that I can't be saying that I love God, when I am saying I hate my Father. How can I be worthy enough to approach Him and ask Him for help when I bear this hatred?

But how can I do that when the Bible clearly states that I can't be saying that I love God, when I am saying I hate my Father. How can I be worthy enough to approach Him and ask Him for help when I bear this hatred?

Maybe you need to find a different vision of God that doesn't make you feel so unworthy.

Have you considered a religion that isn't based on guilt and shame?

Maybe you are right Jeanie. Maybe I am getting some kind of gratification by feeling this way. It's like I feel like I am entitled to feel this way. And I know that to have a loving and sincere relationship with God, I need to change that. I am just having a very difficult time changing my way of thinking. My father molested me from the time I was 5 years old, til I was 13. I have lived with the nightmares my entire life. My way of living is surrounded by those memories and so is my every day thinking. There is not a day that goes by, that those memories don't have an impact on me, or my every day decisions. And I hate him for that. There is no other word to describe it. And to me, using any other word to describe how I feel about him, would just be a lie.