I got a call from my boss today telling me that he "let go" the manager in one of the hotels back in the area that I'm from. I told him last year that I was interested in going back. I have almost no friends here outside of work. I am very very close with my next door neighbor tho. She's the best friend I have. And I love her kids too... in fact, I'm going to be her daughter's Godmother at her upcoming baptismal. The job is 2 hours away from here. It's where my parents and siblings are. My old friends... it's my "home". Sometimes I miss being there... sometimes I don't. And I will be almost double the time away from my boyfriend. Which totally sucks. I talked to him about it a little bit, and all he really said was to do what's best for me and my daughter. I don't know what else I expected him to say... It really is my decision. But I have no idea what to do. There's pros and cons to doing both. Trust me, I am weighed them... I'm so confused...

2 hours isn't terribly far from your neighbor.
you could still visit.
will the move bring more money or benefits for you and your daughter?

i'd factor in the benefit package and salary, but it sounds like moving " back home " might be the right thing for you to do. now the boyfriend thing might be sticky - this will tell how connected you two really are, if you are really connected then you two will make the distance problem work.

Would your boyfriend consider moving to be with you once you moved back and were settled in?

Go back home so you can be around friends & family

the money and benefits would be about the same... maybe a lil more but not much. So the money really isn't an issue...

I don't think so... he has kids here and I would never ask him to move away from his kids.

anyone ever been thru something like this?

I told him last year that I was interested in going back.



has this changed in the past year?

Don't listen anybody.do what is best for you

Yes. But in some ways... I still am interested. I just don't know right now.

meditate on it...the decision will become clear

if you make good money, you can afford 2 hrs driving to see the people you love. go for the job girl!

How about somewhere in between..an hour away from each

yea right. good point

Then I would be driving an hour to work and back everyday. I can't afford that. Especially with winter coming up...

I drive 5 hrs every day for work . not a big deal.sometimes is fun

That's just crazy!!

Jill, if it were me I would opt to stay where you are. How many times in life do you have a great friend AND a great guy? I live 9 hours away from my family and old friends. I just made new ones here. (still waiting on the great guy...)