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The snow in Montana was three feet high Lady at the counter said, "There ain't no flights" So he called her on the telephone, He said I'll rent a car And I'll drive home. She said, "I'll wait for you like I did last year At Christmas time with your family here, And your truck broke down Out in San Antone And the gifts stayed wrapped Till you got home, Oh this ain't nothing new, Sweetheart I'll wait for you." Now he's on his cell phone In a Coupe deVille Talking to the one he loves and always will His heart is breaking Cause she's there alone Her heart is aching Cause she wants him home She says "i'll wait for you Like in '68 when our child was due I said It will have to wait Until his dad gets here, And stands by my side, Remember dear our son's first cry. oh this ain't nothing new, Sweetheart I'll wait for you." He didn't stop all day To eat a bite, And he finally got there around midnight The doctor said she's in a better place She said to give you this note, Just in case. And it said "I'll wait for you At heaven's gate, Oh, I don't care how long it takes And I'll tell St. Pete I can't come in Without my love and my best friend, Oh this ain't nothing new, Sweetheart I'll wait for you. P.S. I love you too Sweatheart I'll wait for you..." I love that song. It still makes me cry. |
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He has to be really careful with his history of violating, the parole board looks really closely at that stuff, his ability to follow the rules, etc. I worked in the prison system for 17 years and worked around the parole board at that time. They are real sticklers for rules and the inmates following the rules. He needs to start obeying his rules and show he can do what he is supposed to or he could end up in big trouble with some major time to do in prison. Part of his recovery is taking responsibility for his actions. He NEEDS to get serious and take responsibility and do what he is supposed to and stop violating the rules or they will come down on him and hard. if you viloate parole cause you got caught with a controlled substance... what happens?? do you go back and finsh the entire ORIGIANL sentence with no early release??? Every state is different, but that is a very real possibility. Some states don't even have parole boards anymore, we don't, have different sentencing that is controlled by the courts, not the board. But I would say likely, yes, to answer your question, but I am not an expert, again, depends on your state and the laws there. i think parole violation should be taken very seriously repeat offenders need prosecution. i can so see my daughter in heels and a nice business suite prosecuting tem (my dream...probably not hers) Even for a drug offense? |
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He has to be really careful with his history of violating, the parole board looks really closely at that stuff, his ability to follow the rules, etc. I worked in the prison system for 17 years and worked around the parole board at that time. They are real sticklers for rules and the inmates following the rules. He needs to start obeying his rules and show he can do what he is supposed to or he could end up in big trouble with some major time to do in prison. Part of his recovery is taking responsibility for his actions. He NEEDS to get serious and take responsibility and do what he is supposed to and stop violating the rules or they will come down on him and hard. if you viloate parole cause you got caught with a controlled substance... what happens?? do you go back and finsh the entire ORIGIANL sentence with no early release??? Every state is different, but that is a very real possibility. Some states don't even have parole boards anymore, we don't, have different sentencing that is controlled by the courts, not the board. But I would say likely, yes, to answer your question, but I am not an expert, again, depends on your state and the laws there. i think parole violation should be taken very seriously repeat offenders need prosecution. i can so see my daughter in heels and a nice business suite prosecuting tem (my dream...probably not hers) he violated a condition he was never supposed to have. his parole officer ****ed up. yes he violated, but he did it for the good to help a good friend that needed to get out of the drug scene! thats what recovering addicts do, they help each other when theres somebody that needs it. i understand he could have called somebody else to send after his friend, but he wasnt thinking like that at the time. he realizes that now, and this is not going to happen again! |
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He has to be really careful with his history of violating, the parole board looks really closely at that stuff, his ability to follow the rules, etc. I worked in the prison system for 17 years and worked around the parole board at that time. They are real sticklers for rules and the inmates following the rules. He needs to start obeying his rules and show he can do what he is supposed to or he could end up in big trouble with some major time to do in prison. Part of his recovery is taking responsibility for his actions. He NEEDS to get serious and take responsibility and do what he is supposed to and stop violating the rules or they will come down on him and hard. if you viloate parole cause you got caught with a controlled substance... what happens?? do you go back and finsh the entire ORIGIANL sentence with no early release??? Every state is different, but that is a very real possibility. Some states don't even have parole boards anymore, we don't, have different sentencing that is controlled by the courts, not the board. But I would say likely, yes, to answer your question, but I am not an expert, again, depends on your state and the laws there. i think parole violation should be taken very seriously repeat offenders need prosecution. i can so see my daughter in heels and a nice business suite prosecuting tem (my dream...probably not hers) Even for a drug offense? he wasnt violated for a drug offense, and even if he was, the solution isnt jail or prison, its rehab or drug counciling. sending ppl to jail doesnt teach them anything about how to stay clean. all they learn in jail is how to become better criminals! |
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OH SNAPS
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I have so much to say, but it is going to fall on deaf ears, so NM.....
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I have so much to say, but it is going to fall on deaf ears, so NM..... |
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I'm mute as well
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you kno what, for the record, my man is a wonderful man, and he just made a mistake, he is learning from it, and is still in the process of learning how to make it in the outside world. he is early in his recovery and at this point it is baby steps. its about progress, not perfection. but his intentions are always good, and we cant hold the past against him if today hes trying to better himself and wants to work towards having a positive and good life for him and myself. no one on here can judge him if they dont even kno anything about him considering they have never met him. im not one to wait for anybody that gets locked up while i am with them, but he has made such an impact on me and i see how amazing he is, so im making an exception and waiting for him this one time. everybody deserves a chance to better themselves and who would i be to give up on him? i was with him the night he was in violation, and i kno for a fact he didnt do anything wrong and was only trying to help a sick friend. whats so wrong with that?
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you kno what, for the record, my man is a wonderful man, and he just made a mistake, he is learning from it, and is still in the process of learning how to make it in the outside world. he is early in his recovery and at this point it is baby steps. its about progress, not perfection. but his intentions are always good, and we cant hold the past against him if today hes trying to better himself and wants to work towards having a positive and good life for him and myself. no one on here can judge him if they dont even kno anything about him considering they have never met him. im not one to wait for anybody that gets locked up while i am with them, but he has made such an impact on me and i see how amazing he is, so im making an exception and waiting for him this one time. everybody deserves a chance to better themselves and who would i be to give up on him? i was with him the night he was in violation, and i kno for a fact he didnt do anything wrong and was only trying to help a sick friend. whats so wrong with that? The fact that you are defensive about it....speaks volumes dearie.... |
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do you want my honest answer to your last question.. or do you want me to tell you what you want to hear?
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you kno what, for the record, my man is a wonderful man, and he just made a mistake, he is learning from it, and is still in the process of learning how to make it in the outside world. he is early in his recovery and at this point it is baby steps. its about progress, not perfection. but his intentions are always good, and we cant hold the past against him if today hes trying to better himself and wants to work towards having a positive and good life for him and myself. no one on here can judge him if they dont even kno anything about him considering they have never met him. im not one to wait for anybody that gets locked up while i am with them, but he has made such an impact on me and i see how amazing he is, so im making an exception and waiting for him this one time. everybody deserves a chance to better themselves and who would i be to give up on him? i was with him the night he was in violation, and i kno for a fact he didnt do anything wrong and was only trying to help a sick friend. whats so wrong with that? You know all of this in one month?! |
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you kno what, for the record, my man is a wonderful man, and he just made a mistake, he is learning from it, and is still in the process of learning how to make it in the outside world. he is early in his recovery and at this point it is baby steps. its about progress, not perfection. but his intentions are always good, and we cant hold the past against him if today hes trying to better himself and wants to work towards having a positive and good life for him and myself. no one on here can judge him if they dont even kno anything about him considering they have never met him. im not one to wait for anybody that gets locked up while i am with them, but he has made such an impact on me and i see how amazing he is, so im making an exception and waiting for him this one time. everybody deserves a chance to better themselves and who would i be to give up on him? i was with him the night he was in violation, and i kno for a fact he didnt do anything wrong and was only trying to help a sick friend. whats so wrong with that? You know all of this in one month?! |
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do you want my honest answer to your last question.. or do you want me to tell you what you want to hear? read the OP's history and then answer that question for yourself Iz..... 
Hey OP what ever happened to that carnie you dated and gave his cell # out to everyone on the forums, I thought you said he was "the love of your life" I can't keep up with these youngins these days.... 
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you kno what, for the record, my man is a wonderful man, and he just made a mistake, he is learning from it, and is still in the process of learning how to make it in the outside world. he is early in his recovery and at this point it is baby steps. its about progress, not perfection. but his intentions are always good, and we cant hold the past against him if today hes trying to better himself and wants to work towards having a positive and good life for him and myself. no one on here can judge him if they dont even kno anything about him considering they have never met him. im not one to wait for anybody that gets locked up while i am with them, but he has made such an impact on me and i see how amazing he is, so im making an exception and waiting for him this one time. everybody deserves a chance to better themselves and who would i be to give up on him? i was with him the night he was in violation, and i kno for a fact he didnt do anything wrong and was only trying to help a sick friend. whats so wrong with that? You know all of this in one month?! yes i do because ive seen him walk his talk. im frankly sick of the negative responses im getting when him and have good plans for the future, i am very involved with his NA sponsor, and im in his whole circle of friends. so not only have i gotten to kno him thru him but ive gotten to kno him thru his friends that have known him for years! |
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ya.. and here i was reading her profile...
 do you want my honest answer to your last question.. or do you want me to tell you what you want to hear? read the OP's history and then answer that question for yourself Iz.....
Hey OP what ever happened to that carnie you dated and gave his cell # out to everyone on the forums, I thought you said he was "the love of your life" I can't keep up with these youngins these days....
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My advise Op is
DON'T ASK QUESTIONS YOU DON'T WANT THE ANSWERS TO. "If you don't agree with me, don't post here" should have been in your op also if you didn't want to hear anything but YOUR version of the story. It's not hard, we all learn this lesson about what we do and do not want to share on the interner, and how we handle people who don't agree with us... |
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you kno what, for the record, my man is a wonderful man, and he just made a mistake, he is learning from it, and is still in the process of learning how to make it in the outside world. he is early in his recovery and at this point it is baby steps. its about progress, not perfection. but his intentions are always good, and we cant hold the past against him if today hes trying to better himself and wants to work towards having a positive and good life for him and myself. no one on here can judge him if they dont even kno anything about him considering they have never met him. im not one to wait for anybody that gets locked up while i am with them, but he has made such an impact on me and i see how amazing he is, so im making an exception and waiting for him this one time. everybody deserves a chance to better themselves and who would i be to give up on him? i was with him the night he was in violation, and i kno for a fact he didnt do anything wrong and was only trying to help a sick friend. whats so wrong with that? You know all of this in one month?! yes i do because ive seen him walk his talk. im frankly sick of the negative responses im getting when him and have good plans for the future, i am very involved with his NA sponsor, and im in his whole circle of friends. so not only have i gotten to kno him thru him but ive gotten to kno him thru his friends that have known him for years! How long has he been clean? I see you have a NA tat. NA recommends that people not get into new relationships the first year in recovery so that they can spend more time on themselves and their recovery. |
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is this guy Jef? cuz you said before he has 2boys..
i only ask because you said before that HE was the love of your life.. you were engaged to HIM, and that HE was the one that got you clean in august... my HONEST advice.. dont worry about the guy. worry about you... get some help.. and realize that if you are sober its because of YOU.. if you are not.. once again its because of YOU.. it wasnt these guys that cleaned you up.. but you seem to have to identify with them to be able to clean up... but you wont listen to my advice any way.. because its not what you want to hear.. best of luck to you and yours. |
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ive been in recovery for 7 yrs, and have worked my steps 3 times and am on my 4th time thru them. i attend 4-5 meetings a week, and have an awesome program of recovery!
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