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FACT OR FICTION,

Hey Op go read your posting history I just did, and it's a hoot.....

Wow, thats a tough one...
But umm once a guy breaks up w/me like that,and tells me to pack my **** and move back in w/my mom, well I have to say for me at least..ITS OVER.
She got a little taste of some independence away from you I am sure, and I cannot help but think that while you providing her w/ all the things in life, while she was struggling trying to find her own-self,lost a bit of self esteem in that.
Sure Money is awesome to have and spend, but there is soo much more to a relationship.
You cannot buy love or attention.
She may had some money to go spend on a shopping spree but nothing replaces LOVE and ATTENTION,which in my opinion this realtionshp was maybe lacking, cuz u are working all the time.
With you working all the time, you may have thought you provided her all that she was needing,but in all reality we are just hearing one side of the story,and I bet she would have a completly different story to tell I am sure.
Nothing is more sad and unfullfilling then sitting alone at home all the time.
I do think that she needs to help financially as well to even make this relationship work.
But,if it was me I would not return.
She may be different..I m just hard headed like that. You mess w/ me once like that, but that is the end of it.

i would...people can't be throwing things away carelessly. If you find someone you love, and that loves you back...hang on to it

Should she come back? I'm thinking that may be a bit contingent on how exactly you kicked her to the curb or back to her Mom's as it where.

Were you verbally and or physically abusive? Did those famous words that one can not retract and should never be said actually escape your mind and mouth?

All that having been said only you know what you need to apologize for and you need to make a minze and immediately.

Give her some time to digest and consider the validity of your sincerity.

Then if you both agree there is STILL more love then anger...try again, only this time have a plan.

1. if money is an issue, then sit down TOGETHER and come up with a reasonable budget and stick to it.

2. If money and her education level and or enablility to get a job for money worth the time invested and or taken away from the children is an issue. Then maybe you should figure junior college or some vocational training into THAT NEW BUDGET. She can always take classes while the kids are at school.

3. Seek some counseling together and learn effective non abusive communication skills.

4. She is not a mind reader, tell her how she can help you with your stress levels and be gentle and specific.

5. Take some time for yourself to learn and practice stress management skills and follow through with it. That might mean every day when you come home you take some time for just you by, running or speed walking or a kickboxing class or whatever sparks your plug. YOU are just as important as your loved ones and you need to take care of you before you can really care for them well.

6. Consider also that with all that work you are doing to make money to support all these people financially, my bet is you aren't helping around the house or with the kids much. Not to take anything away from your efforts as you are working hard and deserve recognition. But keep in mind who is holding down the fort and the kids while you're making money - SHE IS and that can be stressful doing it alone as well and it's hard work to boot, just a different kind.

7. Lastly and most importantly remember the love and why you are together in the first place. Marriage is a partnership and each has to put in equally or it fails. Everyone wants and needs to feel appreciated for their efforts (including her). Remember to take time to be together enjoying each others company.
If that means you don't work as many hours to make that time then soooooo be it, maybe you and your family need more love and time together rather than more money and more things.

Just some thoughts....
Good luck

J'ai remarqué que c'était un travail de fiction aussitôt que je le lis.

L'histoire de gars a plus de trous dans lui qu'un morceau de fromage suisse.

You have asked a woman on here "are u dumb or what u ass".

You have called us dumb a$$.

It makes me wonder how you talked to her.

Je pense que son histoire est un travail complet de fiction.

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Son vrai Winx.Son former.Personne est ce parfait.Son un travail de fiction.

I don't wonder at all Winx..... I know how he treated her.

Vous êtes le Lys correct.J'ai eu la même sensation.Nous sommes les deux juges excellents de caractère.

What does it matter how the ladies on this site feel about it...

What should matter is how she feels.

Unless your just trying to advertise...

Hey, it's thundering outside

I typed 3 paragraphs full of reply and then backspaced it all.

One thing......if nothing else....think of your child next time you decide to move some girl in and marry her without really knowing her. As adults we can deal and move on....kids can get screwed up for life.

...he worked a full time job as a IT Director..(those of you who know that job know it can be very stressful!


I dont know one person that doesnt have a stressful job...everyones job is stressful

whether you are a floor sweeper or a CEO

DOnt take away from anyone...If she is home with two kids (that he accepted mind you) she is working. She is working probably harder than the IT Director quite honestly..

Sounds like he wasnt supportive enough, why couldnt she help with the online business? If the man is so educated in creating different endeavors, why couldnt he create one for her to do and possibly bring in small income? Adjusting, accepting, and respecting what you take on...

My advice is always look into the future possibilities before diving in to the situation

It's not stress, is called weakness...He needs to man up