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Topic: Mixed Signals
longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Tue 10/07/08 08:36 AM
And my opinion is you have analized him and picked him apart and have been tactical in your decisions and the relationship is over.

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Tue 10/07/08 08:39 AM
Ok. No offense. No disrespect intended. I know women do not want to hear about previous relationships or other women. I get it all the time. But you just can't expect the guy to erase 27 years of his life to appease someones feelings. He's healing and many of you women do not understand that. If in your relationship you CANNOT talk about everything and anything- the relationships over. You can agree to disagree. An open mind is a blessing. You can't change someone into what you want them to be and be selfish and have them as a pet on your terms. Its not fair to either person. One sided communication don't work. ...you gotta take the good with the bad. There is no such thing as Mr. Perfect.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Tue 10/07/08 08:44 AM
And my opinion is you have analized him and picked him apart and have been tactical in your decisions and the relationship is over. That is a possibility, but it suonds like she is trying to avoid doing so and just has doubts.

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Tue 10/07/08 08:46 AM
If the gentleman in question picked apart your good and bad traits enderra as you have his- you would be highly angry and upset.

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Tue 10/07/08 08:50 AM
Can you tell I've been on this one way street before? Yeah learned from experience sadly enough.

enderra Joined Tue 04/15/08 Posts: 1719	Tue 10/07/08 08:51 AM
I think I kinda understand this dude. I like to have my own time and space too. I dont think the dude is trying to cause you problems, I think he just wants a little personal space. I guess, I feel that I don't want to always make the first move in keeping communication going. To him it may be about personal space, to me it is saying I could care less one way or the other. Out of sight out of mind so to speak.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Tue 10/07/08 08:52 AM
Analyzing doesnt have to be a bad thing. I think people analyze to try to figure someone out...by asking questions.

suzyQ41 Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 1081	Tue 10/07/08 08:53 AM
Expectations will disappoint.... Remember to always be true to yourself and welcome diversity into your life. You will be the better for it.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Tue 10/07/08 08:58 AM
Just before Gwen died, she bought me 3 tapes. Men Are fron Mars/ WOmen from Venus Mars & Venus in the Bedroom What your Father didn't know & Your Mother couldn't Tell You. I listened to these tapes after here death. Did a lot of driving & liked to listen. Learned alot from them & started giving them to young couple as engagement gift. All came back to me later & expressed further thanks, long after even being married. All agreed they were some of the best coaching on men & women communicating. Plus listening together while driving, got the men's attention, even better; their kind of trapped. You might want to read or listen to these & see if any good ideas are there for you.

enderra Joined Tue 04/15/08 Posts: 1719	Tue 10/07/08 09:01 AM
If the gentleman in question picked apart your good and bad traits enderra as you have his- you would be highly angry and upset. Actually, I hope he does pick me apart and has his eyes wide open. That is just my point in his not comparing me. The only trait that I share with his ex-wives is we are all under 5'2". And you are right I have been down a few one-way streets before, however, I was never treated with this amount of affection, when the guy was just trying to get Pu**y. That is why earlier I asked if doing the loving and caring things that he does for me were a sign of caring or just some delusion. I am torn and suffering from this, Otherwise I would never ask for advice. I really want to know what is in his heart is all.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Tue 10/07/08 09:02 AM
Aww honey, the point is you must find out from him. No one else can answer your questions.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Tue 10/07/08 09:05 AM
Remember, men speak more with actions, than words. We are pretty simple communicators, watch the surface currents more than those underneath. JMO

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Tue 10/07/08 09:06 AM
love....love will keep us together

enderra Joined Tue 04/15/08 Posts: 1719	Tue 10/07/08 09:06 AM
Aww honey, the point is you must find out from him. No one else can answer your questions. Thanks for the input lilth, though I wasn't addressing you at this point. Guess I am done. Thanks all.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Tue 10/07/08 09:10 AM
Aww honey, the point is you must find out from him. No one else can answer your questions. Thanks for the input lilth, though I wasn't addressing you at this point. Guess I am done. Thanks all. Yes, I know it was not directd at me, but I think I summed up what we were all thinking. I understand what you are going through. It's really okay to let him know what's going on, he will appreciate it as long as you approach it the right way. Best of luck to you!