greetings all as the heading stats i am looking for some help/advice and try to get my life back together. i have just gotten out of an 8 year relationship and am still at a complete loss at what went wrong and how i can fix myself to be a better person. i not even sure if i really did anything wrong but i know there were problems and i just cant seem to get myself back to a "normal" point to move on or even try to. all my friends say i am better off without my ex and that may be so but it still doesnt take away the pain. anyway i really dont even know what to write here other then i am in pain and just need helpful advice in order to try to move forward. plesae leave any and all "tips" and i will respond ASAP

When nothing warrants leaving, but she leaves anyway, it means another guy brainwashed her into believing that he is better than you.


She'll figure out her super mistake when all the smoke and clouds dissipate.



**Disclaimer**
Just going on the information presented in this thread at this time.

time will heal all wounds,

one of the reasons i know she left me was her field. she into horses and all that which was fine with me i like to farm and work like that been doing it most of my life. granted i never thought of making a living on it but i would like ot keep the family farm myself someday. i a computer person so i know i could work just about anywhere so that was never really a problem for me but i guess it was for her. i know she has trust issues with guys because her dad cheating on her mom and stuff but it like how many times and different ways can you prove yourself to someone if they never truely believe you to begin with. between that and always pushing to see how far i can be pushed. simple things like parting and getting drunk we all know at a campus things happen and you never know who or where you might end up. and sure enough it did happen she got piss drunk woke up in some other guys bed in someone elses clothes and i was completely understanding and not blamming her alough i wanted to say i told you so i never did. i wanted to work through the problem and take care of her. she says because i did that i dont care. how does that show you dont care??? i wanted her to get herself checked out make sure not pregnant or catch anything but she didnt and she blamed me for not caring. god i just dont understand

Man I know it sucks, but your not the only one who is going through something so dont feel like your alone. It hurts, but you will survive, and if you learn from this experience you will become a better person.

Get rid of the immature trash chicks. She's gone. Get over it. Move on. She played you. We've all been there. Get over it quick. She cheated on you and then tried to blame it on you for not caring? Yeah I like that. Tell the psycho not to call you anymore. F*ck her.

Damn, I'm good. It was another guy.


Guys always be stealin other dude's chicks

simply time for the relationship to be over. forget about whos at blame and think about yourself. figure out finances, living arrangements, business stuff etc. focus on what you need to do next and dont think about all the emotional stuff. you will meet someone else. until then, enjoy you! take care of yourself.

The pain? It goes away with time. Soon you won't even remember what's her c*nts name. Pain remedies? Alcohol. Aspirin. Success. Just keep busy and it will keep your mind preoccupied. Thinking about her is a waste of precious time.

Get a hobby or project to preoccupy your mind. I like working on motorcycles.

ok i get some of this about i need to move and whatnot but why would you ever tell someone to start drinking to help? that is just a way of hiding your problems even more not working on them. sorry i have nothing against anyone if you like to drink personally i have had maybe 4 beers my whole life. i not a beer person to many of my famiy suffer from that and/or drugs so i can see everyday the effects it has on people and choose not to do it to myself.

Have you tried crack???

Sorry.......but ya left yourself wide open!!!

This is serious, Miss!

You could always check into counseling to work out your issues and get through this rough patch. Just short term to help you cope through the roughest patches.

Don't blame yourself. Sounds like she was feeling guilty and took her anger and blame out on you for what she did. Not fair, but that is how she chose to handle it. You are better off without her if she is going to continue on with this type of pattern. You don't need that grief in your life. Talk to friends, get support from people you trust.

I hope things get better for you soon, take care.
Try to keep yourself busy and your life as normal as possible, that seems to help too. But you also need time to grieve the loss of your relationship, so allow yourself time to heal.

ohhhhhhhhhhhhh SHAAAAAAAAADAP!!!

Buy a dog.

Dog beats human by five points.

The alcohol, aspirin, success remark is a misnomer. Just keep yourself busy to keep your mind off things. Don't need a headache over heartbreak. Don't analyze- just organize. Makes time go faster. GET A HOBBY besides worrying.

whats wrong with analyzing???? And whats so great about organizing????

How about you analyze for once......and I organize!!!!









Ok thats is just scary stuff!!