ok i get some of this about i need to move and whatnot but why would you ever tell someone to start drinking to help? that is just a way of hiding your problems even more not working on them. sorry i have nothing against anyone if you like to drink personally i have had maybe 4 beers my whole life. i not a beer person to many of my famiy suffer from that and/or drugs so i can see everyday the effects it has on people and choose not to do it to myself.

one of the reasons i know she left me was her field. she into horses and all that which was fine with me i like to farm and work like that been doing it most of my life. granted i never thought of making a living on it but i would like ot keep the family farm myself someday. i a computer person so i know i could work just about anywhere so that was never really a problem for me but i guess it was for her. i know she has trust issues with guys because her dad cheating on her mom and stuff but it like how many times and different ways can you prove yourself to someone if they never truely believe you to begin with. between that and always pushing to see how far i can be pushed. simple things like parting and getting drunk we all know at a campus things happen and you never know who or where you might end up. and sure enough it did happen she got piss drunk woke up in some other guys bed in someone elses clothes and i was completely understanding and not blamming her alough i wanted to say i told you so i never did. i wanted to work through the problem and take care of her. she says because i did that i dont care. how does that show you dont care??? i wanted her to get herself checked out make sure not pregnant or catch anything but she didnt and she blamed me for not caring. god i just dont understand

greetings all as the heading stats i am looking for some help/advice and try to get my life back together. i have just gotten out of an 8 year relationship and am still at a complete loss at what went wrong and how i can fix myself to be a better person. i not even sure if i really did anything wrong but i know there were problems and i just cant seem to get myself back to a "normal" point to move on or even try to. all my friends say i am better off without my ex and that may be so but it still doesnt take away the pain. anyway i really dont even know what to write here other then i am in pain and just need helpful advice in order to try to move forward. plesae leave any and all "tips" and i will respond ASAP