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screw going out....id just cook for her
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As a guy, you have to play it smart. I wanted to take Eileen out to a really expensive place here in Boise, then one of my good friends asked me how I was going to follow that if the date went really well. If you go to the best right away, then you have nothing to upgrade to. I like to start with something middle of the road like Applebees....and let her order whatever she wants with no worries at all.
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I always go nuts with money on the first few dates trying to impress, so it must not bother me. If we were a couple, I would hope she would start to become reasonable. I have a question, why not impress with your whit and charm and not money? With your way of thinking wouldnt she be more inclined later to think you "changed"? Ya know, " He was so generous early in the relationship, now he doesnt want to spend on me, what did I do wrong." yadda blaa blaa. Hey,your right and I totally agree with you, but that is just how I roll. Especially if I am drinking on the first date, then the money just totally burns a hole in my pocket. |
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guys would be happy to have me as a date cuz i truly only order salads .
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i just don't take them out to dinner on a first date. The park, or a concert, or a few drinks, or coffee, or something like that.
If we get to know each other and there are more dates, then dinner will come |
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guys would be happy to have me as a date cuz i truly only order salads . I'm available every other weekend |
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Edited by
Jill298
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Sun 10/05/08 08:11 AM
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actually I tend to order pretty low on the menu or I'll ask him what he's ordering, and they I have an idea of what he's spending and try to stay in that range. I don't try and take advantage of other people's money just because he's taking me out. Tho I know some women that do. One girl I know, after I told her about my date she asked me why I didn't order the steak AND lobster cause "you aren't paying for it"
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I always go nuts with money on the first few dates trying to impress, so it must not bother me. If we were a couple, I would hope she would start to become reasonable. I have a question, why not impress with your whit and charm and not money? With your way of thinking wouldnt she be more inclined later to think you "changed"? Ya know, " He was so generous early in the relationship, now he doesnt want to spend on me, what did I do wrong." yadda blaa blaa. Hey,your right and I totally agree with you, but that is just how I roll. Especially if I am drinking on the first date, then the money just totally burns a hole in my pocket. LOL, sounds like to me you need a asbestos proof pockets. JK |
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As a guy, you have to play it smart. I wanted to take Eileen out to a really expensive place here in Boise, then one of my good friends asked me how I was going to follow that if the date went really well. If you go to the best right away, then you have nothing to upgrade to. I like to start with something middle of the road like Applebees....and let her order whatever she wants with no worries at all. |
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if a lady does that then that tells you what she's all about
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A clever little Fox would have that contingency planned out in advance. I'd save money so that she COULD order the most expensive thing on the menu if she wanted. If she doesn't spend all the money at dinner, perhaps I'd have enough money to also get her flowers or something.
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 pats gone fishin
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pats gone fishin You got that rite!!
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I always pay for the 1st date, and I only go to a place that I can afford, so it doesn't matter what she orders. smart man eh? I'll be sure and order the best then when I come to visit my daughter in CT 
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I always go nuts with money on the first few dates trying to impress, so it must not bother me. If we were a couple, I would hope she would start to become reasonable. Why try that hard to impress someone with money? |
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If she respected him, she'd order whatever the median price of the menu was. If the highest price is $23.99 and most of the items are $16.99 but there are some $12.99ers on there, then she should stick to $16.99 or less. Perhaps you should go out somewhere that you can afford? Then you won't have to worry about what she orders. |
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OK guys... if you were taking a woman out on a 1st date, and you expected to pay the bill... Would you go out with her again if she ordered the most of expensive thing on the menu? Or would you just tell her to order whatever she wanted? Maybe HOPE she would just order a side salad If you ask someone out, you should already be prepared to pay whatever the cost. I wouldn't, however, order the most expensive item on the menu just for the sake of it, but I would not want to feel like I couldn't if that is what I would enjoy having because I like it, not because it's expensive. I also think if you continue seeing one another the gal oughta be willing to pitch in for the cost of things once in a while. |
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Seriously .. Be sensitive no matter where he takes you. I take bands out to eat all the time. I've only once had guys order THEE most expensive thing on the menu. I was like "WTH" ..
Not even because my organization couldn't afford it, but because it's just not good manners. Last time I checked ... I think it's called "Class" 
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I'm not saying I'd order the most expensive thing. I never do. I'm just saying if he's worried about her ordering something really expensive, don't take her to the expensive seafood or steak place. Go to a place with more reasonable prices. Then it won't be a huge deal for him.
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