OK guys... if you were taking a woman out on a 1st date, and you expected to pay the bill... Would you go out with her again if she ordered the most of expensive thing on the menu? Or would you just tell her to order whatever she wanted? Maybe HOPE she would just order a side salad

money has noting to do with it.....


i mean how much is a quarter pounder with cheese, any way...a couple of bucks????

on the 2nd date she would more than likely understand where i stand financially. and if this turns her away, then she was not for me in the first place.

I didn't mean value meals

If she had given me a great time and we both clicked, money wouldn't really matter. I took a girl out to Red Lobster once though, and she ordered appetizers, a variety of drinks, and the most expensive meal on the menu, plus dessert. What's worse, she was very ungrateful and complained the whole time or talked on her cellphone. THOSE are where I draw the line. I'm a nice guym so I payed for it all without complaining, but I never dated her again, obviously.... But yeah, you shouldn't feel pressured to order something cheap, just order what you feel like, expensive or not, and try to work with your date to make the outing a fun one. And if there's just no chemistry, at least you met a new person =]

As a guy you should expect her to order the most expensive thing on the menu....and always plan for drinks as well, depending on the place an app might be appropriate too. I always let my date order first if i think its going to be steep i always have a plan B order for myself to offset the cost a bit.

Is it wrong for a woman to ask the guy how much she can spend?

I always go nuts with money on the first few dates trying to impress, so it must not bother me. If we were a couple, I would hope she would start to become reasonable.

I fixed this problem a long time ago... I always go dutch on the first date for many reasons. But the main one being, then the guy can't make me feel like I "owe" him a thing after, especially if it wasnt a good date.

some guys are cool with it, some are not, but they all understand, and I go home feeling good about myself.

The rule of thumb is to never order more than the amount that the person paying spent unless of course they insist on you getting anything you want.

ok so what is she orders first without knowing what you're ordering?

as a rule I never order the most expensive thing they have... I just think it's plain out rude

If she respected him, she'd order whatever the median price of the menu was.

If the highest price is $23.99 and most of the items are $16.99 but there are some $12.99ers on there, then she should stick to $16.99 or less.

agreed

I always pay for the 1st date, and I only go to a place that I can afford, so it doesn't matter what she orders.

I have a question, why not impress with your whit and charm and not money?

With your way of thinking wouldnt she be more inclined later to think you "changed"? Ya know, " He was so generous early in the relationship, now he doesnt want to spend on me, what did I do wrong." yadda blaa blaa.

First off, that's not my rule of thumb because I'm always a gentleman on a date and let the lady order first.

Secondly, of course I would go out with the woman again even if she ordered everything on the left side of the menu. That's given we hit it off initially on the first date. If I got all squirrelly about what my date ordered for dinner due to the price of it, then I had no business asking her out for the evening in the first place.

Last, but not least, yes - it is very rude and unbecoming to ask someone "how much can I spend" when you are on a first date. That would more than likely nix your chances for a second date...with me, anyway.

I was thinking the same thing... I want to have the same guy years down the road as I did the first day we went out

well I'm asking this because believe it or not, it's tough for us to know... some guys will tell you to get whatever you want and when you do, they think you're to "high maint" for ordering to expensive. And apparently you can't ask what your limit it. I was also curious to see how many 2nd dates were based on $$$

And why not just be up front and discuss who is going to pay for what? If you dont want the lady to order the lobster dont take her to a place that serves it. Is it really that hard? Am I missing something?