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Topic: Online Dating Ettiquette and Warning Signs
MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Sat 10/04/08 01:09 PM
I have another for the scammers...they normally will not appear in the threads

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Sat 10/04/08 01:09 PM
Oh one more.... If you are shy, don't continue to keep looking at someone's profile and never send them a message. Suck it up and send a message Or quit looking at their profile! Yea I finally did that. You ladies seem to have the answers to everything. How do you do a spell check in here? Thanks again. No spell check in here. type it into a word document and cut and paste it into mingle

maxxximus007 Joined Mon 11/13/06 Posts: 6082	Sat 10/04/08 01:17 PM
wow! you are up, what's hot.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Sat 10/04/08 01:21 PM
wow! you are up, what's hot.

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Sat 10/04/08 01:24 PM
Wait a minute...your saying...this is a dating site???

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Sat 10/04/08 01:26 PM
Wait a minute...your saying...this is a dating site???

michiganman3 Joined Mon 10/29/07 Posts: 14521	Sat 10/04/08 02:16 PM
And be sure to discuss sex, in crude terms, keep it simple. NOT

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Sat 10/04/08 02:17 PM
And be sure to discuss sex, in crude terms, keep it simple. NOT

suntannedmale Joined Sat 09/27/08 Posts: 11	Sun 10/05/08 12:20 PM
all very good points i must say as to respect and being honest and up front, we all wish this were the rule, good luck to all in their matches. my best suntannedmale

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Sun 10/05/08 12:22 PM
all very good points i must say as to respect and being honest and up front, we all wish this were the rule, good luck to all in their matches. my best suntannedmale Thanks for posting a comment!

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Sun 10/05/08 01:26 PM
You know another thing to avoid? If they tell you they have tons of money and they want to wisk you away to some "Fantasy Island" on their yacht. What they don't tell you is that they clean the yacht, so it isn't theirs, but they have pics of it....so you should definitely believe them.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 10/05/08 02:02 PM
Oh one more.... If you are shy, don't continue to keep looking at someone's profile and never send them a message. Suck it up and send a message Or quit looking at their profile! Yea I finally did that. You ladies seem to have the answers to everything. How do you do a spell check in here? Thanks again. Try using firefox. Spell check is built right in.

snarkytwain Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 2789	Sun 10/05/08 05:56 PM
No text speak either. I mean, do you want to respond to "How r u? I am fine 2 day." wtf u mean i have to type every letter? I think I have fallen in love.

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Mon 10/06/08 02:29 PM
When you look at someone's profile and decided to send them a message, how can you have a better chance of getting a response? ~First read the entire profile ~Be sure to let them know that you read their profile and make a comment or question about something on their profile ~Be friendly and let them know you will be looking forward to hearing back from them. ~Don't send messages that only contain phrases like 'you are hot' or 'what's up?' ~If you are horrible at spelling or grammar, it might help to type a message into MS Word and doing spell check and pasting it into email Tanya, this is very good advice, and I would definitely recommend it to anyone who is thinking about sending an introductory e-mail to anyone on the site. Know as much as possible about the person you're writing, and have something to say! However, in all honesty, it doesn't work when writing to girls from this site who live in Illinois. If you receive a message from someone and you aren't interested? ~Send a response and let them know that you are either not interested or are not looking for a relationship at the time. ~If you continue to get messages after you have made it clear that you don't want to correspond with them, block them ~If you get an inappropriate message, don't respond and block them This happens occasionally, but I can generally refer them to Paragraph 1184 of my profile and that usually solves the problem. What happens if you are in the forums and you find someone that you are interested in? ~Take a look at their profile ~Send them a message commenting on something posted in the forum or on their profile Unfortunately, looking at their profile usually kills any interest I might have had! Warning Signs: -they want to know everything about you but don't give any information about themselves -they overly call you pet names before even getting to know you -once you have gotten to know someone,they don't directly answer serious questions; they dance around the answer -they ask very personal questions that you don't feel comfortable answering -they dont email, call, or im when they said they would and dont have an appropriate answer for why -they are overly jealous or controlling of your time and energy I'm wondering if you were by any chance on another site I was on before -- because I was on one where practically EVERYBODY fit your description above. Three months and I was out of there.... Most of us are on here in the hopes of finding the 'one'. Be careful to not confused negative attention as someone being interested. Have respect for yourself and your personal space. And lastly, trust your intuition and don't ignore it! Tanya Yup, the red flags are there for a reason....!!

Moondark Joined Tue 11/27/07 Posts: 5866	Mon 10/06/08 03:04 PM
No text speak either. I mean, do you want to respond to "How r u? I am fine 2 day." I'm noticing a lot of text speak from people from other countries. It could be a good clue that it might be a scammer who speaks poor or limited English.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Mon 10/06/08 03:47 PM
lex

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Mon 10/06/08 03:56 PM
lex The thing I love about you is that you so totally get it.... And the curlers, too, yeah, the curlers....!

vitali_seringetti Joined Fri 09/26/08 Posts: 464	Mon 10/06/08 03:56 PM
No text speak either. I mean, do you want to respond to "How r u? I am fine 2 day." I'm noticing a lot of text speak from people from other countries. It could be a good clue that it might be a scammer who speaks poor or limited English. grrr. why no txt speak? I speak english very well, I was born in the fuked up country and I jst prefer to type in your "text" language. I think that shouldn't really matter at all. so stfu to you ppls that hate bc of txt speak. wtf man. lol

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Mon 10/06/08 04:00 PM
lex The thing I love about you is that you so totally get it.... And the curlers, too, yeah, the curlers....!

Unique2468 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 964	Mon 10/06/08 06:20 PM
If anyone has something to add to ettiquette or warning signs, please feel free to post it. Okay...let's add the signs of a scammer in here: They are usually very handsome?pretty Their pics look as though they come from a magazine They immediately tell you how wonderful you are and ask for your personal IM...DON"T DO IT They never can put up a different pic...some how not available They are normally "very rich" From another country but now live in the states Work for a large corporation In love within a week and want to travel to see you And want you to be the mother of their children * and they type in very broken English...just from my experiences chick version. -very hot -from a differnt country -always want to email -wants you to fly her out to see you -lives in the states but is out doing humanitarian work -is very christian -responds in general letters that dont really answer specific questions -Always in africa had 2, first one i cought on to after a few days, 2nd i caught right away, and made sure to waste her time!