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i have to say after watching my exes new wife go back to her ex husband before their divorce was final was enough to make me not trust people who are simply seperated.
but your right who ever said its just like takeing the risk of someone you meet going back to an old flame.. except i dont want to play "the other woman" i want to be the only woman heh. |
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Would you date someone that is separated from their spouse? yup only reason they werent divorced though is because she tried to slip into the agreement/papers that he give up his rights to his daughter and he wouldnt do that or sign them but she lives in another state and they were seperated for atleast a year and a half before i even meant him i was there when he got the papers, so i did get to read them and some of what i went threw with him and some other guys (some on this site) is the reason i posted that on my profile |
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Keep an open mind people and let the facts come out as you get to know your new friend. For me, legal separation made more sense for medical benefit and other financial reasons than divorce. We both agreed, and in this state, it is easy to convert to a divorce if/when either party chooses to do so. It doesn't necessarily mean a lack of closure. It shouldn't take you long to figure out if your new love interest has truly put the failed/finished marriage behind them. I don't look back...because I don't like the view.
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Nope
Yoda has spoken |
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i have in the past but won't anymore, don't want to be the rebound girl which 99%of the time u end up being. Which is ok if u aren't looking for anything but hot sex..
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Not a glutton for cruel and unusual punishment, prefer the run of the mill punishment!!! ..this is very funny, i like this comment..additionally...i think its a very dangerous game we play when the divorce is not official...above and beyond the ordinary danger that already exists....to reiterate levels/degrees/shades as mentioned in quote.. Roco |
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Edited by
snarkytwain
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Sun 10/05/08 05:47 PM
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Would you date someone that is separated from their spouse? I'll go against the grain here and say, YES I sure would if I were interested enough in them and depending (yes, again "depending") upon their degree of "separation". Why wouldn't I? 
Would I get heavily involved? Probably not. But, I certainly wouldn't discard a person I was drawn to simply because they were currently separated. The risk of losing someone to them going back to their spouse is just as great as losing someone you met in a bar (or the internet) going back to an old flame or finding someone new. BIG difference between YOU feeling married (aka, caring if your "wife" or "husband" was in bed with someone else), and the law SAYING you're married. People are separated for a reason. It takes time for divorce papers to go through. Sometimes it takes years. Is the separated to be forced into lonely exile for this? I think not. i have in the past but won't anymore, don't want to be the rebound girl which 99%of the time u end up being. Which is ok if u aren't looking for anything but hot sex..
Again, this is assuming that they have only been separated for a short time. What if their spouse won't sign the papers? What if children are involved (which makes it a MUCH longer process)... etc. There are a LOT of things to consider here. Blanketing the issue by saying things like this belittles the depth of this particular question. |
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I totally agree with snarky.
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