Do you think you could straighten him out.

Just make sure he wears his helmet.

Get over it.
Break ups happen.
It's life.

Unlikely.

XD!!!

Of course it does. Only men are supposed to be able to do that, right?

Guys who use women sh1t bricks when the tables get turned on them. It's not just socially "wrong", it's "undermining our culture and leading to the eventual fall of Western civilization" wrong!!!

Not all anarchists throw bombs, ya know. In fact, throwing bombs is an extremely inefficient way to bring about change. xoxoxo

I wouldn't mind being used once in awhile. Hell, I'd volunteer.

As misguided as this attempt was there actually is SOME merit to it.

Sadly, I would say he probably did get bored when there was nothing left to conquer. You cant just be there for someone every second of everyday, you need to live your life for yourself first.

Now eventually he will try to come back when hes done "finding himself" but you cant make it easy for him. I know it sounds like a game but it would be better for you if you didnt answer his calls/texts/emails/ims/whatever for awhile. You really need to make him earn it back after what hes done to you. On the other end of that spectrum is you just moving on with your life with out him. He is obviously not ready for whatever it was he claimed to have felt for you. Either way it needs time and space and you cant get over him if you continue to talk to him everyday, so be strong

date his best friend!!!

I did that once. Didn't work out so well. (Her best friend was another guy... )

This is true. But, Elsa was with her man for quite a long time (if memory serves me correctly), and so when someone makes promises to others, only to drop a bomb like this...it freaking hurts.

In time she will move on, but for now and the very near future, that just won't happen. Honestly, coping is tough to do, but it is something that you must do. Staying busy helps, finding other outlets (positive ones) helps, friends help...their are many things to rely on here.

Sorry this happened to you Elsa. But, you will not end up alone for the rest of your life. Even going through this, their will be another man..a better man. Have hope in that.

eat a tub of ice cream and move on....

I was/ am his best friend. We're staying friends.

His closest guy friend? I've been going out drinking with him.

Thank you everyone for the support and advice.

I really appreciate it *hugs all around*

its like going through withdrawl...its going to hurt and youre going to be afraid, but it will be ok as long as you dont act on the feelings...keep busy doing good things for yourself, hang out with friends and family, cry your eyes out when you are sad, scream at the top of your lungs when you are angry and laugh like there is no tomorrow when you feel joy....
hang in, eventually it will get better and youll see this guy was a looser and you deserve better...

You are worried about spending your life alone??? Girl, you are only 21. You will fall in love many times. Dont sweat it. I know it hurts but at your age, you will meet someone else and forget about all this pain. Hang in there.

That, in a nutshell....is the problem you are having.

You feel like no one else will be interested in you.

Feeling that way will not help in ANY way to get over what you are going through.

I don't believe in "the one." Every time I thought I had found "the one" and he turned out to be an azz, lo and behold, I soon discovered another "the one" I liked just as much, if not more. As other people have said, you're very young, and you're a nice looking girl, and based on your posts, you are intelligent, so unless you choose to, you have no reason to live alone forever.

Mourn the loss of this stage of the relationship, if you're willing to be "just friends"- something I could never do, but to each his/her own- go with that, and be his friend. When the time is right, and if you decide to, you'll find someone else who will love you as much as you love them.

I've been in your position, I thought my heart would break in a million pieces, but guess what? I'm okay. And you will be too. Good luck.

everyone deals with loss differently and go through the stages differently---
just remember it will get better.

i agree

First of all, don't take this as a reflection of anything being wrong with you. A lot of people tend to internalize over a breakup and fail to see all of the external issues that may very well have contributed to the problem.

Second, it's best not to rush into anything new right away. You need time to heal, to think about what's best for YOU -- what you want and need from a future relationship. This isn't something you can decide in 5 minutes, and you deserve to take the time to get to understand more about your own expectations and requirements.

Third, there are worse things than being alone -- like being with the wrong person -- trust me, I married her, and lived with about a dozen other incarnations of her. When you spend more time trying to think of a graceful way OUT of an entanglement than you do on anything positive, it's time to leave.

I've seen a lot of your posts -- you're smart and funny and you communicate well. You can do better than a wishy-washy "I don't know what I want right now" guy. You deserve better. Believe in yourself, your own worth, what you have to offer to someone. Because right now it sounds like you're selling yourself short and letting insecurity get the better of you. And that's not going to help.