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Tue 09/23/08 05:53 PM
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downer. How do you deal with a friend that suffer's from depression? We'll do fine hanging out for a couple week's and, poof he's off the map! Yeeeeeeeessssssssss, he's an ex bf. Nothing going on there though. (If he ever does give me hint's, I'm left clueless to them). I don't know how to react or behave. Take it with a grain of salt and, give him some time? Or, bagder the crap out of him the way I'm very good at? That tend's to drive me nut's though.
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Tue 09/23/08 05:53 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
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Tue 09/23/08 05:55 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
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Tue 09/23/08 05:56 PM
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Tue 09/23/08 05:58 PM
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offer support and get him help depression is serious business and it cant be your whole job to get him out of it... just do your best to get him to get help for himself. maybe go with him when he feels up to getting that help.... otherwise there is not much you can do if you are not trained for it.
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Tue 09/23/08 05:57 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
Meds are a serious way to make it worse ,I know, Ive been through 2 major depressions before. If someone is going through something like that ,the WORST thing someone can do is to "Give them space", if someone is depressed you need to be around for them as much as possible, or he may shut himself down to the world altogether. So ya The best thing you can do is just to be there for him and to keep contact as much as possible.
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Tue 09/23/08 05:57 PM
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offer support and get him help depression is serious business and it cant be your whole job to get him out of it... just do your best to get him to get help for himself.
HE KONWS HE SUFFERS FROM DEPRESSION. My question is.........how do I deal with it?
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Tue 09/23/08 05:58 PM
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be supportive, he should really think about seeking counseling.
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Tue 09/23/08 05:59 PM
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I have heard that insufficient sex causes depression. Maybe that is his problem. Come to think of it,  I'm depressed. 
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Tue 09/23/08 05:59 PM
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if this has been going on for awhile and he still wont do what you ask and others have tried too,i dont like saying this but dont be to codependent and move on ,sounds to me he needs more help than you can give after all he is a grown man or just baker act him, one of the two 
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Tue 09/23/08 06:00 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
Meds are a serious way to make it worse ,I know, Ive been through 2 major depressions before. If someone is going through something like that ,the WORST thing someone can do is to "Give them space", if someone is depressed you need to be around for them as much as possible, or he may shut himself down to the world altogether. So ya The best thing you can do is just to be there for him and to keep contact as much as possible.
His depression is hereditary. I call so much that I I drive myself nut's! I want to know what mindset I need to have to deal with him. I got ya on staying in contact.....WILL DO.
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Tue 09/23/08 06:01 PM
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offer support and get him help depression is serious business and it cant be your whole job to get him out of it... just do your best to get him to get help for himself.
HE KONWS HE SUFFERS FROM DEPRESSION. My question is.........how do I deal with it?
get yourself support too... friends....family...professionals.... you can find out more about yourself too....I think the best you can do for a depressed person is be that model for him to follow as you show him what brings you joy....KEEP YOURSELF HAPPY his depression is NOT your fault
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Tue 09/23/08 06:03 PM
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if this has been going on for awhile and he still wont do what you ask and others have tried too,i dont like saying this but dont be to codependent and move on ,sounds to me he needs more help than you can give after all he is a grown man or just baker act him, one of the two
You are right, I can't give him the help he need's. What's baker act?
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Tue 09/23/08 06:05 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
Meds are a serious way to make it worse ,I know, Ive been through 2 major depressions before. If someone is going through something like that ,the WORST thing someone can do is to "Give them space", if someone is depressed you need to be around for them as much as possible, or he may shut himself down to the world altogether. So ya The best thing you can do is just to be there for him and to keep contact as much as possible.
His depression is hereditary. I call so much that I I drive myself nut's! I want to know what mindset I need to have to deal with him. I got ya on staying in contact.....WILL DO.
Dont change yourself to suite him, you can be sympathetic towards him, but dont get drug down with him though. I would suggest trying to find out why he's depressed and trying to help him to work it out, AND I know for a fact that sunlight really is the natural cure for depression too, so make sure he's in the sun alot, Hereditary Depression is something that runs in my family as well, but I somehow seem to overcome it everyday. As for your mindset, Just be yourself around him.
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Tue 09/23/08 06:05 PM
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Tue 09/23/08 06:06 PM
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if this has been going on for awhile and he still wont do what you ask and others have tried too,i dont like saying this but dont be to codependent and move on ,sounds to me he needs more help than you can give after all he is a grown man or just baker act him, one of the two
You are right, I can't give him the help he need's. What's baker act?
baker act means if you think someone is going to hurt themselves cause of serious depression or suicidal you can call the cops to come get him. and the state will do what they can to help.
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Tue 09/23/08 06:07 PM
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if this has been going on for awhile and he still wont do what you ask and others have tried too,i dont like saying this but dont be to codependent and move on ,sounds to me he needs more help than you can give after all he is a grown man or just baker act him, one of the two
You are right, I can't give him the help he need's. What's baker act?
baker act means if you think someone is going to hurt themselves cause of serious depression or suicidal you can call the cops to come get him. and the state will do what they can to help.
TY
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Tue 09/23/08 06:08 PM
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if this has been going on for awhile and he still wont do what you ask and others have tried too,i dont like saying this but dont be to codependent and move on ,sounds to me he needs more help than you can give after all he is a grown man or just baker act him, one of the two
You are right, I can't give him the help he need's. What's baker act?
baker act means if you think someone is going to hurt themselves cause of serious depression or suicidal you can call the cops to come get him. and the state will do what they can to help.
TY
no prob 
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Tue 09/23/08 06:09 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
Meds are a serious way to make it worse ,I know, Ive been through 2 major depressions before. If someone is going through something like that ,the WORST thing someone can do is to "Give them space", if someone is depressed you need to be around for them as much as possible, or he may shut himself down to the world altogether. So ya The best thing you can do is just to be there for him and to keep contact as much as possible.
His depression is hereditary. I call so much that I I drive myself nut's! I want to know what mindset I need to have to deal with him. I got ya on staying in contact.....WILL DO.
Dont change yourself to suite him, you can be sympathetic towards him, but dont get drug down with him though. I would suggest trying to find out why he's depressed and trying to help him to work it out, AND I know for a fact that sunlight really is the natural cure for depression too, so make sure he's in the sun alot, Hereditary Depression is something that runs in my family as well, but I somehow seem to overcome it everyday. As for your mindset, Just be yourself around him.
His personal appearance is allway's well groomed and he iron's his clothe's but,...you should see his apt.! What a pig sty. He won't let me help him clean it. He keep's the drape's closed. I should try to be over there more I guess.
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Tue 09/23/08 06:11 PM
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I involve myself with other things. I have a long time real life friend who is like this. If you challenge that person in any way then it always ends up bad.
You can't depend on someone who is depressed. Just leave him alone. Don't ask him or her for anything. Don't expect for him to "be there" for you.
This is something I have learned over a very long period of time, and with more than one person, but with this one person in particular. If you need some more advice about this, feel free to message me. I have a lot of experience with depressed people, lol. yours in Chaos, Scarlett
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Tue 09/23/08 06:12 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
Meds are a serious way to make it worse ,I know, Ive been through 2 major depressions before. If someone is going through something like that ,the WORST thing someone can do is to "Give them space", if someone is depressed you need to be around for them as much as possible, or he may shut himself down to the world altogether. So ya The best thing you can do is just to be there for him and to keep contact as much as possible.
His depression is hereditary. I call so much that I I drive myself nut's! I want to know what mindset I need to have to deal with him. I got ya on staying in contact.....WILL DO.
Dont change yourself to suite him, you can be sympathetic towards him, but dont get drug down with him though. I would suggest trying to find out why he's depressed and trying to help him to work it out, AND I know for a fact that sunlight really is the natural cure for depression too, so make sure he's in the sun alot, Hereditary Depression is something that runs in my family as well, but I somehow seem to overcome it everyday. As for your mindset, Just be yourself around him.
His personal appearance is allway's well groomed and he iron's his clothe's but,...you should see his apt.! What a pig sty. He won't let me help him clean it. He keep's the drape's closed. I should try to be over there more I guess.
Another thing that goes along with Depression is not taking care of yourself OR the place your living in, you just dont care anymore. Nobody can get through depression by themselves, so ya I would say visit more often, and try to get him outside a bit, and try to convince him to clean his apartment a little.
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Tue 09/23/08 06:14 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
Meds are a serious way to make it worse ,I know, Ive been through 2 major depressions before. If someone is going through something like that ,the WORST thing someone can do is to "Give them space", if someone is depressed you need to be around for them as much as possible, or he may shut himself down to the world altogether. So ya The best thing you can do is just to be there for him and to keep contact as much as possible.
His depression is hereditary. I call so much that I I drive myself nut's! I want to know what mindset I need to have to deal with him. I got ya on staying in contact.....WILL DO.
Dont change yourself to suite him, you can be sympathetic towards him, but dont get drug down with him though. I would suggest trying to find out why he's depressed and trying to help him to work it out, AND I know for a fact that sunlight really is the natural cure for depression too, so make sure he's in the sun alot, Hereditary Depression is something that runs in my family as well, but I somehow seem to overcome it everyday. As for your mindset, Just be yourself around him.
His personal appearance is allway's well groomed and he iron's his clothe's but,...you should see his apt.! What a pig sty. He won't let me help him clean it. He keep's the drape's closed. I should try to be over there more I guess.
Another thing that goes along with Depression is not taking care of yourself OR the place your living in, you just dont care anymore. Nobody can get through depression by themselves, so ya I would say visit more often, and try to get him outside a bit, and try to convince him to clean his apartment a little.
Thank you very much for your help. I realy do appreciate it. I've know him since March, and for this long I have not known how to deal with him.
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