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Tue 09/23/08 06:16 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
Meds are a serious way to make it worse ,I know, Ive been through 2 major depressions before. If someone is going through something like that ,the WORST thing someone can do is to "Give them space", if someone is depressed you need to be around for them as much as possible, or he may shut himself down to the world altogether. So ya The best thing you can do is just to be there for him and to keep contact as much as possible.
His depression is hereditary. I call so much that I I drive myself nut's! I want to know what mindset I need to have to deal with him. I got ya on staying in contact.....WILL DO.
Dont change yourself to suite him, you can be sympathetic towards him, but dont get drug down with him though. I would suggest trying to find out why he's depressed and trying to help him to work it out, AND I know for a fact that sunlight really is the natural cure for depression too, so make sure he's in the sun alot, Hereditary Depression is something that runs in my family as well, but I somehow seem to overcome it everyday. As for your mindset, Just be yourself around him.
His personal appearance is allway's well groomed and he iron's his clothe's but,...you should see his apt.! What a pig sty. He won't let me help him clean it. He keep's the drape's closed. I should try to be over there more I guess.
Another thing that goes along with Depression is not taking care of yourself OR the place your living in, you just dont care anymore. Nobody can get through depression by themselves, so ya I would say visit more often, and try to get him outside a bit, and try to convince him to clean his apartment a little.
Thank you very much for your help. I realy do appreciate it. I've know him since March, and for this long I have not known how to deal with him.
Anytime, Ive been through depression twice before so I know what he's going through, if you need anymore help just message me 
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Tue 09/23/08 06:18 PM
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I involve myself with other things. I have a long time real life friend who is like this. If you challenge that person in any way then it always ends up bad.
You can't depend on someone who is depressed. Just leave him alone. Don't ask him or her for anything. Don't expect for him to "be there" for you.
This is something I have learned over a very long period of time, and with more than one person, but with this one person in particular. If you need some more advice about this, feel free to message me. I have a lot of experience with depressed people, lol. yours in Chaos, Scarlett
He's my friend. I will not leave him alone. He matter's to me!
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Tue 09/23/08 06:19 PM
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Depression is a person with just a weak mindset ,so basically if you "Leave them alone" they tend to get worse and worse, so ya BAD idea to do that lol.
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Tue 09/23/08 06:19 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
Meds are a serious way to make it worse ,I know, Ive been through 2 major depressions before. If someone is going through something like that ,the WORST thing someone can do is to "Give them space", if someone is depressed you need to be around for them as much as possible, or he may shut himself down to the world altogether. So ya The best thing you can do is just to be there for him and to keep contact as much as possible.
His depression is hereditary. I call so much that I I drive myself nut's! I want to know what mindset I need to have to deal with him. I got ya on staying in contact.....WILL DO.
Dont change yourself to suite him, you can be sympathetic towards him, but dont get drug down with him though. I would suggest trying to find out why he's depressed and trying to help him to work it out, AND I know for a fact that sunlight really is the natural cure for depression too, so make sure he's in the sun alot, Hereditary Depression is something that runs in my family as well, but I somehow seem to overcome it everyday. As for your mindset, Just be yourself around him.
His personal appearance is allway's well groomed and he iron's his clothe's but,...you should see his apt.! What a pig sty. He won't let me help him clean it. He keep's the drape's closed. I should try to be over there more I guess.
Another thing that goes along with Depression is not taking care of yourself OR the place your living in, you just dont care anymore. Nobody can get through depression by themselves, so ya I would say visit more often, and try to get him outside a bit, and try to convince him to clean his apartment a little.
Thank you very much for your help. I realy do appreciate it. I've know him since March, and for this long I have not known how to deal with him.
Anytime, Ive been through depression twice before so I know what he's going through, if you need anymore help just message me
Thank you for your support. Can I add you as a friend?
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Tue 09/23/08 06:19 PM
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downer. How do you deal with a friend that suffer's from depression? We'll do fine hanging out for a couple week's and, poof he's off the map! Yeeeeeeeessssssssss, he's an ex bf. Nothing going on there though. (If he ever does give me hint's, I'm left clueless to them). I don't know how to react or behave. Take it with a grain of salt and, give him some time? Or, bagder the crap out of him the way I'm very good at? That tend's to drive me nut's though.
Don't badger him. Let him know you're there for him if he wants to talk or anything, listen to him regardless, give him advice, etc. try not to be judgemental, negative, etc. Any negativity, try to spin into postivity, highlight his positives,etc. Be a good friend that's what he needs.
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Tue 09/23/08 06:21 PM
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downer. How do you deal with a friend that suffer's from depression? We'll do fine hanging out for a couple week's and, poof he's off the map! Yeeeeeeeessssssssss, he's an ex bf. Nothing going on there though. (If he ever does give me hint's, I'm left clueless to them). I don't know how to react or behave. Take it with a grain of salt and, give him some time? Or, bagder the crap out of him the way I'm very good at? That tend's to drive me nut's though.
Don't badger him. Let him know you're there for him if he wants to talk or anything, listen to him regardless, give him advice, etc. try not to be judgemental, negative, etc. Any negativity, try to spin into postivity, highlight his positives,etc. Be a good friend that's what he needs.
Thank's, that sound's very resonable.
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Tue 09/23/08 06:23 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
Zoloft is a quick fix that does not help 80% of the people. There are other meds that do a lot better job. See a good phyciratist and have him speak honestly with him. If he won't talk honestly, then there is no cure for him. Sorry, but I hope that this helps you.
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Tue 09/23/08 06:23 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
Meds are a serious way to make it worse ,I know, Ive been through 2 major depressions before. If someone is going through something like that ,the WORST thing someone can do is to "Give them space", if someone is depressed you need to be around for them as much as possible, or he may shut himself down to the world altogether. So ya The best thing you can do is just to be there for him and to keep contact as much as possible.
His depression is hereditary. I call so much that I I drive myself nut's! I want to know what mindset I need to have to deal with him. I got ya on staying in contact.....WILL DO.
Dont change yourself to suite him, you can be sympathetic towards him, but dont get drug down with him though. I would suggest trying to find out why he's depressed and trying to help him to work it out, AND I know for a fact that sunlight really is the natural cure for depression too, so make sure he's in the sun alot, Hereditary Depression is something that runs in my family as well, but I somehow seem to overcome it everyday. As for your mindset, Just be yourself around him.
His personal appearance is allway's well groomed and he iron's his clothe's but,...you should see his apt.! What a pig sty. He won't let me help him clean it. He keep's the drape's closed. I should try to be over there more I guess.
Another thing that goes along with Depression is not taking care of yourself OR the place your living in, you just dont care anymore. Nobody can get through depression by themselves, so ya I would say visit more often, and try to get him outside a bit, and try to convince him to clean his apartment a little.
Thank you very much for your help. I realy do appreciate it. I've know him since March, and for this long I have not known how to deal with him.
Anytime, Ive been through depression twice before so I know what he's going through, if you need anymore help just message me
Thank you for your support. Can I add you as a friend?
Ya go for it =)
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Tue 09/23/08 06:25 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
Meds are a serious way to make it worse ,I know, Ive been through 2 major depressions before. If someone is going through something like that ,the WORST thing someone can do is to "Give them space", if someone is depressed you need to be around for them as much as possible, or he may shut himself down to the world altogether. So ya The best thing you can do is just to be there for him and to keep contact as much as possible.
His depression is hereditary. I call so much that I I drive myself nut's! I want to know what mindset I need to have to deal with him. I got ya on staying in contact.....WILL DO.
Dont change yourself to suite him, you can be sympathetic towards him, but dont get drug down with him though. I would suggest trying to find out why he's depressed and trying to help him to work it out, AND I know for a fact that sunlight really is the natural cure for depression too, so make sure he's in the sun alot, Hereditary Depression is something that runs in my family as well, but I somehow seem to overcome it everyday. As for your mindset, Just be yourself around him.
His personal appearance is allway's well groomed and he iron's his clothe's but,...you should see his apt.! What a pig sty. He won't let me help him clean it. He keep's the drape's closed. I should try to be over there more I guess.
Another thing that goes along with Depression is not taking care of yourself OR the place your living in, you just dont care anymore. Nobody can get through depression by themselves, so ya I would say visit more often, and try to get him outside a bit, and try to convince him to clean his apartment a little.
Thank you very much for your help. I realy do appreciate it. I've know him since March, and for this long I have not known how to deal with him.
Anytime, Ive been through depression twice before so I know what he's going through, if you need anymore help just message me
Thank you for your support. Can I add you as a friend?
Ya go for it =)
Thank you! I Need help with him.
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Tue 09/23/08 06:27 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
Meds are a serious way to make it worse ,I know, Ive been through 2 major depressions before. If someone is going through something like that ,the WORST thing someone can do is to "Give them space", if someone is depressed you need to be around for them as much as possible, or he may shut himself down to the world altogether. So ya The best thing you can do is just to be there for him and to keep contact as much as possible.
His depression is hereditary. I call so much that I I drive myself nut's! I want to know what mindset I need to have to deal with him. I got ya on staying in contact.....WILL DO.
Dont change yourself to suite him, you can be sympathetic towards him, but dont get drug down with him though. I would suggest trying to find out why he's depressed and trying to help him to work it out, AND I know for a fact that sunlight really is the natural cure for depression too, so make sure he's in the sun alot, Hereditary Depression is something that runs in my family as well, but I somehow seem to overcome it everyday. As for your mindset, Just be yourself around him.
His personal appearance is allway's well groomed and he iron's his clothe's but,...you should see his apt.! What a pig sty. He won't let me help him clean it. He keep's the drape's closed. I should try to be over there more I guess.
Another thing that goes along with Depression is not taking care of yourself OR the place your living in, you just dont care anymore. Nobody can get through depression by themselves, so ya I would say visit more often, and try to get him outside a bit, and try to convince him to clean his apartment a little.
Thank you very much for your help. I realy do appreciate it. I've know him since March, and for this long I have not known how to deal with him.
Anytime, Ive been through depression twice before so I know what he's going through, if you need anymore help just message me
Thank you for your support. Can I add you as a friend?
Ya go for it =)
Thank you! I Need help with him.
He'll be fine, Ive learned that time really does heal depression if you deal with it right, He's just gotta learn how to refocus his mind.
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Tue 09/23/08 06:31 PM
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Have you suggested that he seek medical help?
He won't take his Zoloft like he's supposed to. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
Meds are a serious way to make it worse ,I know, Ive been through 2 major depressions before. If someone is going through something like that ,the WORST thing someone can do is to "Give them space", if someone is depressed you need to be around for them as much as possible, or he may shut himself down to the world altogether. So ya The best thing you can do is just to be there for him and to keep contact as much as possible.
His depression is hereditary. I call so much that I I drive myself nut's! I want to know what mindset I need to have to deal with him. I got ya on staying in contact.....WILL DO.
Dont change yourself to suite him, you can be sympathetic towards him, but dont get drug down with him though. I would suggest trying to find out why he's depressed and trying to help him to work it out, AND I know for a fact that sunlight really is the natural cure for depression too, so make sure he's in the sun alot, Hereditary Depression is something that runs in my family as well, but I somehow seem to overcome it everyday. As for your mindset, Just be yourself around him.
His personal appearance is allway's well groomed and he iron's his clothe's but,...you should see his apt.! What a pig sty. He won't let me help him clean it. He keep's the drape's closed. I should try to be over there more I guess.
Another thing that goes along with Depression is not taking care of yourself OR the place your living in, you just dont care anymore. Nobody can get through depression by themselves, so ya I would say visit more often, and try to get him outside a bit, and try to convince him to clean his apartment a little.
Thank you very much for your help. I realy do appreciate it. I've know him since March, and for this long I have not known how to deal with him.
Anytime, Ive been through depression twice before so I know what he's going through, if you need anymore help just message me
Thank you for your support. Can I add you as a friend?
Ya go for it =)
Thank you! I Need help with him.
He'll be fine, Ive learned that time really does heal depression if you deal with it right, He's just gotta learn how to refocus his mind.
I need to take note's now lol.......refocus, be happy. Yes, it's all common sense. I've been so frustrated tho not knowing how to take this.
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Tue 09/23/08 06:40 PM
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downer. How do you deal with a friend that suffer's from depression? We'll do fine hanging out for a couple week's and, poof he's off the map! Yeeeeeeeessssssssss, he's an ex bf. Nothing going on there though. (If he ever does give me hint's, I'm left clueless to them). I don't know how to react or behave. Take it with a grain of salt and, give him some time? Or, bagder the crap out of him the way I'm very good at? That tend's to drive me nut's though.
Don't badger him. Let him know you're there for him if he wants to talk or anything, listen to him regardless, give him advice, etc. try not to be judgemental, negative, etc. Any negativity, try to spin into postivity, highlight his positives,etc. Be a good friend that's what he needs.
Thank's, that sound's very resonable.
It's tough sometimes, but trust me just being there as a friend means alot to him, and does help, even if you don't think you're doing much.
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Tue 09/23/08 06:58 PM
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offer support and get him help depression is serious business and it cant be your whole job to get him out of it... just do your best to get him to get help for himself.
HE KONWS HE SUFFERS FROM DEPRESSION. My question is.........how do I deal with it?
I'm not a medical professional, but giving your support is the best thing to do. Just make it be known to him that he can call on you whenever needed, as long as he is not harmful to himself, you, or others. Then be there if and when he calls and let him resolve the depression on his own terms, again, as long as he is not harmful.
That said, you also will need to set the boundaries. For example, be clear that it is unacceptable to call and expect you to leave work, school, or other obligation at his beckoning. Let him know upfront that you will call for help if you suspect that he might harm himself or other's. And lastly, make up your mind that some people do things that we will never understand and we have no control over that. The first rule for using oxygen masks, take care of yourself first. Good luck!
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Tue 09/23/08 07:17 PM
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I'm still dealing with depression myself and I can tell you that it's not going to get better until he's ready for it to get better. Unfortunately, there is not much you can do to help him come to that decision any faster. Just be paitent and let him know that you are there for him and he will open up in time.
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