I recently thought about the real reasons why playing games in dating is so terrible. When you play a game there is always a winner and always a loser. If you date and you just are YOU, that does not happen. No games, no losers.

Now, granted it might not always work out, but if you know you were true to yourself and went with your instincts, then I hardly call that losing. Anyone care to share an experience where you were not your real self with someone you dated or felt/knew the other person wasn't?

it is too painful

i once had a date, where i the woman i was dating, it turned out was not actually interested in me, but a friend of mine.
if i had known it from the start, i would have set them up and kept myself out of it.

Boy Lilith.....I must have led a very protected life or something.......I just can't think of any games.......except on TV......

Jon, can I ask how such a thing is possible?

But, ummm, what happened so that you dated instead of her and your friend?

Me and my girlfriend used to have some very heated games of backgammon, so we decided there would be no more games.

Previously to her i dated my imaginary friend, but she decided after a time that i wasnt being real with her and left me for my gay uncle.

That's Benny Hill, right?

Music playing in my head now, for the whole day, I'm sure....

As long as you dont also spend the day thinking about patting me on my 'head'

Nope, just scantily clad folk running around and the terrible music...

I think the biggest and most hurtful game that people play is not being themselves at the start of a relationship. Lying by omission is just as bad as outright lying!

Is it still gaming if you are not yourself out of fear or assumptions?

many are not authentic ....to, or with themselves...they never could be with another...inferiority complexes...is my guess..

I think so.... it shows lack of strength of character if you are not yourself if you fear what others will think.

Assumptions can made.... its habit. But when asked a question an honest response should be given.

Oh where is my Montana with her "It is what it is"????

Where has she been?

Seriously!
He is HOT!

No doubt. Has a Clark Kent thing going, huh? Don't you want to take off those glasses?

Honesty is the best policy.

Sure it is, but I think some people get "ascared"... don't you? They place so much emphasis on the potentials they forget the in the moment stuff. And are left with "shoulda woulda coulda" when it falls out.

I'm broke so I can hide anything very good. I can't afford a place to hide the stuff.

My ex g/f. I am usually a very outgoing guy once I get to know people.

With her, I was always trying to be careful about what I said because I never knew what was gonna set her off on one of her " you are a completely useless piece of sh*t " diatribes.

I simply could not be me.