Several friends are all going through major crises in their lives right now. This gives me an opportunity to be Supportive Guy for them.

As some of you know, I studied psychology for seven years, even briefly thought about making a career of it. At some point, I decided it was not a viable option, though; psychology seeming to be almost equal parts legitimate research/understanding of the brain, pseudo-informed guesswork, and garishly manipulative BS.

I did learn some valuable things, though, and have been able to apply much of it to helping my friends deal with their various and sundry issues.

It doesn't work as well for me, probably because my own problems tend to be, in the overall scheme of things, somewhat minor and inconsequential.

I suppose my biggest problem right now would be finding a girlfriend who sees me as something more than Supportive Guy.

Girls love Supportive Guy -- for as long as they need him. Once he helps them get through the rough spots, they toss him aside like yesterday's newspaper.

There's a lesson in there somewhere....

F*ck it all to hellfire and damnation, Lexypoo.

You made a Nice Guy Thread and I'm going to hunt you down for this.... I have your phone number you know.... Telephone Harassment is only a misdemeanor....

I still adore you, though.

It's a shame that has been your experience with women. I want a supportive guy for life, and I want to be his best friend and support system, too.
Hope you find a supportive woman soon. Best wishes!!!

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How does that make "you" feel?

Yes, but I did it without ever once using the word "nice" and I think there's a loophole right there!

Actually, I was just thinking about this earlier this morning because of a poem I wrote yesterday....

Ha, that is counseling, not really psychology, but funny.



Lexy, there is a certain amount of narssicism required in many fields. Writing, psychology, medicine, law, etc. You have it, but you are self effacing and very humble in ways too. This is in interesting dichotomy and it's why you are good at being supportive guy. I think you are one of the few men in this universe that would not be intimidated by me in person, for we are a lot alike. Not much ruffles my feathers. Or yours.

You are a catch like no other. I'd chain you up in my basement in a heartbeat.

stay away Lex.....there is Radon Gas in her basement

Does the "Supportive Guy" quality mean only an emotional support or are you taking in boarders?

Is a "supportive guy" kinda like a "nice guy"?

Usually, it's an emotional thing, but there have been times when it escalated -- that's actually how I ended up getting married. Sort of a disincentive to go back to that sort of arrangement, really....

You know, I have to say, both yesterday's newspaper and today's newspaper were both written at a sixth grade reading level. Between that and the newsprint rubbing off on my hands, yeckkhhh....

are you an Athletic supporter?

I spent a few minutes trying to come up with a better simile but finally decided it was too subtle a point to worry about!

But surely you did not think I could let that slide? Not with you, babe.

Not necessarily. Sometimes being supportive means you have to give the other person some unwanted feedback -- they don't always appreciate being told when they're shooting themselves in the foot.

You're not being truly supportive if you're enabling self-destructive behaviors.

Im supportive like a bra

Hummm ya know it may be a nice guy thread but.... I must say it was very well done and the message comes across without the sniveling effect that most seem to have.

I do understand what your saying Lex it seems that most I talk to are for the same reasons. We talk and I end up helping them see things in a different perspective and they move on.

Just seems that I'm easy to talk to but can't seem to solve my own at times. Not that I really have any big issues at hand.

But someday we all will find that one that makes our light come on and they will be able to keep it shinning bright without all the flickering.

Lays on the couch and looks a lex with pain in her eyes.....So doc do you think I can refer all that come to me....to you instead....There are some of the guys that I would think to myself, "self they would be better off with Lex."

I think sometimes I am to brutally honest with people...and I don't know if it hurts them more then helps them. I also think that the best advise givers also need someone to bounce things off of...So I would like to book every Monday morning if that is possible.....

That's good, though, it prevents me from getting lazy!

Honestly, I think women do like men who are supportive and not ALL women toss them aside when their lives are going good!! I will say one thing, we do NOT like a yes man though!! I think if you date a "yes" man, you tend to think he is fake..I once dated one and he drove me nuts.
Lex, I just think you haven't found the right one that wants to settledown with you yet!! Keep looking because when you find her, she will be the lucky one!
Oh, I took psychology too...I enjoy getting inside peoples head and trying to figure them out! HMM I am odd though...and NO I would not lay on anyones couch, I like to be a mystery to people.