Yeah, we only got married a couple months ago. That's why this is such a shock. She started acting weird after her dad got jumped and put in the hospital, then she stopped coming home so much, stayed over there all the time. She said it was to keep an eye on him and I told her that it was fine and I understood. Next thing I know she won't answer her phone half the time, she quit her job, then she told me she doesn't want to be married anymore. I really don't want to let this go. I know we could make this work, I know this could be nothing more than a minor bump if we just played our cards right. I'm seriously wondering why she had this sudden and all too soon decision.

dad getting jumped is traumatic and she might not be mature enough to know not to make big decisions at a time like this...to quit a job and marriage at the same time might be a knee jerk reaction that she will regret when she calms down. Be patient, compassionate, and take care of yourself until she isn't feeling so overwhelmed..this might not be over

I hope you're right. All I've done so far is stopped talking to her. I figure if she wants to get back together and save our marriage I'll leave that up to her. I don't want her to feel like I'm pressuring her. I hope she does come around, though.

Now you just say..."NEXTTTTTTTTTT".

Easier said than done.

I really do think this is more about her than the two of you.

Josh..wow i am so sorry to hear that..been there, had almost exactly the same thing happen to me...my husband (at the time)came home one day almost two years ago, and told me that he didn't want to be married anymore..i didn't know what to say..no amount of talking or reasoning with him worked...it hurts...it sucks...and i am so sorry you are having to go through this. give it time, perhaps she will come back around.
Rebecca

Sorry hon, maybe you should wait a while to start on a dating site though. Or just be here for the forums for now. The dust hasn't even settled yet right?

You aren't even into the divorce proceedings, if you JUST got legally separated. Perhaps you could spend a bit more time trying to make it work? Maybe there's still a chance?

Anyone noticed that when Dad dies the His children's marriage gets into trouble... like divorce.


Sorry Dude, about your marriage.
The bright side is that it was only 2 months... it would suck if it took 2 years or 16 years to figure it out.
Respect her wishes and keep your dignity.
Everybody's a winner.

I don't really plan on dating. I don't feel like it. The most I'm trying to do right now is meet people to develop some sort of social life so I can get out of the house more often and not be alone and depressed so much. Because the only time I really get depressed about it is when I'm sitting at home alone and not keeping myself busy. If I have a friend over or I'm out somewhere with a friend I'm keeping myself busy, and I'm actually having fun. So that's my new goal: Worry about my happiness for the moment. I've spent three years of my life doing everything to make her happy, sacrificing my own happiness for hers. Now I just want to be happy for a while. In case you couldn't tell, I had a lot of time to think about all this at work today. I'm still down about it, but I'm trying to look on the bright side of every possible outcome now.