if you match with someone mutually are you not suppose to ahhh chat..is that not what that is for...how does that work exactly...how do you react to a mutual match

apparently, you accept.. and ignore... or you talk and then ignore, or you meet and then ignore.. anyway you look at it the end result is the same...you get ignored...

you mean you have to chat with them ..i thought they mailed them to you via UPS or fed ex and they were yours to do with whatever you want....sheesh what a cheap site....

I am some what opinionated...in others words hard to deal with...I am thinking I might be the problem...

I don't hear from most of them

good well sorry did not mean that ...I thought it was me...

you post in the mutual match thread.....you get ignored......

dont feel bad i get that on every site i have been on . i get emailed or matched try to respond and its like you are a leppord or something .seems like people dont care about other peoples feeling or what they think .

no wonder you get responces your good looking

ty... but I still get ignored, too.. LOL

I played shy girl and wouldn't talk to them first, but the one time I did talk first, it worked out, 8 months later and still together!

thanks i need it . been alone for to long .

I have a hard time believing you get ignored.

That thing is a game to most people heck they
Don't even take the time to read your profile
Even when you are not on here to date they still think you are
Why because they did not read just looked at a pic and hit yes


And then wonder why you are rude by not responding
To there match learn how to Read before you use
That thing nuff said



Wait a second they can't read this neither

Usually the ones i get are the models, my true matches. the only problem is, they'er pic's show them as white and they from Nigera or somthing like that. Shold i chat with them?


Ok, being serious now I have one that matched up with me last night. As usual, i read her profileand i have to say, after reading it and enjoying how she expressed herself of who she was. I sent an email, now this is where the catch is for me. usually 8 times out of 10 there nothing like anything they put on there profile and i'm like next. But not this time. I'm actually sharing with somone that is not afraid to share there views other then somone on the forum. My view on mutual matches. A wast of time...

to add, if it is a mutual match, it is supposed to mean they clicked yes as well and you should be able to at least email them to try and introduce yourself

are you the same lurch as in brother of lurchs sister? if so , if not, anyway

Even the ones that click yes first rarely email me. I've had more interaction from emails off the forums than from mutual matches. I guess everyone is afraid to make the first step?

ooohhhhh trust me ... I do..