Sooo my ex and I are still technically married but are seperated and going through a divorce. I don't want him anymore, he's screwed me over too much...so tell me why I'm so PISSED OFF that he's talking to his whore of an ex-girlfriend last night?!

Now, Myspace doesn't mean much, and those stupid apps are just that -- stupid. But when I looked at who bought people from me, I noticed she bought him and changed his status to "I had a great time goin over the past with you tonite babe.call me tomorrow"

WTF?! Babe? Excuse me b*ch, we're still legally married.

She tried to break us up numerous times and tried to cause so much **** between us...has he LOST IT?! This girl cheated on him with one of HIS OWN BROTHERS...as soon as she sees we're going through ****, she has to jump in. UUGHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was shaking I was so pissed off. And I don't even know if I have that right!

Should I just let it go?

If you do not want him anymore, then you shouldn't get so upset. Are you sure you just don't have some hidden feelings still? And you are checking up on him too. It doesn't sounds to me like you are over him and you need to be over him for yourself to move on.

Yes.

Let go.You deserve better and you are a pretty lady.

Technically, you probably don't have the right but it doesn't change how you feel. Sounds like there's a lot unresolved in your relationship, normal given the circumstances. You'll find that if you give yourself enough time and space, things like this won't bother you at all. Trick is to allow yourself to grieve, feel all that you feel and move on without getting stuck in it. Good luck, it's tough but it's possible

Your anger is soooooooo normal. Sounds cliche but time will heal this. By sometime next year you'll be laughing at yourself for being mad over their skanky behavior.
Hugs to you......stay strong!

you give her too much power over your emotions....

Well of course I still love his stupid ass...but he asked me if we could stay friends and I said okay. I'm rethinking that though, because that's just making things even more difficult...I don't need this and I don't need him...

Thanks for the advice guys

You need to let go or it will drag you down....consider yourself lucky to be rid of him...consider him her problem and be happy knowing that they deserve one another....karma will take care of them...you need to take care of you and realize that you deserve better than what he is willing to give....best of luck to you

Thanks

Trust me, I know what you are going through. My ex-wife and I seperated, and then no more than two weeks later, she was dating...and she tried to hide it. But I found out. She hated the secrecy, but told me that she didn't want to hurt me. Thing was, I already knew about it. I just wanted her to own up to it, which she did. So, that pretty much solidified that we would divorce. It was pure hell seeing them together, because he had tried (while we were married and he was married) to get with my ex. But now, I am over it, and actually he and I are on good terms. I never hated him. Just didn't like what happened and I felt used by all of it.

Anyways, you have to move on cause this is a situation that you don't need. You will always love him ( a part of you will) no matter what he does. As for you, you have to think about yourself and what you need. About what is best for you, and even for him. He clearly doesn't want to be with you. Sorry you are going through this mess. Hopefully you will do what you need to do. I wish you the best with this, cause I know it is hard to go through.

Wow I know its hard to get through all of this stuff, it took me over a year. Trust me, after you are over him..you will look back and wonder what did you ever see in this jerk! I think the best thing you can actually do for yourself UNTIL you get over him....is not see him and be friends with him. I think you have to heal from the relationship and get over the hurt. I think the best thing would be to delete him from your myspace and that way you couldn't check up on him? Right now, you need to take this time for YOU!!
They say that time will heal everything..it does! In awhile you will be over the hurt and be over being mad. The main thing you have to realize is that you have to heal from this relationship before you can really move on. It takes a lot of work and it takes a lot of time, but in the end..its really worth it because then you can start a new relationship with NO baggage!!
Good luck and happy soul searching with in

I'm thinking he did this out of spite to be honest...he knows I hate the *****, and last night I outright told him, after telling him about me getting accepted to a computer training school, that I don't need him to be happy, and I'm happier than I've been in about six months -- we've only been seperated for one and a half. So I'm sure that hurt, but he needed to hear it. I'm trying to be strong for myself...

Funny thing is, I can play games 10x better than he can, so he's in for it

karma's a *****...


ehhh, I probably won't have to do anything. It'll take care of itself

But thanks for all the advice! I'm going to keep all of this in mind, and hopefully today I'll be able to delete him...

I promise you this...if you play games back and forth, you are headed for nothing but heartache. Then it will become a game of who can hurt who the worse...its really not worth it. I think right now you are so full of anger that it didn't work out...you go through so many fases when you go through a divorce. This will pass in a month if you don't play his games..if you do, its never going to end!!

Staying friends is hard to do once you have been in such an intimate relationship. Doesn't mean it cannot be done though. I went through my separation and divorce a few years ago and it was tough to let go, even though I knew we weren't a good fit. We wanted to stay friendly if not for our sake but for our daughter. And we did that. It did take a little bit for me to see her or think about her with someone else. I guess that's just natural. But as time went by, it was easier and easier. See, I want her to be happy, just as she wants me to be happy. And at this time I can truly say, we are "friends" and get along very well. She gets along with my girlfriend and I get along with her boyfriend. And our daughter loves all of us.

damn it, cupid is pissed. a fine young individual like yourself, should never have to feel the emotions that you feel. you are great. you are brilliant. don't forget that. if any advice ever rolled off my lips like a red carpet in vegas, this is it madame. do what is right for you. because there are a lot of well hung, well dressed, well equals out here. just thought i let you know, you hot, sexy lady.

Why are you even checking his or her myspace? It seems you are still wanting to keep tabs. You're mad because you're still "legally married" yet you say you don't want him anymore. Let him continue ruining his own life with this "whore" if he wants to.

Hurry up and leave!

Move on with your life ! He's not worth it ! Good Luck.

I tought you said you were getting rid of him? Sounds like you are trying to still hold on to him. If you don't want him, then why should you care what he does or with whom ever. If he is going to be like that, then let him go completely and move on with you life. You know you deserve better, so go find it. He'll leave her for another one sometime. They get what they deserve in the long run. Don't let it get to you.