I must be good luck for men online. Really.

I keep finding great guys to talk to online, we start talking on the phone, e-mail, etc..

They say, "wow, I have never met a woman like you before. You kick ass!" (or something to that effect.)

We make plans to meet, and then- WHAM!!

I get an e-mail or a call saying, "Thank you for all your advice, and talking openly about women. I have found a girl, went back to the ex, etc."

SHEESH. I must be a lucky charm or something. I guess if you want to find a great girl, you have to talk to me first.

My mailbox is now open for business.. lol!

Great googly moogly- I should get a damn finders fee.

Well, if alot think you do alot for them. back off a little and let them do some of the work. Just a thought...

can i give your number to a friend of mine? hes trying to work things out with his wife so they dont get a divorce. i think he could use a liitle luck from you after the sh!t he pulled

I can't help it. It's my nature to be honest, open, and yes- I am NOT like a lot of other women. I am not the coy, girly type and will tell a man the truth about my gender. i.e. how we act, why we do what we do, etc...

*this ones going to get my hunted down by my fellow women I know it*

I cannot be anyone but myself. You know?

can i give your number to a friend of mine? hes trying to work things out with his wife so they dont get a divorce. i think he could use a liitle luck from you after the sh!t he pulled



That's kind of sad and funny, because actually, I could probably give him some great advice.

*smacks self in head*

I wish I wasn't so damn helpful sometimes. ;)

Three things -- Seems to me you're dealing with the wrong guys. Probably just a statistical thing because sooner or later, one of them is going to stick around....

-- As far as this weird leprechaun ability you have, you sound exactly like the kind of friend I need....!

-- Great googly moogly? Any chance you've been listening to FZ?

Yeah i understand about being who you are and such. but there is a limit to doing things for others too.

Hell yeah. I love Zappa!

well, it means that you've got great wisdom, and they're not what you were looking for anyway. why would someone go back to an ex, when they know that doesn't last. because they've got a comfort zone, and will never grow. you however will take the chance and break the mold, and that is what real dreams are made of. great luck and patience to you.

Maybe I should clarify a bit.
I start talking to a man, we get to know eachother and then I get asked questions about how come I am so honest and open.
I reply that I don't see the need for bull**** and games between the sexes. (really- why bother?)

So then, as it progresses, I am told once again, I am a good catch- I hate that phrase.

So what happens? The guys start getting to know how a woman thinks which then makes it better for him and he finds a girl who, you guessed it, is not me.

It's very hard not to be bitter, but I feel like Dear Abbey or yet another best friend. I am happy for them. Really.

I am just a little confused why if I am such a "good catch" I am always thrown back?

I am sooooo trying to find the humor in this, I really am.

i understand, the almost but not quite bs. would you really like to have a relationship with that??? they can't snow you, and they know they would hurt you when they cheat, so they're sparing you the trouble.

Thanks for the advice. I just met a wonderful woman.

In my experience, they generally leave out the second half of that phrase --

"You're a good catch -- but not for me."

Eileen tells me I intimidate people, I don't get it but maybe she's on to something there....!!

terrible mirror......but funny.

Join the club.... I get that alot too. My bestest tells me all the time, I scare men, they don't know how to take a woman who knows what she's talking about, he tells me to dummy down...

I thank him for his honesty and then dismiss it immediatly.

Yes, it was funny! I needed a giggle. :)

Yeah, dumbing it down is NO solution at all -- if you have to dumb it down for them, they're not worth bothering with in the first place.

Aside from which, you end up with people like my ex-wife. An amoeba actually beat her in a test of who could get through a maze faster.

My ex is an engineer he is quite possibly both the smartest and dumbest person I know... Book smart but common sense STUPID.

Girl, I took a look at your profile and not only are you beautiful but you are obviously very intelligent and deep. You are a "great catch" I wouldn't throw you back. I'd take you home and eat you.