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Topic: Mate's secret spending
Greiving Joined Tue 02/20/07 Posts: 1037	Mon 03/26/07 09:07 AM
Do you think your mate's secret spending or sudden purchace revelations, is an act that causes separation?

Droxfo Joined Mon 03/05/07 Posts: 584	Mon 03/26/07 09:14 AM
Depends on how tight the money is, the level of involvement with the person and what the purchase is. Married or just living together, barely making the bills and something thats not needed and expensive probably will have an impact. Although everyone needs to be treated or needs to treat themselves occasionally. If not that can lead to problems as well.

Highway_Run Joined Fri 03/23/07 Posts: 8	Mon 03/26/07 09:14 AM
Depends on how much secret spending shes doing, but YES it would definitely raise some red flags in my mind!

FedMan Joined Sat 01/13/07 Posts: 892	Mon 03/26/07 09:16 AM
there should be no secrets. what the money was spent on could be a total lean to either direction, if she is buying you something and don't want you to know about it, that's awesome but if it's buying stuff for another man/men then hell I hope you don't need to ask.

ISLANDKING Joined Tue 02/27/07 Posts: 356	Mon 03/26/07 09:38 AM
yes it can lead to that...cuz then follows lack of trust...no communication leadin to no understandin...so on and so forth....

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76393	Mon 03/26/07 10:18 AM
Humm well if you both trust each other unless it is for a gift you should already know were the money goes and your partner would never overspend what they know ya can not afford and would be for the things that are needed.

ellgee1976 Joined Sat 10/28/06 Posts: 7296	Mon 03/26/07 10:29 AM
depends on what is purchased... i agree with Txs, and Fedman

seahawks Joined Thu 01/11/07 Posts: 16735	Mon 03/26/07 12:17 PM
NOT IF SHE BUYIN ME POWERTOOLS WITH MY VISA LOL

Greiving Joined Tue 02/20/07 Posts: 1037	Mon 04/02/07 12:36 AM
Or at least cause turbulence that could lead to separation?

Morena350 Joined Sat 09/30/06 Posts: 13611	Mon 04/02/07 06:48 AM
nope, as long as he spending his not mine all is well!!

Greyhound Joined Fri 08/11/06 Posts: 20290	Mon 04/02/07 08:44 AM
I think it would cause big problems if they can barely make ends meet. Otherwise I think it would be ok as long as they don't get too carried away. But it has to be their own money.

Barbiesbigsister Joined Sat 03/10/07 Posts: 1579	Mon 04/02/07 10:23 AM
as long as he is at home depot buyin me new powertools or tickets for the greenbay packers HECK NO!!!! If that spending is done secretly I find a big problem with that. You know i see so many say "MY MONEY...THEIR MONEY". Whatever happened to OUR MONEY???? Maybe its just me but marriage is meant to me to mean that you build a life TOGETHER instead of sneakin around. Just my honest opinion ya'll!!

lulu24 Joined Sun 02/11/07 Posts: 6033	Mon 04/02/07 04:17 PM
the only time i really cared...was when i handed him six hundred bucks that he was supposed to deposit in my account to cover the rent-check...and he then used it to buy beer and pizza for all his buddies. wouldn't have been QUITE so bad...but he lied and said he deposited the money...because he planned on covering the deposit with his own check. needless to say, he didn't, and my check went bouncy.

jeanc200358 Joined Fri 02/02/07 Posts: 3183	Tue 04/03/07 05:54 AM
Like hell, you say. HE would have gone bouncy...right out the door.

lulu24 Joined Sun 02/11/07 Posts: 6033	Tue 04/03/07 02:56 PM
he did, not long after. i couldn't just get rid of him as i was raising my step-daughter...and i had to make sure i'd be able to keep her.

Greiving Joined Tue 02/20/07 Posts: 1037	Fri 06/15/07 12:19 PM