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Topic: What will you do?
Aragorn25 Joined Sun 09/14/08 Posts: 10	Mon 09/15/08 05:00 PM
Greetings and well met, So i work for a company and my position is IT/Business analyst. Anyways a man at work goes up and ask this pretty blonde out and got turned down infront of cohorts of her bimbo friends. He leaves and hear them making fun of the guy. You would think they will know better because i do overhear thier bad experince with men like dumping them like dead flies. And then i see them off teasing and flirting with the poor guy. Think i should step in and flex my power over the harpies?

jimmy99005 Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 5815	Mon 09/15/08 05:03 PM
Tread lightly in uncharted waters!

SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 14708	Mon 09/15/08 05:03 PM
Wow, what tacky girls!! Shame on them!!! Hope they get to experience that kind of embarrassment somehow!! Very gauche! But, as for you weilding power, if you are their boss, and that was a personal time, butt out.

talldub Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 2629	Mon 09/15/08 05:05 PM
Greetings and well met, So i work for a company and my position is IT/Business analyst. Anyways a man at work goes up and ask this pretty blonde out and got turned down infront of cohorts of her bimbo friends. He leaves and hear them making fun of the guy. You would think they will know better because i do overhear thier bad experince with men like dumping them like dead flies. And then i see them off teasing and flirting with the poor guy. Think i should step in and flex my power over the harpies? Bimbo friends? Harpies? If that's the way you refer to your colleagues then I think you should keep out of it or prove yourself an ass!

cutelildevilsmom Joined Sat 04/07/07 Posts: 8862	Mon 09/15/08 05:05 PM Edited by cutelildevilsmom on Mon 09/15/08 05:07 PM
You should mind your own business unless he's a friend or this is your own personal story.I'm sure your friend dodged a bullet when the woman turned him down.

MsTeddyBear2u Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 22031	Mon 09/15/08 05:09 PM Edited by MsTeddyBear2u on Mon 09/15/08 05:12 PM
This chit happens all the time in work places. It happens with both men and woman. There should be a NO DATE policy there where you work. I thought flirting at work was now considered sexual harasement? What is that saying... When in doubt- bud out. Perhaps you could console the man, and tell him there are more fish in the sea. That is all I would do. Why make a situation worse and add to it, or stoop to someone elses level?

seahawks Joined Thu 01/11/07 Posts: 16735	Mon 09/15/08 05:11 PM
This chit happens all the time in work places. It happens with both men and woman. There should be a NO DATE policy there where you work. I thought flirting at work was now considered sexual harament? What is that saying... When in doubt- bud out. Perhaps you could console the man, and tell him there are more fish in the sea. That is all I would do. Why make a situation worse and add to it, or stoop to someone elses level?

Aragorn25 Joined Sun 09/14/08 Posts: 10	Mon 09/15/08 05:15 PM
Unfortunely almost everyone can hear them talk. And no i am not there boss but i do see and report all to senior managers, COO and COE directly. They are very unprofessional. Should i help a fellow clueless man in need? I wont do much maybe a warning of behavior? He is a friend and works under me

Dangerous_Kitchen Joined Mon 06/02/08 Posts: 2897	Mon 09/15/08 05:16 PM
tell him to join us here! he might just find a nice girl (or thing) on mutual match

seahawks Joined Thu 01/11/07 Posts: 16735	Mon 09/15/08 05:21 PM
Unfortunely almost everyone can hear them talk. And no i am not there boss but i do see and report all to senior managers, COO and COE directly. They are very unprofessional. Should i help a fellow clueless man in need? I wont do much maybe a warning of behavior? He is a friend and works under me and then they wonder why people go postal.!!!!

cutelildevilsmom Joined Sat 04/07/07 Posts: 8862	Mon 09/15/08 05:21 PM
Unfortunely almost everyone can hear them talk. And no i am not there boss but i do see and report all to senior managers, COO and COE directly. They are very unprofessional. Should i help a fellow clueless man in need? I wont do much maybe a warning of behavior? He is a friend and works under me I would keep it out of work unless he wants to take it a step further.Why f@#$k with someone's job just because they use poor judgement..It's up to your friend to take action if he sees fit not you.

lil_bit Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 1685	Mon 09/15/08 05:24 PM
Greetings and well met, So i work for a company and my position is IT/Business analyst. Anyways a man at work goes up and ask this pretty blonde out and got turned down infront of cohorts of her bimbo friends. He leaves and hear them making fun of the guy. You would think they will know better because i do overhear thier bad experince with men like dumping them like dead flies. And then i see them off teasing and flirting with the poor guy. Think i should step in and flex my power over the harpies? Take this to Human Resources, the bimbos are creating a "hostile environment" for others and that is a form of sexual harassment. THere are also whistle blower laws to protect you from ramifications.

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Mon 09/15/08 05:24 PM Edited by IndnPrncs on Mon 09/15/08 05:26 PM
Unfortunely almost everyone can hear them talk. And no i am not there boss but i do see and report all to senior managers, COO and COE directly. They are very unprofessional. Should i help a fellow clueless man in need? I wont do much maybe a warning of behavior? He is a friend and works under me I do think the key here is necessarily helping a clueless man no matter how sad.. The key is the unprofessionalism displayed by your co-workers.. I would think that they are making the office look bad and the COO and CEO should be aware of it so that they can be taught proper professionalism... Another thought for him/you is does your employee handbook/manual mention dating within the work place? They may have created a hostile work environment "technically" but he's created sexual harrassment and at the very least violated the handbook/manual if it says no dating co-workers, etc. As for the poor clueless man, well we must all learn at some point rejection and appreciation... He is no different.. A friend would talk to him and let him know that not all females are that way.. but I agree with talldub, your reference to them isn't very professional either... Perhaps you mean teach them to be courteous and humane?

izzie Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31834	Mon 09/15/08 05:30 PM
i he works under you.. you wielding any "power" you may or may think you have could just show "favoritism" of him and cause you more problems in the long run... its just my opinion.. but if what they are doing bothers you so much.. perhaps you should talk to them about it.. let htem know how unprofessional you see it, and ask that they keep it to personal time that these kinds of discussions are had... if you do have any "power" then they will likely heed your warning as just that.. and if notthen at least it put someone in their place.. good luck

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Mon 09/15/08 06:40 PM
i he works under you.. you wielding any "power" you may or may think you have could just show "favoritism" of him and cause you more problems in the long run... its just my opinion.. but if what they are doing bothers you so much.. perhaps you should talk to them about it.. let htem know how unprofessional you see it, and ask that they keep it to personal time that these kinds of discussions are had... if you do have any "power" then they will likely heed your warning as just that.. and if notthen at least it put someone in their place.. good luck I agree here, and besides who jumps right to "weilding" power as opposed to talking it out in a work place? Sounds to me like an office I'd hate to work in with any of the parties involved....

120557 Joined Fri 11/16/07 Posts: 763	Mon 09/15/08 07:36 PM
Talk to Human Resources about it. Sexual harrasment is a very fine (But well defined) line to walk on. I had to put up with it in the Corps watching the troops. I just had a go around with one harassing my daughter at work. He says or does anything to her he will automaticly be fired ont the spot and turned over to the sherrifs department to face charges. This was the choixe offerd to him in front of his director or what for me to get him off the company property. He choosed the first. The dir read him his rights and he signed a statement to the fact of the agreement so I left. I have heard that he now stays as far away from her as possable. That was his second and last warning. Next time he is all mine. Have your ducks in line before you go hunting, otherwise you may shoot youself in the foot. Talk to him before you do anything. If he doesn't want to push the issue, then you have no leg to stand on...

Aragorn25 Joined Sun 09/14/08 Posts: 10	Mon 09/15/08 07:42 PM
A lot of people are nice and we just got a few bad apples. I told my friend to ignore the advances. He is a quiet smart guy and what most called "a geek" or "nerd". The ladies don't seem to care really and it was them who first gave hints to the guy. Their manager know and HR. All got 2 warnings already. He is new and there target. I just don't understand why they do it when they themself know the pain or being treated badly.