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After cheating on me angie got married, and divorced 6 months later. Then she got married again, and again divorced 6 months later. In august angie married a 300 pound bulldyke lesbian with a mullet and chaindrive billfold wallet in one of those strange circus union marriages in a state park where many gays have been arrested for sexual activity. I hope she lives happily ever after. 
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usually I would say just go on and let that be your revenge,but in the case of my ex-fiance that went out the window.I found emails to other girls in his myspace,and even one to a drag queen that he had sent over the last two months of our relationship,sent from my computer since he was living with me.I printed them out,kicked him out of the house then sent copies of them to his dad,his captain at the fire department that he was volunteering for,and the head guard at the prison he worked for....needless to say he got fired a few months later for something I wont discuss on here
 granted it was childish of me,but it made me feel better at the time and it got my point across |
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Now that's funny!!!
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he tries every few months to get back with me and I just send him on his way lol...chalk that guy under what was I smoking when I got together with him,cause he was a head case plain and simple
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If you think you are fifty percent responsible for your wifes cheating, I suggest you go get some counseling. And if your pastor agrees you are partially responsible I suggest strongly you get another paster. The only person at fault, insofar as the cheating itself is concerned, is the cheater. I am not saying things were great in your marriage, but it was SHE who cheated on you, not you cheating on her. The Counselor and Pastor will say not 50%, but somewhere in the 25-40%. Cheating is a symptom. Something is very wrong in the relationship. A basic need wasn't met. Yes, it would be easier for me to leave the situation and watch the Train wreck of her marrying the other guy. But my kids would have been on that train. BTW, the other guy was a friend... He already had 3 previous divorces... His current marriage is with a woman whom he was courting while she was still married... After my wife, he was cheating again with another housewife. From my wife's account and stories, I know he used series of techniques to seduce woman. I recognized what they were from doing research. Simple things like: being leader of the tribe, Demonstrating Higher Values with made up stories, being unpredictable... etc... I also found 4 reasons why a good girl would cheat. If these 4 condition exist in your marriage, than she is susceptible to the wolves out there. |
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usually I would say just go on and let that be your revenge,but in the case of my ex-fiance that went out the window.I found emails to other girls in his myspace,and even one to a drag queen that he had sent over the last two months of our relationship,sent from my computer since he was living with me.I printed them out,kicked him out of the house then sent copies of them to his dad,his captain at the fire department that he was volunteering for,and the head guard at the prison he worked for....needless to say he got fired a few months later for something I wont discuss on here granted it was childish of me,but it made me feel better at the time and it got my point across Did he give you his password etc and give you permission to look at his account? Cause if not then you are also guilty of breaking the law. What you did is highly illegal and prosecuteable if he did not give you permission. And he could legally state that because you broke up permission, if given, was removed even if tacitly. i am sorry if I seem like I am supporting his actions, I am not, but what you did was wrong nad illegal as well, and two wrongs do not ever make a right. |
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If you think you are fifty percent responsible for your wifes cheating, I suggest you go get some counseling. And if your pastor agrees you are partially responsible I suggest strongly you get another paster. The only person at fault, insofar as the cheating itself is concerned, is the cheater. I am not saying things were great in your marriage, but it was SHE who cheated on you, not you cheating on her. The Counselor and Pastor will say not 50%, but somewhere in the 25-40%. Cheating is a symptom. Something is very wrong in the relationship. A basic need wasn't met. Yes, it would be easier for me to leave the situation and watch the Train wreck of her marrying the other guy. But my kids would have been on that train. BTW, the other guy was a friend... He already had 3 previous divorces... His current marriage is with a woman whom he was courting while she was still married... After my wife, he was cheating again with another housewife. From my wife's account and stories, I know he used series of techniques to seduce woman. I recognized what they were from doing research. Simple things like: being leader of the tribe, Demonstrating Higher Values with made up stories, being unpredictable... etc... I also found 4 reasons why a good girl would cheat. If these 4 condition exist in your marriage, than she is susceptible to the wolves out there. A responsible and proper pastor/counselor will nt place ANY of the blame on anyone other than the one at fault. yes there may have been problems in the relationship, but no matter what those are/were it does not excuse or absolve the persons guilt if they choose to have an affair outside the relationship. If the problems are that bad, then it is their responsibility to end the relationship first, and THEN pursue another relationship, not prior. I am sorry my friend, but you are deluding yourself by believing you are at fault in anything to do with her infidelity. you are at fault for anything You have or have not done, yes, but you did nt put her in bed with the other guy, hold a gun to her head and tellh er she had to have an affair. She chose to do that all on her own, so the blame is all hers. |
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If you think you are fifty percent responsible for your wifes cheating, I suggest you go get some counseling. And if your pastor agrees you are partially responsible I suggest strongly you get another paster. The only person at fault, insofar as the cheating itself is concerned, is the cheater. I am not saying things were great in your marriage, but it was SHE who cheated on you, not you cheating on her. The Counselor and Pastor will say not 50%, but somewhere in the 25-40%. Cheating is a symptom. Something is very wrong in the relationship. A basic need wasn't met. Yes, it would be easier for me to leave the situation and watch the Train wreck of her marrying the other guy. But my kids would have been on that train. BTW, the other guy was a friend... He already had 3 previous divorces... His current marriage is with a woman whom he was courting while she was still married... After my wife, he was cheating again with another housewife. From my wife's account and stories, I know he used series of techniques to seduce woman. I recognized what they were from doing research. Simple things like: being leader of the tribe, Demonstrating Higher Values with made up stories, being unpredictable... etc... I also found 4 reasons why a good girl would cheat. If these 4 condition exist in your marriage, than she is susceptible to the wolves out there. A responsible and proper pastor/counselor will nt place ANY of the blame on anyone other than the one at fault. yes there may have been problems in the relationship, but no matter what those are/were it does not excuse or absolve the persons guilt if they choose to have an affair outside the relationship. If the problems are that bad, then it is their responsibility to end the relationship first, and THEN pursue another relationship, not prior. I am sorry my friend, but you are deluding yourself by believing you are at fault in anything to do with her infidelity. you are at fault for anything You have or have not done, yes, but you did nt put her in bed with the other guy, hold a gun to her head and tellh er she had to have an affair. She chose to do that all on her own, so the blame is all hers. None of the counselors (3 in total, 2 christian base, 1 non christian), placed any blame on her. I see the point of our misunderstanding. You see it as excuse or absolve someones guilt. That is not the case, We see it as each person oweing up to his/her own responsibility for their role in the affair. Of Course, like I said there are 4 reasons why wife cheat. One of them, "View Cheating as normal interaction" is not going to heal by the method we have chosen. Even now, I still have my doubts whether it is going to work. We finally link it back, to her childhood exp. and her lack of respect for herself. Another source is "Love, Sex and Long lasting Relationship" by Chip Ingram... The author describes "It is a slippery slope." She was not going to sin, but like to play at the edge (temptation) and she slipped. It is quick and it destroys. Daniel.. you speak as if you are very well educated, but I don't believe you are speaking from an expert point of view, but rather from an emotional point of view. Please clarify what is your background on the subject? Only 1 out of the 4 conditions meet with your suggestion of blaming 100% her fault. The others are caused by "Needs" not being met in the relationship. |
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People are responsible for their behavior. The only thing we can control is our own actions....
Your wife chose to cheat. That was within her ability to control. The other issues are moot... she chose to step outsde the relationship due to problems within it and that is 100% her choice, her responsibility. It was her affair, not yours. There were a million other things she could have done, but she and she alone chose to lie in bed with another man. Nothing you did contibutes to her behavior. Wow... 
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cheaters never prosper!!! instead can we get along n get it on!!!
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 What is the worst thing you did to get revenge at a cheating lowlife ex? Hello little monkey...poepoe say hello. |
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Edited by
GOALLTHEWAY
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Wed 09/17/08 12:00 PM
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What is the worst thing you did to get revenge at a cheating lowlife ex? I sowed a dead carp into the underlining of her mattress. Man she was pissed. That’s my number one memory of her and you know what …I felt no pain or sadness for the end of our relationship from that point on. I put the stank on the skank!!! See it's healthy ...now when I think of her I just feel bladder straining joy and laughter. Try it you'll feel better I promise. |
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I didnt take revenge I acted like an adult and just left his sorry a$$......
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I didnt take revenge I acted like an adult and just left his sorry a$$...... A dead fish in the bed is better trust me. |
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I didnt take revenge I acted like an adult and just left his sorry a$$...... A dead fish in the bed is better trust me. what does that have to do with anything?? 
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I didnt take revenge I acted like an adult and just left his sorry a$$...... A dead fish in the bed is better trust me. what does that have to do with anything?? Read my post about the dead fish in my ex's mattress above^^^^ |
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o0o I missed that post lol sorry but that is a good one.. Why didnt I think of that?!
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My reaoning is very simple. No one held a gun to your wifes head and forced her to have an affair. She chose to do so knowing that it was wrong, knowing that if htere were problem that made her want to look elsewhere, she should have ended the relationship first.
I am sorry, but yuo sayin gthat it is partially your fault for her to choose to have an affair, is like my son saying it is my fault for telling him he cant have seconds on desert, when he goes and sneaks intot he refrigerator to steal more desert. You and your wife stood up, and made vows to each other, soemthing along the lines of taking each other for life, no matter what teh circumstances that arrive. you both agreed to follow those vows. Lets say yuo were someone who beat the **** out of her. That would give her the right to beat the **** outta you in return yes, along with leave the relationship, but until she has left that relationship, she is still held by the vows she made in the beginning. It is not your fault that she chose to not end the relationship prior to sleeping with another guy, plain and simple. If you think you are fifty percent responsible for your wifes cheating, I suggest you go get some counseling. And if your pastor agrees you are partially responsible I suggest strongly you get another paster. The only person at fault, insofar as the cheating itself is concerned, is the cheater. I am not saying things were great in your marriage, but it was SHE who cheated on you, not you cheating on her. The Counselor and Pastor will say not 50%, but somewhere in the 25-40%. Cheating is a symptom. Something is very wrong in the relationship. A basic need wasn't met. Yes, it would be easier for me to leave the situation and watch the Train wreck of her marrying the other guy. But my kids would have been on that train. BTW, the other guy was a friend... He already had 3 previous divorces... His current marriage is with a woman whom he was courting while she was still married... After my wife, he was cheating again with another housewife. From my wife's account and stories, I know he used series of techniques to seduce woman. I recognized what they were from doing research. Simple things like: being leader of the tribe, Demonstrating Higher Values with made up stories, being unpredictable... etc... I also found 4 reasons why a good girl would cheat. If these 4 condition exist in your marriage, than she is susceptible to the wolves out there. A responsible and proper pastor/counselor will nt place ANY of the blame on anyone other than the one at fault. yes there may have been problems in the relationship, but no matter what those are/were it does not excuse or absolve the persons guilt if they choose to have an affair outside the relationship. If the problems are that bad, then it is their responsibility to end the relationship first, and THEN pursue another relationship, not prior. I am sorry my friend, but you are deluding yourself by believing you are at fault in anything to do with her infidelity. you are at fault for anything You have or have not done, yes, but you did nt put her in bed with the other guy, hold a gun to her head and tellh er she had to have an affair. She chose to do that all on her own, so the blame is all hers. None of the counselors (3 in total, 2 christian base, 1 non christian), placed any blame on her. I see the point of our misunderstanding. You see it as excuse or absolve someones guilt. That is not the case, We see it as each person oweing up to his/her own responsibility for their role in the affair. Of Course, like I said there are 4 reasons why wife cheat. One of them, "View Cheating as normal interaction" is not going to heal by the method we have chosen. Even now, I still have my doubts whether it is going to work. We finally link it back, to her childhood exp. and her lack of respect for herself. Another source is "Love, Sex and Long lasting Relationship" by Chip Ingram... The author describes "It is a slippery slope." She was not going to sin, but like to play at the edge (temptation) and she slipped. It is quick and it destroys. Daniel.. you speak as if you are very well educated, but I don't believe you are speaking from an expert point of view, but rather from an emotional point of view. Please clarify what is your background on the subject? Only 1 out of the 4 conditions meet with your suggestion of blaming 100% her fault. The others are caused by "Needs" not being met in the relationship. |
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People are responsible for their behavior. The only thing we can control is our own actions.... Your wife chose to cheat. That was within her ability to control. The other issues are moot... she chose to step outsde the relationship due to problems within it and that is 100% her choice, her responsibility. It was her affair, not yours. There were a million other things she could have done, but she and she alone chose to lie in bed with another man. Nothing you did contibutes to her behavior. Wow... Lilith turns me on with her psychology. 
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Edited by
GOALLTHEWAY
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Wed 09/17/08 12:08 PM
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o0o I missed that post lol sorry but that is a good one.. Why didnt I think of that?! alicat4213 can I have some Double D'S milk ….wow!!! I like your photos. |
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