Hello to everyone here,,I hope yall can sit back and read for a
min,,cause this is a hard one for me,,im now going one one year and 3
months being away from my ex-wife,,meaning the big((D)),,hate the word
so im not saying it,,sorry but my feelings is in this ,,well its now
going one just that long,,and we still have these lil flings with each
other,,she askes me to come back after shes the one that put me out and
then 2-3 day later she calls me back after she finds out she was wrong
for doing so,,and trys to keep me up,,there not one day that dont go by
when im with her that I feel that im walking on egg shells,,and now I
feel like its about to happen again,,see we were just seeing each other
3 months ago,,and then Ca-Boom,,it stopped cause she got pissed that I
did not stand up for her over some crap that happen in the past befor
me,,I look at like this,,If something happens And im not around or was
in the pic,, then why bitch at me about I did not do my part and stand
up for you,,why should I ,,,,but in all shes the mother of my daughter
that I love to the end of my world,,and I feel that she should not live
in a house with out her mother and father there as one,,but if its not
working and there more then just 2 nights a week fighting with each
other then why be there ,,well I know I answered my own question,,but
the thing is,,can you see your self away from your child and the person
you where to love for life when you got married,,I never in my life
thought this is how it should feel,,and really I dont know how to
feel,,Its NUM,,I know that right now,,and hearing my daughter asking if
Im coming back home and then her smart as mother saying ,,((well thats
only if your father can love me the way he did be for,,)))what crap is
that to say to a child,,love changes if one can not respect it,,and she
didnt,,I love doing for her befor,,and still want to do for her but hate
that fact on how she thinks,,ladys now im not saying this is all of yall
but some of you and I mean just some ,,can be controlling,,and if so why
controll the one you love in the way you want his ass in the house all
the time,,and you dont want his friends around,,and should it be that
the house is going to be ran your way or guess what you can get
out,,meaning you saying that to your man,,well thats the crap I hated
and went through,,and really Its the feeling of missing her and wanting
her,,and after 7 years now its not changed ,,cause I just went through
it tonight,,she flipped over her heat in her house,,I live on my own
,,and so does she,,and she called me to help,,thats cool I didnt
mind,,but when I got there and said one thing was wrong ,,It was on,,the
fight began,,Its my fault that the heater never kicked in,,oh well I
thought we just came out of summer,,and now it just got into the low
temps,,and that all I said,,and then it was Give me my house key
back,,get your damn stuff and get the fuck out ,,where Im getting at is
should I just let shit go with her and move on,,its not like im affraid
of child support,,shit been paying that for 5 years now,,and yes even
when i was married to her,,just cause I knew this shit was going down
hill,,but in away im asking if I should stick it out cause Of my
daughter,,or should I just keep on moving and try to find lite else
where cause of the drama,,I know this sounds like bull shit and one of
thoes damn is he dumb type stories,,but really its not its my
feeling,,and my mind at this right now,,,,its like the voice in the head
shit,,you know,,,do it,,leave her,,but yet that damn heart puts his
2cents in it and fucks it all up from me walking,,I dont know I could be
dumb,,and if so I guess this is how love blinds one from seeing the
truth on what to do,,,,,,,,

First of all , she has absolutely nothing to loose and only your spirit
to gain, I don't like seeing abusive people taking advantage and using
the child as the tool to abuse. Once you stick to your guns and call
her bluff she will not know what to do and will either have to rethink
her abusive behavior or figure out that you are not there for her
control. Good luck to you and your daughter, she needs more help that
you know because she hears the fall out after she "kicks" you out sees
how you are after. Your first priority is to your child and then to
you, she ( your ex) left you two along time ago!

hey loves2please, if you hadn't said that you were married more than a
couple years ago i would have thought that you knew one of my ex's lol.
i don't think that you should stay there just fro your daughter. i don't
know if you are able to get custody of her but if you can't just try to
see her as much as possible. the ex sounds like she would use that
against you though so if you do be prepared. is it a situation that is
worth living in and having your daughter watch the 2 of you fight all
the time so you can be in the same house? you can only answer that my
man but i would not stay. i would definitely try to get custody of my
daughter but i wouldn't stay in that environment because it is not a
healthy environment for any of you. i hope everything works out for you
though.

It seems to me that if she is really saying that to you child then that
to me is abuse. Pitting the child against a parent is not in the child's
best interest. If you can prove your ex is saying this then you may be
able to prove abuse I think. So you may be able to gain custody if
that's what you desire.

Hi love2please,I know the feeling on the flip side. My ex husband was
like your ex wife.Always blaming me for something or giving me shit when
he had a bad day. I have twin teenagers and most of my married life,i
was a single mom. We rarely had sex. Hell,he was hardly home. We argued
constantly. I thought about staying married for the kids' sake but what
good would it do them if all they hear is arguing? They are not
stupid,they can feel the stress. After the divorce,I never bad mouthed
my ex to my sons. I figure when they get old enough,they will form their
own opinions about their dad. He ses them every other weekend(sometimes
more).We have both moved on. Hopefully,your daughter will realize what a
terrific dad she has.Hopefully,your ex will move on and stop trashing
you to your daughter.

I've been married for 20 years and I gotta tell you that there
are times when we drive each other apeshit and there's times
when she acts like a control freak and I act like an irresponsible
asshole. Somehow tho we've managed to make it
work. Man, I'm so sorry this shit is happening to you. You
are a funny motherfucker and to find humor in the midst of
being in a fucked up situation says alot about who you are.
Now to my opinion- Your lady has issues. I think she gets
off on making you feel like shit and she has no business putting
your child in the middle of all this shit. I normally NEVER
advise people to divorce cos I'm seen some ugly shit from people
I know who've been thru it but bro- Sometimes you just gotta
face the fact that you're in a no-win situation and move on.
There's a song that says "that girl is poison." Your lady
sounds like she is bitter and unhappy and wants everyone around
her to feel the same. You're a funny dude. Ladies love people
who can make them laugh. You can find someone new who won't
have all the drama and mindfucking. You could stick it out
for your daughter but she's gonna know you're unhappy and
do you really want your daughter to have memories of seeing
daddy always being miserable? Get while the gettin's good!

Hi Loves2Please...seems like you are getting some really good advice on
here and I hope, for your daughters sake, you can make a decision that
will benefit both you and her. Ex's are ex's for a reason, even if you
didn't intiate it.Thinking with your heart will keep you 'loving to
please' and your ex knows that.best thing to do is move on. Many women
out there would love to have a man who has so much to offer as a father
and in support of them. It can't work when the bad outweighs the
good,nobody wins.Just be a the goodfather that you are and continue to
always be there for you little girl. Good luck ! and God Bless !

ummmmm...been their done that.

MOVE ONNNNNNNNNN!!!! i know its eaiser said than donw have been there
myself. stayed in a 17 yr old marriage for the kids when the last 8-10
yrs was misserible. trust me the kids feel whats going on and its not
good for them in the long run. it took my 5 yr old asking me why do i
sleep in her room and not with daddy to realize what i was doing to
them. i didnt want to show my kids that this was the way a marriage was
suppose to be so i took that step and it was the best thing to do for
them and myself. just be there for your daughter no matter what and one
day she will realize how her mother is and will know that you love her
no matter what. i wish yu the best of luck.

For everyone here,I have to say thank you very much,,yall have put more
of the light in my court,,Im not trying to site here and be petty and
say my life is worse than yalls,,Im just glad theres a place where I can
come and just vent,,See friends are made in all different ways,,And I
feel like familys can be the same way as well,,the words from all of
yall that was writting here in reply of me venting,,was taken
deeply,,and
to the heart,,yes im a funny fucker as some of you say,,and really im
the crack up at most place,,if you need Ill show you just let me pull my
head out my ass so you can hear me better,,I like to stay funny,,and I
try to the up most respect the fact on ,,((A Smile A DAY Keeps AssHoles
Away,,)),,and its true,,if one can say hello to anothere think on how
that person would feel then when he does it,,or just opening a door for
a person,,shit they will think damn if its done for me,,it must feel
good for the next,,and do it them self,,and so on,,chain effect,,,of
feelings ,,and im tired of just having more then the feel of being upset
around her,,and not being able to show my funny side at time,,so thats
why I do it here,,to show people it is true you can be pissed off at one
person and still be there for the world on happiness,,,well I love yall
all here ,,thanks for the respect of seeing my feeling as yours,,it
means more then you think,,,,Your Mixed Brother With Smile For
All,,,Thomas ,,,xoxoxo to all--hand shakes for the GUYS,,,,yall no cute
enough to get a kiss,,lol,,,,

DAMN DOG
I FEEL YOUR PAIN
MY BABY MOTHER JUST BROKE IT OFF
WIT ME LIKE A MONTH AGO
ONE OF THE REASONS WAS CAUSE
IM NOT LOOKING TO EVER GET MARRIED
IMAGINE IF I DID MARRY HER

I BEEN HAD THINGS ABOUT HER
THAT MADE ME WANT TO LEAVE
BUT I STUCK IT OUT FOR OUR SON
SO HE COULD HAVE BOTH PARENTS
AND NOT BE ANOTHER BROKEN HOME STATISTIC

ITS ALL GOOD SHE GONNA SEE HER MISTAKE
CAUSE IM A GOOD MAN BUT
IM DESTIN TO BE A GREAT MAN
AND ITLL BE TO LATE


SO FUCK THE PAST JUST LEARN FROM IT
MAN UP HEAD UP AND MOVE FORWARD
THATS ALL WE CAN DO WITH THESE UNSTABLE CREATURES

YO IM NEW ON HERE YOU GOT ANY TIPS
IM TRYING TO MEET MORE FEMALES IN MY AREA
BUT THE SEARCH RESULTS ARE KIND OF LAME



EAZY

bummer! but it is what it is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!